My boyfriend is 17. In a couple of days we would have been together for 13 mths. He says he loves me n everything, but he is out of town right now, and last night he came to me with some bullshit. He was like ';this girl was flirting with me, she was all over me.'; In my mind I was thinking, young men flirt with me all the time, what's the big deal and why are you telling me about this. He then explains what happened and my only thought was did you one ever tell her you had a girlfriend. Well, he did tell her, but you know homewrecking hoes don't care. He starts telling me he doesnt know what to do and about TEMPTATION. I'm like WTF that's exactly why he doesnt ever get any, and i dont plan to give him any. i barely let him touch me. He is immature and childish. I love him bu t when it comes to stuff like that i dont know what to think. I wish this had come up sooner, maybe i wouldnt be where i am today. What should I do?? How should I respond??
PS. i'm 16;yes i aready told him off!Temptations of a 17 year old.?
lol you just yelled at a horny guy for being horny. instead of telling him why he needs to control himself because he is with you, you told him why he shouldn't be with you. I would break up with you this instant, and it's not even about the sex, it's about your inability to keep me interested in you because of your lack of compassion to the way I am feeling, feeling as in my hormones in overdrive.
EDIT: I'm an in shock people here are condoning your behavior. It's not always about you. Yes he needs to respect you, but he called you to and told you about these temptations for you to remind him why it is to be with you. You need to cool it, and be happy he called you. I know many other who would out right cheat in this situation. This is something you reward, not punish.Temptations of a 17 year old.?
Sounds to me he was trying to impress on you that other girls can be interested in him in an attempt to get you to be more receptive in the sexual area. Getting you a bit jealous,in his mind, may tempt you into doing something with him. He's being a jerk trying to be coy.
have a nice private chat with him and tell him to calm down his hormones. stop being so outrageously horny and relax. then once hes done with his puberty, since he obviously started very late, then maybe he'll truly love you.
Your 16 and you already spent over a year of your life with one person. Let me explain the concept of dating. You are supposed to date as many people as possible(notice i didn't say have sex) You have to figure out what you like in a person. I guarantee you will like something completely different in 5 years.
P.S. Don't sleep with him.
He is a boy and is immature, but he still wants to wag the dog, with or without you. Don't do anything to keep him. I'm just telling you the why.
Leave the relationship, it is unequal, find your own way to get what you want. Women generally are too dictated to by society to know what they want for themselves. Choose your own path in your own time.
Shay
You should tell him that it doesn't matter if she started flirting first... he flirted back... so it makes him just as guilty!!! what the f*** is wrong with f****** people in this f***** up world?!?!? I f****** swear to f****** everyone..... these f***** people need to get their f***** heads out of the f***** gutters!!!! Can you plz best answer me? Sry bout the f words!!!!:)
WoW! you have been together for a year and you guys have not done anything? Thats so good! I'm proud of you! But here is something that my guy friend told me.They said that if a guy is not getting from you, he will go and get from somebody else. I don't know what else to say.Some guys can be different, but he is telling you that so that if it happens, he can say that he told you. I don't know hun, if you don't want to do it, I would let him go cuz it seems like he really wants it.
i would say that u don't like him doing things like that and if he feels like he is doing nothing wrong he think if he really wants to be with you or not give him time to think about it and ask him for an answer later. if he says he can't stop then dumb him if not try to work it out good luck
tell him to get more mature, and stop being with hoes, or he isn't getting any, or you'll leave him
he should get the hint
key words: stop you little temptations or you wont be getting any of this.
Dump him, he doesn't love you. He does it to make you think you have the ';thing'; every girl wants. You need to move on, he doesn't care about you, he especially implied it with ';temptation';
Good luck, youll find someone who DOES truly care about you!
if he says he doesn't know to handle temptation, then he has already done something, if you are unhappy, leave him, you are still young and have more than enough time in your life to find someone else.
Well, seriously, just be yourself babe! (:
Love is unconditional and i believe that he should love you for who you are, not what you have.
It may be tough, but, the final decision lies with you.
%26amp;i think you did a GOOD job telling him off!
he's dumb. tell him to grow up and realize how lucky he is to have you, even if you don't ';give him any.'; if he can't see that, then leave him.
Friday, August 20, 2010
Question about male ';cockteasers';?
They knows he can play with gay men (flirt etc) because they wouldn't be able to do this with his other male pals. They like the idea that you find them attractive but know they will never sleep with you and will remind you how hot the ladies are. Whats your opinion on them? Are they 100% straight?Question about male ';cockteasers';?
I've noticed some straight guys will do that too! If they see me checking them out, they will play along and smile at me or grab their crotch etc. I think they just like attention and think it's a compliment. I asked a question about that too. http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>Question about male ';cockteasers';?
Do they blink incessantly while eating oatmeal? Without this info. I cannot guess.
I actually like the ';cock-teasers'; they make me feel pretty good about myself, and if your smoother than they are, you beat them at their own game and leave their apartment walking funny.Can humans catch giardia from dogs house call
I've noticed some straight guys will do that too! If they see me checking them out, they will play along and smile at me or grab their crotch etc. I think they just like attention and think it's a compliment. I asked a question about that too. http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>Question about male ';cockteasers';?
Do they blink incessantly while eating oatmeal? Without this info. I cannot guess.
I actually like the ';cock-teasers'; they make me feel pretty good about myself, and if your smoother than they are, you beat them at their own game and leave their apartment walking funny.
What should I do about my friend?
Jus to give a background about our appearances and personalities. I am of Slavic descent, high cheekbones, very pale eyes and pitch black hair cut in what one would call the Cleopatra style. People constantly call me exotic and beautiful. My friend is the typical girl-next-door and she has big boobs - a DD cup. While people refer to me as 'exotic', they treat her like a pair of t*ts on legs. She is bright, quick, witty, great to have a conversation with, outgoing, the life of the party and an extrovert but nobody seems to look past her boobs - men and women alike. We are the same weight but people refer to her as 'hefty' and 'big' and 'fat' because of her boobs.
