Apparently I'm one of those men that are oblivious to flirting... So the question is, what do women do to flirt? How do we as men know when a flirt is innocent or when they want something out of it (relationship, drink, sex, whatever)? Is there such a thing as an innocent flirt?
How do you want a man to flirt with you? Can he also be innocent or does he want something (in your opinion as a woman)?
What lengths will women go to to flirt?
Well several times I've had boobs flashed at me. I think they were flirting. Also, there's the drunken screaming ';WHY DON'T YOU WANT TO F**K ME?!'; I think she was trying to suggest something.What lengths will women go to to flirt?
I will acknowledge you.
She will act cute or suggestive or giggly or just fun and friendly depending on the girl.
It can mean that she likes you
Is just having innocent fun
Wants to manipulate you
It can be a transaction that goes like this... I'll flirt with you and you show me that you are interested so I can boost my ego. End of transaction.
answers2 lol, yeah I forgot bending over so you can see down her top.
A woman is flirting if she looks at you and smiles, and you do not know her.
Assume that all flirting is innocent.
If you like her, smile back and say Hi!
There! That was easy!
There are some who are modest when they flirt, and then there are some who are very bold. The some of modest signs are:
If she continuously smile, bat her eyes, tries to get close to you, walks seductively when she knows your watching, treats you better than other guys, always finding ways to be alone with you, etc.
Some signs of the bold ones are:
She licks her tongue at you.
She's gets in your face as ask u some rhetorical question.
She shows you her stuff (I actually had this happen to me) Excessive cleavage or her underwear.
Her hand and body are always somehow touching you.
She always talks vividly about sex all the time.
She shows up at inappropriate times. (I had a girl in military appear in our share bathroom when its no way she could have not known someone was in the shower)
I think that flirting is a fun thing and should not be taken seriously.
Yes innocent but mischievous does happen all the time around fun people who are cool. I find it hard to practice my flirting skills because ever body is to dam uptight or needy.
Friday, August 20, 2010
How do you flirt with a man without seeming desperate?
A co-worker and I have great chemistry, but I want to move to the next step. How do I progress without seeming desperate?How do you flirt with a man without seeming desperate?
Just be smart about it.
Make a subtle joke like, 'too bad office romances never work'. and laugh.
See if he says something back. If he's not interested, he'll just say, 'yeah, too bad', and leave it at that.
Just don't flirt openly in front of colleagues. And if he's married, leave him alone.How do you flirt with a man without seeming desperate?
Don't BE desperate.
Realize that all of us have many choices. Both people must have roughly the same desirablity points. Just relax. Ask him to join you for a walk, a movie, dinner, something like that. Then see if the Chemistry is still good as you get to know him. Wanting a relationship and or good sex does not make you desperate, just human.
Just come right out and say something. It will save time and cause less embarrassment later.
ask him out for coffee or lunch sometime, or hand him your number and say call me sometime
Don't talk about marriage or anything serious. If a guy hears you talking as though you often think about relationships and marraige, he will think that you are looking for a relationship and marraige. The secret is, focus on work or working out or some other hobby so that looking for a guy doesn't seem like a priority. Then you won't worry about him so much.
Maybe ask him to do something like go to a party or go out with a group or something...then pay attention to him but make sure you have fun. To not be desperate you need to be able to have a good time without him...then he'll see that you're a fun girl to be with. Desperate=Needy, as in a girl who has to have A GUY to be happy. If you fit that mold, you should work on yourself before you worry about this guy.
Most girls like that settle for the first guy that comes along.
ask him out...as long as you do it without beggin from your knees, you'll be okay
Flirting (as opposed to being slutty ;) )is very simple, be confident, be attentive and be nice. You might want to step it up to being a bit cheeky after a while as well.
When he looks at you, suck on your fingers.
hummm well you already got good start with nurses outfit. just hurt you leg or something let him check it out for you maybe a sweet smile as he looks you over ,, see what his response is,.. or just the old fashion way,, ask him out , outside of work
ignore him a few times during the day.
talk to him and get close
let it go
don't pretend, actually become happy alone before you begin any romance
that's preferable... and then you have something of value
Very subtle!
I agree with being upfront about it...just not at work. make sure that your company doesn't have a rule about coworkers not dating first.
otherwise...good luck!!Can humans catch giardia from dogs house call
Just be smart about it.
Make a subtle joke like, 'too bad office romances never work'. and laugh.
