Apparently I'm one of those men that are oblivious to flirting... So the question is, what do women do to flirt? How do we as men know when a flirt is innocent or when they want something out of it (relationship, drink, sex, whatever)? Is there such a thing as an innocent flirt?
How do you want a man to flirt with you? Can he also be innocent or does he want something (in your opinion as a woman)?
What lengths will women go to to flirt?
Well several times I've had boobs flashed at me. I think they were flirting. Also, there's the drunken screaming ';WHY DON'T YOU WANT TO F**K ME?!'; I think she was trying to suggest something.What lengths will women go to to flirt?
I will acknowledge you.
She will act cute or suggestive or giggly or just fun and friendly depending on the girl.
It can mean that she likes you
Is just having innocent fun
Wants to manipulate you
It can be a transaction that goes like this... I'll flirt with you and you show me that you are interested so I can boost my ego. End of transaction.
answers2 lol, yeah I forgot bending over so you can see down her top.
A woman is flirting if she looks at you and smiles, and you do not know her.
Assume that all flirting is innocent.
If you like her, smile back and say Hi!
There! That was easy!
There are some who are modest when they flirt, and then there are some who are very bold. The some of modest signs are:
If she continuously smile, bat her eyes, tries to get close to you, walks seductively when she knows your watching, treats you better than other guys, always finding ways to be alone with you, etc.
Some signs of the bold ones are:
She licks her tongue at you.
She's gets in your face as ask u some rhetorical question.
She shows you her stuff (I actually had this happen to me) Excessive cleavage or her underwear.
Her hand and body are always somehow touching you.
She always talks vividly about sex all the time.
She shows up at inappropriate times. (I had a girl in military appear in our share bathroom when its no way she could have not known someone was in the shower)
I think that flirting is a fun thing and should not be taken seriously.
Yes innocent but mischievous does happen all the time around fun people who are cool. I find it hard to practice my flirting skills because ever body is to dam uptight or needy.
Friday, August 20, 2010
How do you flirt with a man without seeming desperate?
A co-worker and I have great chemistry, but I want to move to the next step. How do I progress without seeming desperate?How do you flirt with a man without seeming desperate?
Just be smart about it.
Make a subtle joke like, 'too bad office romances never work'. and laugh.
See if he says something back. If he's not interested, he'll just say, 'yeah, too bad', and leave it at that.
Just don't flirt openly in front of colleagues. And if he's married, leave him alone.How do you flirt with a man without seeming desperate?
Don't BE desperate.
Realize that all of us have many choices. Both people must have roughly the same desirablity points. Just relax. Ask him to join you for a walk, a movie, dinner, something like that. Then see if the Chemistry is still good as you get to know him. Wanting a relationship and or good sex does not make you desperate, just human.
Just come right out and say something. It will save time and cause less embarrassment later.
ask him out for coffee or lunch sometime, or hand him your number and say call me sometime
Don't talk about marriage or anything serious. If a guy hears you talking as though you often think about relationships and marraige, he will think that you are looking for a relationship and marraige. The secret is, focus on work or working out or some other hobby so that looking for a guy doesn't seem like a priority. Then you won't worry about him so much.
Maybe ask him to do something like go to a party or go out with a group or something...then pay attention to him but make sure you have fun. To not be desperate you need to be able to have a good time without him...then he'll see that you're a fun girl to be with. Desperate=Needy, as in a girl who has to have A GUY to be happy. If you fit that mold, you should work on yourself before you worry about this guy.
Most girls like that settle for the first guy that comes along.
ask him out...as long as you do it without beggin from your knees, you'll be okay
Flirting (as opposed to being slutty ;) )is very simple, be confident, be attentive and be nice. You might want to step it up to being a bit cheeky after a while as well.
When he looks at you, suck on your fingers.
hummm well you already got good start with nurses outfit. just hurt you leg or something let him check it out for you maybe a sweet smile as he looks you over ,, see what his response is,.. or just the old fashion way,, ask him out , outside of work
ignore him a few times during the day.
talk to him and get close
let it go
don't pretend, actually become happy alone before you begin any romance
that's preferable... and then you have something of value
Very subtle!