Going out with her is a terrible experience because all the men flirt with me whilst they leer down her shirt. I can see that it hurts her a lot because it's been happening to her all her life. It really grates me to her see her treated like that, and she has told me on a number of occasions that she would rather look like me.
What can I do to take the attention off me and transfer it to her? I'm not someone who is flirty and have often been called an ice queen which makes men even more determined to break past the ice, whereas she is desperately looking for someone who will look past her boobs to the wonderful person who is inside? How can I help her?
I wish I had this magic wand to make it all better.What should I do about my friend?
The fundamental paradox is that the larger the boobs, the smaller the brains of the men they attract.
';Anatomy is destiny.'; Sigmund Freud said that.
When I was in the hunt, if I tried for the more attractive girl in a duo, I ordinarily ended up with her friend. Usually the friend was more interesting and fun anyway, so that was fine with me.
I don't see how you can solve her problem, or why it is your responsibility.What should I do about my friend?
i know how your friend is feeling as i am usualy classed as the chubby brunett that hangs out with the skinny big boobed blonde. maybe if you dressed a little less than equal to your friend it might give her the confidence to make men look above the chest?
im not really sure cuz i dont personally no ur friend
Most gals would die for her kind of boobs! Ask her to ignore the leering ones. Be proud of herself and dress up classy
well mmm i think that u should try and be a good friend as much as possible and show them wat you are mad of .
can you im me, maybe we can talk about it
Possibly dress down? You that is,
The same thing happens to me. I am 14 and a DD cup. Guys only talk to me about my boobs and many of them try to feel them. They don't actually like me for who I am, just for my boobs. I have been trying to find out for AGES how to distract them, but I can think of nothing!
The only thing I could suggest is get your friend to wear clothes that don't show her boobs off!
Hope this helps xx :)
Going out with her is a terrible experience because all the men flirt with me whilst they leer down her shirt. I can see that it hurts her a lot because it's been happening to her all her life. It really grates me to her see her treated like that, and she has told me on a number of occasions that she would rather look like me.
What can I do to take the attention off me and transfer it to her? I'm not someone who is flirty and have often been called an ice queen which makes men even more determined to break past the ice, whereas she is desperately looking for someone who will look past her boobs to the wonderful person who is inside? How can I help her?
I wish I had this magic wand to make it all better.What should I do about my friend?
The fundamental paradox is that the larger the boobs, the smaller the brains of the men they attract.
';Anatomy is destiny.'; Sigmund Freud said that.
When I was in the hunt, if I tried for the more attractive girl in a duo, I ordinarily ended up with her friend. Usually the friend was more interesting and fun anyway, so that was fine with me.
I don't see how you can solve her problem, or why it is your responsibility.What should I do about my friend?
i know how your friend is feeling as i am usualy classed as the chubby brunett that hangs out with the skinny big boobed blonde. maybe if you dressed a little less than equal to your friend it might give her the confidence to make men look above the chest?
im not really sure cuz i dont personally no ur friend
Most gals would die for her kind of boobs! Ask her to ignore the leering ones. Be proud of herself and dress up classy
well mmm i think that u should try and be a good friend as much as possible and show them wat you are mad of .
can you im me, maybe we can talk about it
Possibly dress down? You that is,
The same thing happens to me. I am 14 and a DD cup. Guys only talk to me about my boobs and many of them try to feel them. They don't actually like me for who I am, just for my boobs. I have been trying to find out for AGES how to distract them, but I can think of nothing!
The only thing I could suggest is get your friend to wear clothes that don't show her boobs off!
Hope this helps xx :)
How can I trust him a second time? What do you think of all of this?
So this past year has been very rocky for my husband and I. I was at my husbands military christmas party and one of his lady co-workers seemed to be acting very strange. I felt funny about it. When we drove home I asked my husband about it. I also asked him how he felt about her. He casually said, ';he was close to her, No really close to her';. I about dropped my jaw at him saying that so openly. I talked to him about it and asked him what he meant and he said, ';we're just friends close friends from being in the same platoon together for so many years.'; I still didn't feel very good about it, So I got snoopy. (No Im not proud of it) But glad I did. I found in his e-mail that he left open on accident that he was e-mailing her and asking to have lunch with her at drill weekends. He was e-mailing her regularly. The e-mail did just seem friendly - not sexual or anything, but he would say maybe we can have lunch this weekend. Then I found he was also signed up for a Adult web site. Which REALLY HURT. I have always loved my husband and been faithful to him so this was a blow to me. Because I had already forgave him for cheating on me when we lived over seas in Italy. He went to school (in the military) and on his off time he would go to a bar and drink with another Navy guy and was sitting with two ladies which over the five weeks turned into dancing and kissing. I was so hurt the first time because I was pregnant at the time and far from all my family. Took a long time to get over but he promised it would NEVER EVER happen again. So to get back to the recent.....I am having a hard time dealing with all of this again. He swere's he did nothing with the lady from the military other than a dinner and talking at lunch and swere's most of the time other people from the platoon was there.
But then I found out he was flirting with ladies on Myspace, man things just kept getting worse. I was going crazy. I even found a saved phone number from an old girlfriend. He said they messaged each other on classmates and then later looked her number up and saved it in his work phone, but that he never used it. How do I trust him. He has given all his codes to me and swere's I am his only one. But I know Cheaters will lie till they go to their GRAVE. So I am always on my toes. We have been to counseling a few times, it did help, But I am still having a hard time.....He promised me the first time he cheated he would never be with a lady alone again, but then he went to dinner with her and lied to me about it, He says, He lied to me because he knew i'd be mad and there was nothing to the dinner, but friendship.