See if he says something back. If he's not interested, he'll just say, 'yeah, too bad', and leave it at that.
Just don't flirt openly in front of colleagues. And if he's married, leave him alone.How do you flirt with a man without seeming desperate?
Don't BE desperate.
Realize that all of us have many choices. Both people must have roughly the same desirablity points. Just relax. Ask him to join you for a walk, a movie, dinner, something like that. Then see if the Chemistry is still good as you get to know him. Wanting a relationship and or good sex does not make you desperate, just human.
Just come right out and say something. It will save time and cause less embarrassment later.
ask him out for coffee or lunch sometime, or hand him your number and say call me sometime
Don't talk about marriage or anything serious. If a guy hears you talking as though you often think about relationships and marraige, he will think that you are looking for a relationship and marraige. The secret is, focus on work or working out or some other hobby so that looking for a guy doesn't seem like a priority. Then you won't worry about him so much.
Maybe ask him to do something like go to a party or go out with a group or something...then pay attention to him but make sure you have fun. To not be desperate you need to be able to have a good time without him...then he'll see that you're a fun girl to be with. Desperate=Needy, as in a girl who has to have A GUY to be happy. If you fit that mold, you should work on yourself before you worry about this guy.
Most girls like that settle for the first guy that comes along.
ask him out...as long as you do it without beggin from your knees, you'll be okay
Flirting (as opposed to being slutty ;) )is very simple, be confident, be attentive and be nice. You might want to step it up to being a bit cheeky after a while as well.
When he looks at you, suck on your fingers.
hummm well you already got good start with nurses outfit. just hurt you leg or something let him check it out for you maybe a sweet smile as he looks you over ,, see what his response is,.. or just the old fashion way,, ask him out , outside of work
ignore him a few times during the day.
talk to him and get close
let it go
don't pretend, actually become happy alone before you begin any romance
that's preferable... and then you have something of value
Very subtle!
I agree with being upfront about it...just not at work. make sure that your company doesn't have a rule about coworkers not dating first.
otherwise...good luck!!
I'm insecure with people flirting with me, I need advice.?
Recently, i've lost a large amount of weight, and afterwards people have been approaching me more. Men included. I'm flattered by the whistles and such, but two men walked up to me today when I was outside of my home, in the dark. Basically flirting with me. I quickly moved inside and told them to go to hell afterwards - Only to get scolded my by parents (I'm 15. 25+ old men flirting with me. Yeah, gross, I know.)
For someone in a vulnerable situation like that, how should I act? I know I should ignore them, but it's difficult when they're in front of me and my instinct has always been to lash out and fight back.I'm insecure with people flirting with me, I need advice.?
Reanna, Ill tell you something, when I was 15 I got a lotta looks because I was a really good looking guy back then. I had half the cheerleading squad flirting with me and I was blown away becuase I had always thought I was too skinny, and I never thought I was particularly special. I'm much older now and will tell you that striking out against these older men could be dangerous because you really don't know them or what they REALLY have in mind besides something sexual. If they touch you in an inappropriate way and are trying to molest you, go for the eyes or scrotum (nuts), even if it's someone you know. I say this because I was molested (felt-up) by an uncle once and it scarred me for some 30 years until I remebered the repressed memory of his big firemens body grinding up against my backside as I was standing at a sink at my aunts house. But don't strike out at just anyone because you don't want their attention. That could give rise to real hostility and violence. Just say ';no thanks'; and walk away if you can and you feel afreaid, to any unwanted attention. As far as thats concerened,most boys your age really want sex, and possibly a sexual relationship with friendship, or else they just want to be freinds. Go with those guys that want to take their time to get to know you, over months of time before you decide to do anything sexual. And please remember to not have sex within two weeks before your period and please remember to use protection. The last thing you want to do is to get pregnant before you finish your schooling or catch an STD. And one more thing, GO TO COLLEGE! you will earn more money in then long run, have more job security, and you will be better respected with a college degree. You can take out school loans at the worst and pay that back over 20-30 years time with affordable payments, ecspecially if you consolidate. Lastly,you should ask an older sister or cousin if you cant talk to your mom about this. God Bless you.
Sincerely jdvsp1d@yahoo.comI'm insecure with people flirting with me, I need advice.?
Your welcome kiddo. Sorry I didnt exactly anser your question but I hope you realized something about you.
Just don't go out in the dark at night and if strange people approach you during the day, keep your head down so they know you don't want to chat and keep walking.