I agree with being upfront about it...just not at work. make sure that your company doesn't have a rule about coworkers not dating first.
otherwise...good luck!!Can humans catch giardia from dogs house call
Just be smart about it.
Make a subtle joke like, 'too bad office romances never work'. and laugh.
See if he says something back. If he's not interested, he'll just say, 'yeah, too bad', and leave it at that.
Just don't flirt openly in front of colleagues. And if he's married, leave him alone.How do you flirt with a man without seeming desperate?
Don't BE desperate.
Realize that all of us have many choices. Both people must have roughly the same desirablity points. Just relax. Ask him to join you for a walk, a movie, dinner, something like that. Then see if the Chemistry is still good as you get to know him. Wanting a relationship and or good sex does not make you desperate, just human.
Just come right out and say something. It will save time and cause less embarrassment later.
ask him out for coffee or lunch sometime, or hand him your number and say call me sometime
Don't talk about marriage or anything serious. If a guy hears you talking as though you often think about relationships and marraige, he will think that you are looking for a relationship and marraige. The secret is, focus on work or working out or some other hobby so that looking for a guy doesn't seem like a priority. Then you won't worry about him so much.
Maybe ask him to do something like go to a party or go out with a group or something...then pay attention to him but make sure you have fun. To not be desperate you need to be able to have a good time without him...then he'll see that you're a fun girl to be with. Desperate=Needy, as in a girl who has to have A GUY to be happy. If you fit that mold, you should work on yourself before you worry about this guy.
Most girls like that settle for the first guy that comes along.
ask him out...as long as you do it without beggin from your knees, you'll be okay
Flirting (as opposed to being slutty ;) )is very simple, be confident, be attentive and be nice. You might want to step it up to being a bit cheeky after a while as well.
When he looks at you, suck on your fingers.
hummm well you already got good start with nurses outfit. just hurt you leg or something let him check it out for you maybe a sweet smile as he looks you over ,, see what his response is,.. or just the old fashion way,, ask him out , outside of work
ignore him a few times during the day.
talk to him and get close
let it go
don't pretend, actually become happy alone before you begin any romance
that's preferable... and then you have something of value
Very subtle!
I agree with being upfront about it...just not at work. make sure that your company doesn't have a rule about coworkers not dating first.
otherwise...good luck!!
I'm insecure with people flirting with me, I need advice.?
Recently, i've lost a large amount of weight, and afterwards people have been approaching me more. Men included. I'm flattered by the whistles and such, but two men walked up to me today when I was outside of my home, in the dark. Basically flirting with me. I quickly moved inside and told them to go to hell afterwards - Only to get scolded my by parents (I'm 15. 25+ old men flirting with me. Yeah, gross, I know.)
For someone in a vulnerable situation like that, how should I act? I know I should ignore them, but it's difficult when they're in front of me and my instinct has always been to lash out and fight back.I'm insecure with people flirting with me, I need advice.?
Reanna, Ill tell you something, when I was 15 I got a lotta looks because I was a really good looking guy back then. I had half the cheerleading squad flirting with me and I was blown away becuase I had always thought I was too skinny, and I never thought I was particularly special. I'm much older now and will tell you that striking out against these older men could be dangerous because you really don't know them or what they REALLY have in mind besides something sexual. If they touch you in an inappropriate way and are trying to molest you, go for the eyes or scrotum (nuts), even if it's someone you know. I say this because I was molested (felt-up) by an uncle once and it scarred me for some 30 years until I remebered the repressed memory of his big firemens body grinding up against my backside as I was standing at a sink at my aunts house. But don't strike out at just anyone because you don't want their attention. That could give rise to real hostility and violence. Just say ';no thanks'; and walk away if you can and you feel afreaid, to any unwanted attention. As far as thats concerened,most boys your age really want sex, and possibly a sexual relationship with friendship, or else they just want to be freinds. Go with those guys that want to take their time to get to know you, over months of time before you decide to do anything sexual. And please remember to not have sex within two weeks before your period and please remember to use protection. The last thing you want to do is to get pregnant before you finish your schooling or catch an STD. And one more thing, GO TO COLLEGE! you will earn more money in then long run, have more job security, and you will be better respected with a college degree. You can take out school loans at the worst and pay that back over 20-30 years time with affordable payments, ecspecially if you consolidate. Lastly,you should ask an older sister or cousin if you cant talk to your mom about this. God Bless you.