He gets very mad at me when I bring up his past, or when i tell him I don't trust him. He just doesn't get what he has destoried. We are very very close as a couple, (I know that sounds weird) But we are always holding hands, kissing and everyone tells us how cute we are as a couple and wish they could find a relationship like that. Yes our sex life is GREAT also. At least everyday and usually more than that. Yes we have four kids. Yes we have to be creative. We have been married 19 1/2 years now. But I just don't know what to think. Does he really love me, Why do men flirt with women ';IF THEY LOVE THERE WIFES SO MUCH'; I JUST DONT KNOW IF I CAN EVER TRUST HIM AGAIN. I LOVE HIM WITH ALL MY HEART. But I feel like things will never be the same again. We have a week or two that goes great and then all my frustrations come back from a flash back. How does one EVER REALLY know if someone is truely sorry????????? I wish I could really know if he love's me. I cry often, but he doesn't know it. I cry because I miss (the KNOWING my husband LOVED ME) It's a feeling I wish I could get back.
I haven't told anyone about all this (except the counselor) and I have to always acted like my marriage is great to our family etc. I don't want everyone to know what he has done. One its embarrasing for me and I don't want anyone to think badly of him. I know thats sounds stupid. But You gotta understand I LOVE HIM and I don't want him hurt in anyway. We have enough pain between us dealing with it than to involve others. Also another reason is our son went though Cancer for a year and We've had enough pain, so envolving others just would add to it. This is way I am sharing it here. I need to get it out. I know he doesn't want to loose ';US'; when I mentioned leaving him he feel apart crying begging me not to leave. But I am so confused. HELP!!!!!!! Does he LOVE ME??????How can I trust him a second time? What do you think of all of this?
It sounds like you don't have any problem with sharing your feelings. Have you talked with your husband about this with him in front of the counselor? What does the counselor think about your feelings about your husband cheating? Or your presumptions of him cheating?
19 years is a lot of time to let things like this go. I would suggest that you get some help and talk your feelings out first with a Godly counselor (because a worldly person might say that it is alright for your husband to feel this way), the world is getting stranger and stranger about marriage and relationships. We as a Nation should stand up to the things that are wrong and announce that we are not going to allow this into our homes and lives.
I will pray for your marriage and salvation in Jesus Christ. : )
Are you both Christians? I would seek God's answers for your lives. God has saved my marriage and now I answer to God directly and my wife gets the benefit of having a Godly man who leads his family with the Grace and Mercy God shows me to live.
I would read Romans and Corinthians. Start with Corinthians chapter seven and then move on to thirteen, then read Romans. God will direct your paths, so trust in Him. : )How can I trust him a second time? What do you think of all of this?
Divorce him. Tell him he had chances to prove he's trustworthy and he blew everyone of those chances.
To me, if it was just the woman on the email wanting to meet him for lunch, I wouldn't worry. It sounds like they are just good friends.
When you say he signed up for an adult site, do you mean a dating site or a porn site? If it's porn, just let it go. Nearly all men look at porn, and it's not a reflection on you. It doesn't mean he doesn't love you or doesn't find you attractive. Men (and some women) just like the visual stimulation sometimes.
If you're talking about an adult dating site, then that is a problem. To me, it would be counseling, or I am out of there. There's no reason to be on an adult dating site unless you are looking to cheat.
As for the myspace, it depends. Is he really flirting, or is he just friendly? Does he know these people, or is he seeking out random people on the internet?
If he's just friendly or talking to friends, I wouldn't worry. But if he's actively seeking out women on the internet, that's a cause for concern. And again, it would be counseling, or I'm out.
I can honestly tell you that this kind of behavior does not stop. You are reduced to the lowly status of a woman who is just hanging on to a cheating man, until further notice. And only HE can give you the further notice. And he won't. With 99% certainty. Faithful life is just too undramatic to ever go back to. There is no motivation for that. In fact, he'd even prefer the drama of a divorce than a faithful working marriage. Counseling is just yet another drama making him feel powerful. He'll feel some loss from the divorce, but he'll like the drama of it, and he'll welcome the following freedom.
First of all you should be proud you snooped. If you want to know something you got to do what you got to do to find out. Secondly, you NEED to tell your husband exactly how you feel about everything. Unless he gets your pain he cannot fix his actions because he stupidly is not realizing the consequences to his behavior. Talk to him. If your marriage has this great foundation he will get it. Good for you for being brave enough to snoop and confront him. Good luck!
I can't tell you whether or not he loves you because I'm not him. I would encourage you to return to couples therapy and let him hear some of the pain in your heart that you have shared here. I would also encourage you to continue in individual therapy because you need to love yourself MORE than you love your husband! You are in such obvious pain that I'm sure you are not hiding it as well as you think you are from your friends and family, so go back to couples therapy and remain in individual therapy, maybe step up your program or something. Right now you need a major source of support and some better coping mechanisms in place to help you sort through all of this. Good luck to you!
I would tell him he needs to stop the relationship or I am out. Because the past infidelity started kind of like this and grew into cheating so under the circumstances he shouldn't be emailing or having any types of sit downs with females. If he can't handle that and deal with it then his friendship must mean more than his marriage and that is unacceptable. Besides since when does a person who is '; just a friend '; with no other interest act funny around a spouse. Even if they are not sleeping together they have to forming some sort of bond.