That or just say you don't have time to talk right now.
I say enjoy the flirting. It's always nice to feel sexy! But be warned, most gusy are just trying to get into your pants. Enjoy the attention, but remain unattainable (this actually makes guys even MORE attracted to you)
I used to be thin and very popular. Then I gained weight. Alot of those guys that were my 'friends' seemed to disappear. A little part of me is afraid of losing the weight now becuase as long as I'm overweight, I know who my true friends are. I know that's strange ... but it's how I feel.
I don't know why you're lashing out, though. What is there is lash out about?
Ughh I hate when that happens. Old guys whistling and calling me things like ';baby'; or ';momma.'; I'm 16. I just ignore them and walk by fast and far enough so they can't grab me or anything. If they make you mad, feel free to fight back and say things. My friends also tell them to go to hell or the F-word.
get some pepper spray. i'm actually serious. if older guys are hitting on you, who by the way are probably much stronger than you, you need some form of protection just in case they are psychos. if you don't have anything to protect yourself run as fast as you can and make sure you never go to a remote area alone. always have someone with you where there aren't a lot of people around. if you're in a fairly crowded place, people will hear you if you need help. but i don't think it seems to be that serious, right? anyway, i for one think your parents were wrong---definitely lash out if you need to.
YES ,NO DOUBT U R VERY BEAUTIFUL THAT IS THE REASON THERE ARE MANY MEN AROUND U
FIRST OF ALL U USE SOME OILY MAKE UP SO THAT U DO NT LOOK MUCH BEAUTIFUL, ANOTHER THING IS THAT U MUST CONTROLL
UR ANGER.I BELEAVE U R VERY ANGRY PERSON SECONDLY BETTER GO OUT WITH UR ELDERS WHEN U GO OUT
ORELSE SOME GOOD FRIENDS(BOYS) WITH U THEN U CAN BE MUCH SAFE%26amp; TRY TO BE A BIT TALKTIVE SO THAT YOU R NOT MUCH CONCERN WITH WHO IS DOING WHAT
hey go for the best one u can trust for long term
and try out all the situations creating for that one
okey
hope u will be achiving ur gole soon
Well flirting is meant to be fun
If older guys creep you out, just give out negative body langage
Dont say anything to them....walk run away as fast as you can.........flirting back might get you raped...%26amp; saying something negative might also!
For someone in a vulnerable situation like that, how should I act? I know I should ignore them, but it's difficult when they're in front of me and my instinct has always been to lash out and fight back.I'm insecure with people flirting with me, I need advice.?
Reanna, Ill tell you something, when I was 15 I got a lotta looks because I was a really good looking guy back then. I had half the cheerleading squad flirting with me and I was blown away becuase I had always thought I was too skinny, and I never thought I was particularly special. I'm much older now and will tell you that striking out against these older men could be dangerous because you really don't know them or what they REALLY have in mind besides something sexual. If they touch you in an inappropriate way and are trying to molest you, go for the eyes or scrotum (nuts), even if it's someone you know. I say this because I was molested (felt-up) by an uncle once and it scarred me for some 30 years until I remebered the repressed memory of his big firemens body grinding up against my backside as I was standing at a sink at my aunts house. But don't strike out at just anyone because you don't want their attention. That could give rise to real hostility and violence. Just say ';no thanks'; and walk away if you can and you feel afreaid, to any unwanted attention. As far as thats concerened,most boys your age really want sex, and possibly a sexual relationship with friendship, or else they just want to be freinds. Go with those guys that want to take their time to get to know you, over months of time before you decide to do anything sexual. And please remember to not have sex within two weeks before your period and please remember to use protection. The last thing you want to do is to get pregnant before you finish your schooling or catch an STD. And one more thing, GO TO COLLEGE! you will earn more money in then long run, have more job security, and you will be better respected with a college degree. You can take out school loans at the worst and pay that back over 20-30 years time with affordable payments, ecspecially if you consolidate. Lastly,you should ask an older sister or cousin if you cant talk to your mom about this. God Bless you.
Sincerely jdvsp1d@yahoo.comI'm insecure with people flirting with me, I need advice.?
Your welcome kiddo. Sorry I didnt exactly anser your question but I hope you realized something about you.
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Just don't go out in the dark at night and if strange people approach you during the day, keep your head down so they know you don't want to chat and keep walking.
That or just say you don't have time to talk right now.