Sincerely jdvsp1d@yahoo.comI'm insecure with people flirting with me, I need advice.?
Your welcome kiddo. Sorry I didnt exactly anser your question but I hope you realized something about you.
Just don't go out in the dark at night and if strange people approach you during the day, keep your head down so they know you don't want to chat and keep walking.
That or just say you don't have time to talk right now.
I say enjoy the flirting. It's always nice to feel sexy! But be warned, most gusy are just trying to get into your pants. Enjoy the attention, but remain unattainable (this actually makes guys even MORE attracted to you)
I used to be thin and very popular. Then I gained weight. Alot of those guys that were my 'friends' seemed to disappear. A little part of me is afraid of losing the weight now becuase as long as I'm overweight, I know who my true friends are. I know that's strange ... but it's how I feel.
I don't know why you're lashing out, though. What is there is lash out about?
Ughh I hate when that happens. Old guys whistling and calling me things like ';baby'; or ';momma.'; I'm 16. I just ignore them and walk by fast and far enough so they can't grab me or anything. If they make you mad, feel free to fight back and say things. My friends also tell them to go to hell or the F-word.
get some pepper spray. i'm actually serious. if older guys are hitting on you, who by the way are probably much stronger than you, you need some form of protection just in case they are psychos. if you don't have anything to protect yourself run as fast as you can and make sure you never go to a remote area alone. always have someone with you where there aren't a lot of people around. if you're in a fairly crowded place, people will hear you if you need help. but i don't think it seems to be that serious, right? anyway, i for one think your parents were wrong---definitely lash out if you need to.
YES ,NO DOUBT U R VERY BEAUTIFUL THAT IS THE REASON THERE ARE MANY MEN AROUND U
FIRST OF ALL U USE SOME OILY MAKE UP SO THAT U DO NT LOOK MUCH BEAUTIFUL, ANOTHER THING IS THAT U MUST CONTROLL
UR ANGER.I BELEAVE U R VERY ANGRY PERSON SECONDLY BETTER GO OUT WITH UR ELDERS WHEN U GO OUT
ORELSE SOME GOOD FRIENDS(BOYS) WITH U THEN U CAN BE MUCH SAFE%26amp; TRY TO BE A BIT TALKTIVE SO THAT YOU R NOT MUCH CONCERN WITH WHO IS DOING WHAT
hey go for the best one u can trust for long term
and try out all the situations creating for that one
okey
hope u will be achiving ur gole soon
Well flirting is meant to be fun
If older guys creep you out, just give out negative body langage
Dont say anything to them....walk run away as fast as you can.........flirting back might get you raped...%26amp; saying something negative might also!
For someone in a vulnerable situation like that, how should I act? I know I should ignore them, but it's difficult when they're in front of me and my instinct has always been to lash out and fight back.I'm insecure with people flirting with me, I need advice.?