No Need to worry the law and its system will completely help you it is the men who need to ask the question
If you suspect your spouse of cheating on you, you'll want to read this
I think you guys need to get rid of your computer, or get really slow internet which will loose interest quickly ( like dial up internet) to keep him away from any situations for him to cheat
I think I understand the feeling completely, you really sound like me so it is not peculiar to you. It's hard to say but men are naturally flirtatious in character, there is however, an exception to the rule. If you can, check on him less so you won't be more hurt. Tell him how much you hurt knowing that he does these things. Let me shock you, most men don't cheat their wives because they love them less, it's just in their nature, they probably don't think about their wives until the did is done and he is exposed, then they will now realise the consequences of their actions. Just pray. that's what I did, it may not work out immediately but it will at the long run. Good luck
Sorry but the vast majority of men cheat! That's the way of the world. I'm a single lady who aims to stay single as such i choose married men! Just because they're doing the same as me, having fun and they won't get all heavy on me and believe me there are loads of married men out there willing to play away and treat me like a princess! As for adult sites, if you mean porn so what? arn't all men interested in porn? What's the harm in that? Does he love you? i suspect you're comfortable to him. It's a roof over his head, meals cooked, clothes washed, family life. Will he cheat again? probably. But he's still coming home to you. You say you love him with all your heart so presumably, you've looked after yourself for him, still slim, still wear makeup, fancy undies and you're still willing to tease him and do nice things for him? If the answer to all that is yes then relax, he may have a fling but he'll probably stick around. If the answer is no, then maybe while you're addressing the issues about him you could take out some time to address those issues about yourself. If more WIVES remembered to stay LOVERS less men would have affairs. Good luck.
But then I found out he was flirting with ladies on Myspace, man things just kept getting worse. I was going crazy. I even found a saved phone number from an old girlfriend. He said they messaged each other on classmates and then later looked her number up and saved it in his work phone, but that he never used it. How do I trust him. He has given all his codes to me and swere's I am his only one. But I know Cheaters will lie till they go to their GRAVE. So I am always on my toes. We have been to counseling a few times, it did help, But I am still having a hard time.....He promised me the first time he cheated he would never be with a lady alone again, but then he went to dinner with her and lied to me about it, He says, He lied to me because he knew i'd be mad and there was nothing to the dinner, but friendship.
He gets very mad at me when I bring up his past, or when i tell him I don't trust him. He just doesn't get what he has destoried. We are very very close as a couple, (I know that sounds weird) But we are always holding hands, kissing and everyone tells us how cute we are as a couple and wish they could find a relationship like that. Yes our sex life is GREAT also. At least everyday and usually more than that. Yes we have four kids. Yes we have to be creative. We have been married 19 1/2 years now. But I just don't know what to think. Does he really love me, Why do men flirt with women ';IF THEY LOVE THERE WIFES SO MUCH'; I JUST DONT KNOW IF I CAN EVER TRUST HIM AGAIN. I LOVE HIM WITH ALL MY HEART. But I feel like things will never be the same again. We have a week or two that goes great and then all my frustrations come back from a flash back. How does one EVER REALLY know if someone is truely sorry????????? I wish I could really know if he love's me. I cry often, but he doesn't know it. I cry because I miss (the KNOWING my husband LOVED ME) It's a feeling I wish I could get back.
I haven't told anyone about all this (except the counselor) and I have to always acted like my marriage is great to our family etc. I don't want everyone to know what he has done. One its embarrasing for me and I don't want anyone to think badly of him. I know thats sounds stupid. But You gotta understand I LOVE HIM and I don't want him hurt in anyway. We have enough pain between us dealing with it than to involve others. Also another reason is our son went though Cancer for a year and We've had enough pain, so envolving others just would add to it. This is way I am sharing it here. I need to get it out. I know he doesn't want to loose ';US'; when I mentioned leaving him he feel apart crying begging me not to leave. But I am so confused. HELP!!!!!!! Does he LOVE ME??????How can I trust him a second time? What do you think of all of this?
It sounds like you don't have any problem with sharing your feelings. Have you talked with your husband about this with him in front of the counselor? What does the counselor think about your feelings about your husband cheating? Or your presumptions of him cheating?
19 years is a lot of time to let things like this go. I would suggest that you get some help and talk your feelings out first with a Godly counselor (because a worldly person might say that it is alright for your husband to feel this way), the world is getting stranger and stranger about marriage and relationships. We as a Nation should stand up to the things that are wrong and announce that we are not going to allow this into our homes and lives.
I will pray for your marriage and salvation in Jesus Christ. : )
Are you both Christians? I would seek God's answers for your lives. God has saved my marriage and now I answer to God directly and my wife gets the benefit of having a Godly man who leads his family with the Grace and Mercy God shows me to live.
I would read Romans and Corinthians. Start with Corinthians chapter seven and then move on to thirteen, then read Romans. God will direct your paths, so trust in Him. : )How can I trust him a second time? What do you think of all of this?
Divorce him. Tell him he had chances to prove he's trustworthy and he blew everyone of those chances.
To me, if it was just the woman on the email wanting to meet him for lunch, I wouldn't worry. It sounds like they are just good friends.
When you say he signed up for an adult site, do you mean a dating site or a porn site? If it's porn, just let it go. Nearly all men look at porn, and it's not a reflection on you. It doesn't mean he doesn't love you or doesn't find you attractive. Men (and some women) just like the visual stimulation sometimes.
If you're talking about an adult dating site, then that is a problem. To me, it would be counseling, or I am out of there. There's no reason to be on an adult dating site unless you are looking to cheat.
As for the myspace, it depends. Is he really flirting, or is he just friendly? Does he know these people, or is he seeking out random people on the internet?
If he's just friendly or talking to friends, I wouldn't worry. But if he's actively seeking out women on the internet, that's a cause for concern. And again, it would be counseling, or I'm out.
I can honestly tell you that this kind of behavior does not stop. You are reduced to the lowly status of a woman who is just hanging on to a cheating man, until further notice. And only HE can give you the further notice. And he won't. With 99% certainty. Faithful life is just too undramatic to ever go back to. There is no motivation for that. In fact, he'd even prefer the drama of a divorce than a faithful working marriage. Counseling is just yet another drama making him feel powerful. He'll feel some loss from the divorce, but he'll like the drama of it, and he'll welcome the following freedom.
First of all you should be proud you snooped. If you want to know something you got to do what you got to do to find out. Secondly, you NEED to tell your husband exactly how you feel about everything. Unless he gets your pain he cannot fix his actions because he stupidly is not realizing the consequences to his behavior. Talk to him. If your marriage has this great foundation he will get it. Good for you for being brave enough to snoop and confront him. Good luck!
I can't tell you whether or not he loves you because I'm not him. I would encourage you to return to couples therapy and let him hear some of the pain in your heart that you have shared here. I would also encourage you to continue in individual therapy because you need to love yourself MORE than you love your husband! You are in such obvious pain that I'm sure you are not hiding it as well as you think you are from your friends and family, so go back to couples therapy and remain in individual therapy, maybe step up your program or something. Right now you need a major source of support and some better coping mechanisms in place to help you sort through all of this. Good luck to you!
I would tell him he needs to stop the relationship or I am out. Because the past infidelity started kind of like this and grew into cheating so under the circumstances he shouldn't be emailing or having any types of sit downs with females. If he can't handle that and deal with it then his friendship must mean more than his marriage and that is unacceptable. Besides since when does a person who is '; just a friend '; with no other interest act funny around a spouse. Even if they are not sleeping together they have to forming some sort of bond.
No Need to worry the law and its system will completely help you it is the men who need to ask the question
If you suspect your spouse of cheating on you, you'll want to read this
I think you guys need to get rid of your computer, or get really slow internet which will loose interest quickly ( like dial up internet) to keep him away from any situations for him to cheat
I think I understand the feeling completely, you really sound like me so it is not peculiar to you. It's hard to say but men are naturally flirtatious in character, there is however, an exception to the rule. If you can, check on him less so you won't be more hurt. Tell him how much you hurt knowing that he does these things. Let me shock you, most men don't cheat their wives because they love them less, it's just in their nature, they probably don't think about their wives until the did is done and he is exposed, then they will now realise the consequences of their actions. Just pray. that's what I did, it may not work out immediately but it will at the long run. Good luck
Sorry but the vast majority of men cheat! That's the way of the world. I'm a single lady who aims to stay single as such i choose married men! Just because they're doing the same as me, having fun and they won't get all heavy on me and believe me there are loads of married men out there willing to play away and treat me like a princess! As for adult sites, if you mean porn so what? arn't all men interested in porn? What's the harm in that? Does he love you? i suspect you're comfortable to him. It's a roof over his head, meals cooked, clothes washed, family life. Will he cheat again? probably. But he's still coming home to you. You say you love him with all your heart so presumably, you've looked after yourself for him, still slim, still wear makeup, fancy undies and you're still willing to tease him and do nice things for him? If the answer to all that is yes then relax, he may have a fling but he'll probably stick around. If the answer is no, then maybe while you're addressing the issues about him you could take out some time to address those issues about yourself. If more WIVES remembered to stay LOVERS less men would have affairs. Good luck.
Am I gay??????
I accidently booked a trip on a gay cruiseship and I wanted to return the tickets but I was told there are no refunds so I decided I'm not going to waste my money, I might as well go, gay people can't be that bad. So I went and I actually had fun for a while, I can't believe how much energy gay people have and how horny they are, jeez I had at least 20 gay men flirt with me but I told them the truth that I was straight so they said that's not what your boyfriend told me, I was speechless so I went to have a few drinks. After a while I was so drunk I don't remember anything, I woke up the next day next to a guy snuggled up against me in bed, I woke up and screamed and ran out of the room. Would this make me gay if I was so drunk I didn't know a man from a woman?Am I gay??????
no not at all. Just make sure your going on the right cruise next time. And if you buy the wrong tickets again then u should sell them.Am I gay??????
If you were so drunk you probably wouldn't know the difference from your hand and your foot so this doesn't make you gay. Drunkenness makes people do things that they later regret ! You'll probably regret it for a while but you'll eventually get over it.
Yes.
No your not gay,nothing wrong with exploring the same sex especially when you don't remember, just don't be telling everyone.You mat want to keep this as a secret.
You were curious. You stayed with the cruize. You were hanging out with the others. You were the one who made the choice to drink so much. I think your making excuses to yourself, to make yourself feel better. Well you know all about what you did overall. It is now up to you to make the decission as to what type of person you will be. For your sake, I hope that you did not get a one time gift that you will have forever. (STD or HIV)
that is pretty crazy it sounds just like the movie boat trip but no it don't make you gay
mayb u r gay .... go c a shrink to make sure u r or not
omg!!! I cant believe you had sex with a guy!!!!!!!!! I mean come one how stupid you would to be if you got drunk with a ton of gay men around you! My advice if you enjoyed it then you are bi but if you dont remember then ask that person that was in your bed what had happened if he wasnt drunk!
WOW! Odd story. Haven't ever heard that one. Well, if you are straight and you didn't know, then no. BUT, if you like a guy and you're a guy, then yeah. But let's hope not.
there aren't no such things as accidents in life, you booked this trip for a reason...
Definitely not, you were under extreme alcoholic influence. And unless you dont have any feelings for other men(i.e. you feel attracted to them, etc) then rest assured, you are not gay. I myself do not drink but I have been with a few friends who do and trust me, after seeing them I learnt that under influence you can do anything.
But in the end, you are the one who knows better if you are straight or gay. And your sexual preference is up to you. If you want to live a straight life, my advice to you would be to forget about this incident and move on. By the time you start dating other women, you wont even look back and think if whether you were gay or not.
no your not gay, just means you drank to muchCan humans catch giardia from dogs phone
no not at all. Just make sure your going on the right cruise next time. And if you buy the wrong tickets again then u should sell them.Am I gay??????
If you were so drunk you probably wouldn't know the difference from your hand and your foot so this doesn't make you gay. Drunkenness makes people do things that they later regret ! You'll probably regret it for a while but you'll eventually get over it.