Reanna, Ill tell you something, when I was 15 I got a lotta looks because I was a really good looking guy back then. I had half the cheerleading squad flirting with me and I was blown away becuase I had always thought I was too skinny, and I never thought I was particularly special. I'm much older now and will tell you that striking out against these older men could be dangerous because you really don't know them or what they REALLY have in mind besides something sexual. If they touch you in an inappropriate way and are trying to molest you, go for the eyes or scrotum (nuts), even if it's someone you know. I say this because I was molested (felt-up) by an uncle once and it scarred me for some 30 years until I remebered the repressed memory of his big firemens body grinding up against my backside as I was standing at a sink at my aunts house. But don't strike out at just anyone because you don't want their attention. That could give rise to real hostility and violence. Just say ';no thanks'; and walk away if you can and you feel afreaid, to any unwanted attention. As far as thats concerened,most boys your age really want sex, and possibly a sexual relationship with friendship, or else they just want to be freinds. Go with those guys that want to take their time to get to know you, over months of time before you decide to do anything sexual. And please remember to not have sex within two weeks before your period and please remember to use protection. The last thing you want to do is to get pregnant before you finish your schooling or catch an STD. And one more thing, GO TO COLLEGE! you will earn more money in then long run, have more job security, and you will be better respected with a college degree. You can take out school loans at the worst and pay that back over 20-30 years time with affordable payments, ecspecially if you consolidate. Lastly,you should ask an older sister or cousin if you cant talk to your mom about this. God Bless you.
Sincerely jdvsp1d@yahoo.comI'm insecure with people flirting with me, I need advice.?
Your welcome kiddo. Sorry I didnt exactly anser your question but I hope you realized something about you.
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Just don't go out in the dark at night and if strange people approach you during the day, keep your head down so they know you don't want to chat and keep walking.
That or just say you don't have time to talk right now.
I say enjoy the flirting. It's always nice to feel sexy! But be warned, most gusy are just trying to get into your pants. Enjoy the attention, but remain unattainable (this actually makes guys even MORE attracted to you)
I used to be thin and very popular. Then I gained weight. Alot of those guys that were my 'friends' seemed to disappear. A little part of me is afraid of losing the weight now becuase as long as I'm overweight, I know who my true friends are. I know that's strange ... but it's how I feel.
I don't know why you're lashing out, though. What is there is lash out about?
Ughh I hate when that happens. Old guys whistling and calling me things like ';baby'; or ';momma.'; I'm 16. I just ignore them and walk by fast and far enough so they can't grab me or anything. If they make you mad, feel free to fight back and say things. My friends also tell them to go to hell or the F-word.
get some pepper spray. i'm actually serious. if older guys are hitting on you, who by the way are probably much stronger than you, you need some form of protection just in case they are psychos. if you don't have anything to protect yourself run as fast as you can and make sure you never go to a remote area alone. always have someone with you where there aren't a lot of people around. if you're in a fairly crowded place, people will hear you if you need help. but i don't think it seems to be that serious, right? anyway, i for one think your parents were wrong---definitely lash out if you need to.
YES ,NO DOUBT U R VERY BEAUTIFUL THAT IS THE REASON THERE ARE MANY MEN AROUND U
FIRST OF ALL U USE SOME OILY MAKE UP SO THAT U DO NT LOOK MUCH BEAUTIFUL, ANOTHER THING IS THAT U MUST CONTROLL
UR ANGER.I BELEAVE U R VERY ANGRY PERSON SECONDLY BETTER GO OUT WITH UR ELDERS WHEN U GO OUT
ORELSE SOME GOOD FRIENDS(BOYS) WITH U THEN U CAN BE MUCH SAFE%26amp; TRY TO BE A BIT TALKTIVE SO THAT YOU R NOT MUCH CONCERN WITH WHO IS DOING WHAT
hey go for the best one u can trust for long term
and try out all the situations creating for that one
okey
hope u will be achiving ur gole soon
Well flirting is meant to be fun
If older guys creep you out, just give out negative body langage
Dont say anything to them....walk run away as fast as you can.........flirting back might get you raped...%26amp; saying something negative might also!
Ladies, how do you like a man flirting with you?
My friend seems to have his way with the ladies. When I see him talk to them, he is always very playful and never talks about a serious subject with them..he always teases them about their hair, what they say, their dress, or something else and playfully bumps his shoulder into them..eventually they playfully slap him and then before you know it, he leaves the bar or wherever we hang out with the woman in his arms. Is this how you want a man to flirt with you?Ladies, how do you like a man flirting with you?