Yes.
No your not gay,nothing wrong with exploring the same sex especially when you don't remember, just don't be telling everyone.You mat want to keep this as a secret.
You were curious. You stayed with the cruize. You were hanging out with the others. You were the one who made the choice to drink so much. I think your making excuses to yourself, to make yourself feel better. Well you know all about what you did overall. It is now up to you to make the decission as to what type of person you will be. For your sake, I hope that you did not get a one time gift that you will have forever. (STD or HIV)
that is pretty crazy it sounds just like the movie boat trip but no it don't make you gay
mayb u r gay .... go c a shrink to make sure u r or not
omg!!! I cant believe you had sex with a guy!!!!!!!!! I mean come one how stupid you would to be if you got drunk with a ton of gay men around you! My advice if you enjoyed it then you are bi but if you dont remember then ask that person that was in your bed what had happened if he wasnt drunk!
WOW! Odd story. Haven't ever heard that one. Well, if you are straight and you didn't know, then no. BUT, if you like a guy and you're a guy, then yeah. But let's hope not.
there aren't no such things as accidents in life, you booked this trip for a reason...
Definitely not, you were under extreme alcoholic influence. And unless you dont have any feelings for other men(i.e. you feel attracted to them, etc) then rest assured, you are not gay. I myself do not drink but I have been with a few friends who do and trust me, after seeing them I learnt that under influence you can do anything.
But in the end, you are the one who knows better if you are straight or gay. And your sexual preference is up to you. If you want to live a straight life, my advice to you would be to forget about this incident and move on. By the time you start dating other women, you wont even look back and think if whether you were gay or not.
no your not gay, just means you drank to much
Should i tell my fiance about my past and risk losing him?
I am engaged to a wonderful man. I should be the happiest woman in the world but it is the totally opposed. I have known my fiancé for 5 years. I am 23 years old now. We are planning to get married in two years.
My fiancé is an amazing man but he is VERY VERY short tempered. About two years ago, I met this latino guy. At first, he was my guy friend. He was telling me that he wants me to be his girlfriend but I never paid much attention. I used to see him and talk about logic, philosophy, religion etc. It felt good talking to him since he never got angry when I would disagree with him (unlike my fiancé at that time). So I started developing feeling for this guy. And I told him that I kinda of loved him. That is when this latino guy changed. He started calling me names. He turned into a total jerk. That is when I stopped seeing him. And I told my fiancé that there was this latino guy who hit on me and I swore to him on my future kids’ lives that I’ll never talk to that latino guy again. I kept my promise for five months but I was thinking of the latino guy every day. I missed the latino guy sooooooooooo much. Until one day, I ran into him and I couldn’t help but talking to him. He was talking as if he is so innocent and how I usually took my anger on him when I am so sick. I talked to him for three hours. I hated him and myself so much at that moment. For the first time ever, I can say, “I honestly don’t care about this guy anymore”. I stopped thinking of him and I truly moved on with my life. Keep in mind that I never kissed that latino guy, nor did I hug him.
However, I broke my promise to my fiancé. I told him that I the latino guy talked to me (the truth is I talked to him first, not the other way around). I also told my boyfriend that we only talked for two minutes. My fiancé was very upset but he forgave me.
Also three years ago, I let a couple of men flirt with me. Nothing happened (didn’t kiss them or hugged them) but I didn’t stop them from flirting with me. My fiancé doesn’t know about this.
We got engaged few days ago. I feel awful that I haven’t been totally honest with about my past. But I know if I told him, he’ll leave me right away and I truly love him. My question is should I tell him about my past and risk losing him?Should i tell my fiance about my past and risk losing him?
Looks like you have a hard time controlling your emotions. I think that you've been honest enough. Too much information if you dish all. If you are really ready to be married, then there is no good that can come out of telling him but ONLY ONLY ONLY if you are going to remain honest and faithful from the time you and he became engaged. All is fair, in love and war, until he put a ring on it!
Honestly, it seems like you may need to hang out with more women and not put yourself in potentially tempting situations. Good Luck and Congrats on your engagement, enjoy it!Should i tell my fiance about my past and risk losing him?
No, it was painful enough for me to just read all this, I can't imagine what hearing it would sound like!
EVERYBODY loves to be flirted with doesn't mean you cheated
YES
THEN U CAN LET GO
be honest.
People flirt! There is nothing wrong with it. You did nothing wrong, but I have to say, you shouldn't marry a guy with a short fuse and an anger problem. The latino guy has the same personality.
Why are you after men like this? I wouldn't marry either of these guys, if I were you. You are being too hard on yourself. I'm sure your fiance has flirted with other women too.
You said this just 3 months ago:
';So, I kept chatting to that Latino guy even though this Latino man kept making fun of me. I stopped talking to him four months ago; the problem is I still think about him from time to time even though I have never met him in person. I am really not sure what to do.';
Not sure what your trying to play here, but your way too immature to get married and maybe you should just start fresh with someone else....your one confused chick.
Be honest and grow up. You sound immature and like you dont know what you want. You shouldnt have agreed to marry him when you cant be honest. You are sick for knowing that latino guy liked you and then telling him you kind of love him! Who does that?? Figure out what you want, be honest with yourself and your fiance and save everyone heartache and trouble
Theres something called ';life before marriage'; and we all have/had one. Talking to someone is not exactly earth shattering and you say nothing happened so why start trouble over something as petty as this and risk the chance of losing Mr Wonderful? Forget it as it really isnt worth the trouble here. Now if you cant live with yourse;lf because of something really stupid, then by all means tell him but you will regret it when you can just shove this into the skeleton closet and move on. Seriously, this really isnt that big a deal to lose someone over. Move on
If you truly loved him, you would never have put yourself in the position to feel guilty. If you can't be totally honest with him, you have no business going thru with an engagement/wedding.
On a seperate topic, if he has a short temper, is this your ideal partner for life?