If a girl wants to get laid, then yes that would be the way. But when guys do that, its usully for a one night stand. So if your looking for a realtionship then thats definetly not the way to do it, But if your lookin for somethin else then your friends way is the way to go.Ladies, how do you like a man flirting with you?
If your a slut. I dont think you should try to find girls at the bar unless your just getting them for sex. If you want a real relationship with a woman find a different place and be polite nice and funny.
If a girl wants to get laid, then yes that would be the way. But when guys do that, its usully for a one night stand. So if your looking for a realtionship then thats definetly not the way to do it, But if your lookin for somethin else then your friends way is the way to go.Ladies, how do you like a man flirting with you?
If your a slut. I dont think you should try to find girls at the bar unless your just getting them for sex. If you want a real relationship with a woman find a different place and be polite nice and funny.
Why is it so easy for you men online to flirt with so many women....?
yet claim to only care about one of them? How should I view a man that tries to be a ladies man all the time with all women, yet he wants one person to feel like his attention towards her is unique?? Is it really? Or is he just playing??Why is it so easy for you men online to flirt with so many women....?
We'll first things first.
realize a bunch of these tricks might be flirting with him. not vice-versa. of course if he is flirting back you have reason to be upset.
in my profile info I state ';I have a girlfriend'; yet so many girls leave flirty messages or will IM me. but I dont even give them so much as a responce. maybe a thumbs up...if they're lucky.
another thing.... theres nothing impressive about being an online pimp.
nothing,.Why is it so easy for you men online to flirt with so many women....?
Playing is fun. I have an internet policy of believing anything that anyone tells me.
He's evil, ignore him, or you'll end up for sale on craigslist like the rest... :S
(the rest, I'm reffering to the rest of the women he flirts with)
Tell me who it is... I must know... :P~
As an online pimp
(and you know it's impressive)
';How you doin', babe?';
Personally I think that it can't be true if he's making EACH of the girls feel unique. I think that person would come off as not only a fake %26amp; a phoney, but a liar. Then again I know exactly what you are talking about so it's really unfair for me to answer. It's kinda nice that you asked this question to see what other people think. It's one thing to flirt online %26amp; make someone feel special, but to tell them all they are the only one they are doing this with is wrong. Only my opinion though....it may be wrong.
Men and women love to flirt and it can be tough sometimes to avoid it even when you are not looking to flirt with anyone. It seems to be a natural instinct in people that when someone begins to show even a subtle interest in you that you instantly turn on the charm and begin flirting with them whether you are spoken for or not. Flirting is often seen as harmless but isn鈥檛 that it all starts normally :-)
We'll first things first.
realize a bunch of these tricks might be flirting with him. not vice-versa. of course if he is flirting back you have reason to be upset.
in my profile info I state ';I have a girlfriend'; yet so many girls leave flirty messages or will IM me. but I dont even give them so much as a responce. maybe a thumbs up...if they're lucky.
another thing.... theres nothing impressive about being an online pimp.
nothing,.Why is it so easy for you men online to flirt with so many women....?
Playing is fun. I have an internet policy of believing anything that anyone tells me.
He's evil, ignore him, or you'll end up for sale on craigslist like the rest... :S
(the rest, I'm reffering to the rest of the women he flirts with)
Tell me who it is... I must know... :P~
As an online pimp
(and you know it's impressive)
';How you doin', babe?';
Personally I think that it can't be true if he's making EACH of the girls feel unique. I think that person would come off as not only a fake %26amp; a phoney, but a liar. Then again I know exactly what you are talking about so it's really unfair for me to answer. It's kinda nice that you asked this question to see what other people think. It's one thing to flirt online %26amp; make someone feel special, but to tell them all they are the only one they are doing this with is wrong. Only my opinion though....it may be wrong.
Men and women love to flirt and it can be tough sometimes to avoid it even when you are not looking to flirt with anyone. It seems to be a natural instinct in people that when someone begins to show even a subtle interest in you that you instantly turn on the charm and begin flirting with them whether you are spoken for or not. Flirting is often seen as harmless but isn鈥檛 that it all starts normally :-)
Is this man flirting with me?
I want to know if my doctor is flirting w me. Everytime I go in, he seems especially happy to see me, and on one occasion I emailed him to see if I should come in for an appointment, for a simple infection that he already knew what it was b/c of the symptoms i gave him, and it couldve been treated with an anitbiotic given over the phone. He said, 'yes come see me', and when i got there the next day, he walked past my room while helping the person before me, and doubled back once he saw me and peeked his head in and said 'hey there!' really enthusiastically with a huge smile. then since he didnt have a thermometer on hand, to see if i had a fever, before he went to get a thermometer, he put his arm around me to see if I was warm. then after I leave everytime, he puts his hand on my back and leaves it there. then he always brings up commonalities between us, and never leaves any room for silence. like how he was supposed to go see my school's team play in the playoffs the next wkend (which was located hours and hours away), but couldnt cause he had to work, or how he responds to my emails so quick (just to name a few.) he also said ';email me if you need anything while your away!'; i dont know what to think. he has a daughter 2 years younger than me, and I know from a friend who has a parent that works with him that his wife just gave him divorce papers. (he never talks about the wife) I'm obviously not looking for a relationship out of it, I just want to know what the intentions are, (kind of have a crush on him) and if i'm reading him correctly...and I think it'd be fun to flirt back and see what happens. The age doesnt bother me (me, 21, him 46) and I want to know how to flirt back, because I know that even if they are interested they cant really make the first move because of doctor/patient rules.
dont need any criticisms and not looking for a relationship or to break up a family. just trying to get my facts straight and get some advice on how to actIs this man flirting with me?
unless he does something really obvious, like asking you out, yo can never tell, some people are just always that enthusiastic and friendly, but others are not, you'd have to find out how he acts around others, only then you could compare. But then again maybe yo just seem so nice and friendly that he acts more nice around you, for a simple reason that you give him a positive impression.
dont need any criticisms and not looking for a relationship or to break up a family. just trying to get my facts straight and get some advice on how to actIs this man flirting with me?
unless he does something really obvious, like asking you out, yo can never tell, some people are just always that enthusiastic and friendly, but others are not, you'd have to find out how he acts around others, only then you could compare. But then again maybe yo just seem so nice and friendly that he acts more nice around you, for a simple reason that you give him a positive impression.
Man flirts like crazy, but won't ask me out...?
I've been friends with this man for 6 or 7 months. We've been getting a lot closer since January. I've always been attracted to him, but now really want to pursue some type of relationship with him. I know that he likes me back. How much, I don't know. But I know. We've been hanging out as friends in a group for a long time now, and even kinda went out once, and I ended up sleeping over at his place. But we didn't kiss or anything. I should have kissed him though! And I think wanted to also. Now I'm afraid that I am going to slip into the friend category.... I told him this weekend I was going out and that ';I would really like it'; if he would come! He was out of town and wasn't sure when he was going to get back. He told me he'd let me know. And he never did!!! I refuse to email/call/text him again.
Has he stopped liking me? Is he just intimidated by me because I'm older? Why are men so frustrating???Man flirts like crazy, but won't ask me out...?
you might have to go after him cuz he might just be shy with this kind of thingMan flirts like crazy, but won't ask me out...?
well guys are like that. they like to play with our feelings! i think he does still like you but it sounds like to me he is a player. be careful with them! and i know how you feel about being older than the guy you are attracted to because im older than the guy i like and he is to shy to ask me out. so i think that you should just talk to him and be like what's up... just to see what happens.
Has he stopped liking me? Is he just intimidated by me because I'm older? Why are men so frustrating???Man flirts like crazy, but won't ask me out...?
you might have to go after him cuz he might just be shy with this kind of thingMan flirts like crazy, but won't ask me out...?
well guys are like that. they like to play with our feelings! i think he does still like you but it sounds like to me he is a player. be careful with them! and i know how you feel about being older than the guy you are attracted to because im older than the guy i like and he is to shy to ask me out. so i think that you should just talk to him and be like what's up... just to see what happens.
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