When you said PAST, I thought you meant something concrete, not this silly stuff (no offense). If he'd leave you over guys flirting with you, that's ridiculous. There is no reason to tell him every single little thing, I mean that sort of thing is meaningless, and certainly not cheating or anything.
You need to give the ring back and take some time to grow up. Right now you are attracted to guys who are bad for you.
The latino guy has a bit of a temper too and I have no doubt he would screw your socks off before walking away. He don't want you forever, he wants to use you and he is a jerk.
You can't talk to your fiance about anything because if you disagree he gets angry.
Don't throw away your life. Find a guy who is really into you. Not just for sex but for all of you. Both of those guys are poor choices if you want to be happy.
If you did not know right from wrong you would not feel the guilt you are feeling. In my personal opinion ? I think that what he doesn't know isn't going to hurt you. But you really need to make some changes in your life ! Especially if you want to keep the present boy friend.
Just try and remember that just because you do not tell all you have not gotten away with everything ! It could still come full circle and bite you in the a$$
Um I don't see what you are stressing over. You did not do anything but talk to this guy. Everyone has thoughts of, or feeling toward others during the course of a relationship. The truth is there is nothing you did that would jeopardize that. Talking is not cheating and neither is flirting.
My fiancé is an amazing man but he is VERY VERY short tempered. About two years ago, I met this latino guy. At first, he was my guy friend. He was telling me that he wants me to be his girlfriend but I never paid much attention. I used to see him and talk about logic, philosophy, religion etc. It felt good talking to him since he never got angry when I would disagree with him (unlike my fiancé at that time). So I started developing feeling for this guy. And I told him that I kinda of loved him. That is when this latino guy changed. He started calling me names. He turned into a total jerk. That is when I stopped seeing him. And I told my fiancé that there was this latino guy who hit on me and I swore to him on my future kids’ lives that I’ll never talk to that latino guy again. I kept my promise for five months but I was thinking of the latino guy every day. I missed the latino guy sooooooooooo much. Until one day, I ran into him and I couldn’t help but talking to him. He was talking as if he is so innocent and how I usually took my anger on him when I am so sick. I talked to him for three hours. I hated him and myself so much at that moment. For the first time ever, I can say, “I honestly don’t care about this guy anymore”. I stopped thinking of him and I truly moved on with my life. Keep in mind that I never kissed that latino guy, nor did I hug him.
However, I broke my promise to my fiancé. I told him that I the latino guy talked to me (the truth is I talked to him first, not the other way around). I also told my boyfriend that we only talked for two minutes. My fiancé was very upset but he forgave me.
Also three years ago, I let a couple of men flirt with me. Nothing happened (didn’t kiss them or hugged them) but I didn’t stop them from flirting with me. My fiancé doesn’t know about this.
We got engaged few days ago. I feel awful that I haven’t been totally honest with about my past. But I know if I told him, he’ll leave me right away and I truly love him. My question is should I tell him about my past and risk losing him?Should i tell my fiance about my past and risk losing him?
Looks like you have a hard time controlling your emotions. I think that you've been honest enough. Too much information if you dish all. If you are really ready to be married, then there is no good that can come out of telling him but ONLY ONLY ONLY if you are going to remain honest and faithful from the time you and he became engaged. All is fair, in love and war, until he put a ring on it!
Honestly, it seems like you may need to hang out with more women and not put yourself in potentially tempting situations. Good Luck and Congrats on your engagement, enjoy it!Should i tell my fiance about my past and risk losing him?
No, it was painful enough for me to just read all this, I can't imagine what hearing it would sound like!
EVERYBODY loves to be flirted with doesn't mean you cheated
YES
THEN U CAN LET GO
be honest.
People flirt! There is nothing wrong with it. You did nothing wrong, but I have to say, you shouldn't marry a guy with a short fuse and an anger problem. The latino guy has the same personality.
Why are you after men like this? I wouldn't marry either of these guys, if I were you. You are being too hard on yourself. I'm sure your fiance has flirted with other women too.
You said this just 3 months ago:
';So, I kept chatting to that Latino guy even though this Latino man kept making fun of me. I stopped talking to him four months ago; the problem is I still think about him from time to time even though I have never met him in person. I am really not sure what to do.';
Not sure what your trying to play here, but your way too immature to get married and maybe you should just start fresh with someone else....your one confused chick.
Be honest and grow up. You sound immature and like you dont know what you want. You shouldnt have agreed to marry him when you cant be honest. You are sick for knowing that latino guy liked you and then telling him you kind of love him! Who does that?? Figure out what you want, be honest with yourself and your fiance and save everyone heartache and trouble
Theres something called ';life before marriage'; and we all have/had one. Talking to someone is not exactly earth shattering and you say nothing happened so why start trouble over something as petty as this and risk the chance of losing Mr Wonderful? Forget it as it really isnt worth the trouble here. Now if you cant live with yourse;lf because of something really stupid, then by all means tell him but you will regret it when you can just shove this into the skeleton closet and move on. Seriously, this really isnt that big a deal to lose someone over. Move on
If you truly loved him, you would never have put yourself in the position to feel guilty. If you can't be totally honest with him, you have no business going thru with an engagement/wedding.
On a seperate topic, if he has a short temper, is this your ideal partner for life?
When you said PAST, I thought you meant something concrete, not this silly stuff (no offense). If he'd leave you over guys flirting with you, that's ridiculous. There is no reason to tell him every single little thing, I mean that sort of thing is meaningless, and certainly not cheating or anything.
You need to give the ring back and take some time to grow up. Right now you are attracted to guys who are bad for you.
The latino guy has a bit of a temper too and I have no doubt he would screw your socks off before walking away. He don't want you forever, he wants to use you and he is a jerk.
You can't talk to your fiance about anything because if you disagree he gets angry.
Don't throw away your life. Find a guy who is really into you. Not just for sex but for all of you. Both of those guys are poor choices if you want to be happy.
If you did not know right from wrong you would not feel the guilt you are feeling. In my personal opinion ? I think that what he doesn't know isn't going to hurt you. But you really need to make some changes in your life ! Especially if you want to keep the present boy friend.
Just try and remember that just because you do not tell all you have not gotten away with everything ! It could still come full circle and bite you in the a$$
Um I don't see what you are stressing over. You did not do anything but talk to this guy. Everyone has thoughts of, or feeling toward others during the course of a relationship. The truth is there is nothing you did that would jeopardize that. Talking is not cheating and neither is flirting.
I am (secretly) jealous of my (gorgeous)sister? does it make me a bad sister?how do i like stop?
let me just be frank my sister is a paler version of me with green eyes....for normal people thats like not a big deal but for pakistani culture...it defines the difference between an average girl and a beautiful girl......she looks like my mom both pale and both have greens..i look like my dad..who is handsome for a man but for a girl i guess in our culture not so much truthfully....its always annoying that people outside my race find me attractive rather than inside of my race....i was in a pakistani wedding and when my sister and i were sitting together...i noticed every successful male doctor and their mothers were at her side..trying to flirt/chat up/ the mothers questioning her...she gets marriage porposals(part of the whole groomsmen culture) left and right....It doesnt really matter that when we are at clubs I get more notice and men flirt with me more but thats only because I have a better body..... : (....its not like im going to date a white or black man anyway...but if every person of my pakistani ethnicity keeps reminding me how beautiful my sister is...i get a little jealous...does it make me a bad sister...she says she gets jealous of my body..body who cares if i have never get fat...she is more beautiful than me...I am (secretly) jealous of my (gorgeous)sister? does it make me a bad sister?how do i like stop?
No it doesn't. My mother is really good looking %26amp; sometimes I resent her but it's only normal.JI am (secretly) jealous of my (gorgeous)sister? does it make me a bad sister?how do i like stop?
No, that doesn't make you a bad sister. That's funny, I was just thinking about how my sister is prettier than me. She's younger too, which makes it all the more annoying. Just try to remember that you love her and that you're pretty too.
when you feel jealous,stand in front of mirror and think that God is most beautiful in this universe then how can God make us ugly?we all are his creation and image of God so trust yourself you are so beautiful in this world.
Well from a Western perspective, you have it all, so you COULD change things by playing in a different ball-park!
Ethnicity, religion and nationalism are artificial barriers created by our social construct. Rise above that!
You think she looks hot, and she thinks you look hot.
So where is the problem?
You are both hot in your own way.
It will probably always be like that.
You will laugh about it later in your lives.
like totally
Call Michael Jackson, he some how made his skin paler.
Dont you just love yourself.!!!!
hey both of u should get chances.....u luk attractive outside (in clubs) n she is attracted with ur culture.....i don't think ur a bad sis.....
just get drunk and forget it.
if that's really you in that avatar.. no need to be jealous of anyone, you are a straight 5 star hard on
why would you be jelous? you look gorgeous to me =D
it does not make you a bad sister at all!!!
it happens to everyone! im sure everyone has been jealous of their siblings. aww im really sorry you feel that way though.
i dont know what you can do to stop feeling that way. maybe you should talk to her about it. its always nice to open up.
also you can like totally use papaya soap. its like a whitening soap that can make you lighter. and it works! like seriously. maybe if you are lighter you will have a boost of confidence
If that's you in the picture...wow. Gorgeous (at least from a straight white woman's perspective). Anyway, it's perfectly normal. I'm jealous of my sister sometimes, too. She's blond and I'm a brunette. She also has bigger boobs and a cuter nose, hah. But I love her and realize that we both have flaws and we both are beautiful in different ways. I don't know much about your culture, but jealousy is universal :)
No it doesn't. My mother is really good looking %26amp; sometimes I resent her but it's only normal.JI am (secretly) jealous of my (gorgeous)sister? does it make me a bad sister?how do i like stop?
No, that doesn't make you a bad sister. That's funny, I was just thinking about how my sister is prettier than me. She's younger too, which makes it all the more annoying. Just try to remember that you love her and that you're pretty too.
when you feel jealous,stand in front of mirror and think that God is most beautiful in this universe then how can God make us ugly?we all are his creation and image of God so trust yourself you are so beautiful in this world.
Well from a Western perspective, you have it all, so you COULD change things by playing in a different ball-park!
Ethnicity, religion and nationalism are artificial barriers created by our social construct. Rise above that!
You think she looks hot, and she thinks you look hot.
So where is the problem?
You are both hot in your own way.
It will probably always be like that.
You will laugh about it later in your lives.
like totally
Call Michael Jackson, he some how made his skin paler.
Dont you just love yourself.!!!!
hey both of u should get chances.....u luk attractive outside (in clubs) n she is attracted with ur culture.....i don't think ur a bad sis.....
just get drunk and forget it.
if that's really you in that avatar.. no need to be jealous of anyone, you are a straight 5 star hard on
why would you be jelous? you look gorgeous to me =D
it does not make you a bad sister at all!!!
it happens to everyone! im sure everyone has been jealous of their siblings. aww im really sorry you feel that way though.
i dont know what you can do to stop feeling that way. maybe you should talk to her about it. its always nice to open up.
also you can like totally use papaya soap. its like a whitening soap that can make you lighter. and it works! like seriously. maybe if you are lighter you will have a boost of confidence
If that's you in the picture...wow. Gorgeous (at least from a straight white woman's perspective). Anyway, it's perfectly normal. I'm jealous of my sister sometimes, too. She's blond and I'm a brunette. She also has bigger boobs and a cuter nose, hah. But I love her and realize that we both have flaws and we both are beautiful in different ways. I don't know much about your culture, but jealousy is universal :)
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