I say enjoy the flirting. It's always nice to feel sexy! But be warned, most gusy are just trying to get into your pants. Enjoy the attention, but remain unattainable (this actually makes guys even MORE attracted to you)
I used to be thin and very popular. Then I gained weight. Alot of those guys that were my 'friends' seemed to disappear. A little part of me is afraid of losing the weight now becuase as long as I'm overweight, I know who my true friends are. I know that's strange ... but it's how I feel.
I don't know why you're lashing out, though. What is there is lash out about?
Ughh I hate when that happens. Old guys whistling and calling me things like ';baby'; or ';momma.'; I'm 16. I just ignore them and walk by fast and far enough so they can't grab me or anything. If they make you mad, feel free to fight back and say things. My friends also tell them to go to hell or the F-word.
get some pepper spray. i'm actually serious. if older guys are hitting on you, who by the way are probably much stronger than you, you need some form of protection just in case they are psychos. if you don't have anything to protect yourself run as fast as you can and make sure you never go to a remote area alone. always have someone with you where there aren't a lot of people around. if you're in a fairly crowded place, people will hear you if you need help. but i don't think it seems to be that serious, right? anyway, i for one think your parents were wrong---definitely lash out if you need to.
YES ,NO DOUBT U R VERY BEAUTIFUL THAT IS THE REASON THERE ARE MANY MEN AROUND U
FIRST OF ALL U USE SOME OILY MAKE UP SO THAT U DO NT LOOK MUCH BEAUTIFUL, ANOTHER THING IS THAT U MUST CONTROLL
UR ANGER.I BELEAVE U R VERY ANGRY PERSON SECONDLY BETTER GO OUT WITH UR ELDERS WHEN U GO OUT
ORELSE SOME GOOD FRIENDS(BOYS) WITH U THEN U CAN BE MUCH SAFE%26amp; TRY TO BE A BIT TALKTIVE SO THAT YOU R NOT MUCH CONCERN WITH WHO IS DOING WHAT
hey go for the best one u can trust for long term
and try out all the situations creating for that one
okey
hope u will be achiving ur gole soon
Well flirting is meant to be fun
If older guys creep you out, just give out negative body langage
Dont say anything to them....walk run away as fast as you can.........flirting back might get you raped...%26amp; saying something negative might also!
Ladies, how do you like a man flirting with you?
My friend seems to have his way with the ladies. When I see him talk to them, he is always very playful and never talks about a serious subject with them..he always teases them about their hair, what they say, their dress, or something else and playfully bumps his shoulder into them..eventually they playfully slap him and then before you know it, he leaves the bar or wherever we hang out with the woman in his arms. Is this how you want a man to flirt with you?Ladies, how do you like a man flirting with you?
If a girl wants to get laid, then yes that would be the way. But when guys do that, its usully for a one night stand. So if your looking for a realtionship then thats definetly not the way to do it, But if your lookin for somethin else then your friends way is the way to go.Ladies, how do you like a man flirting with you?
If your a slut. I dont think you should try to find girls at the bar unless your just getting them for sex. If you want a real relationship with a woman find a different place and be polite nice and funny.
If a girl wants to get laid, then yes that would be the way. But when guys do that, its usully for a one night stand. So if your looking for a realtionship then thats definetly not the way to do it, But if your lookin for somethin else then your friends way is the way to go.Ladies, how do you like a man flirting with you?
If your a slut. I dont think you should try to find girls at the bar unless your just getting them for sex. If you want a real relationship with a woman find a different place and be polite nice and funny.
Why is it so easy for you men online to flirt with so many women....?
yet claim to only care about one of them? How should I view a man that tries to be a ladies man all the time with all women, yet he wants one person to feel like his attention towards her is unique?? Is it really? Or is he just playing??Why is it so easy for you men online to flirt with so many women....?
We'll first things first.
realize a bunch of these tricks might be flirting with him. not vice-versa. of course if he is flirting back you have reason to be upset.
in my profile info I state ';I have a girlfriend'; yet so many girls leave flirty messages or will IM me. but I dont even give them so much as a responce. maybe a thumbs up...if they're lucky.
another thing.... theres nothing impressive about being an online pimp.
nothing,.Why is it so easy for you men online to flirt with so many women....?
Playing is fun. I have an internet policy of believing anything that anyone tells me.
He's evil, ignore him, or you'll end up for sale on craigslist like the rest... :S
(the rest, I'm reffering to the rest of the women he flirts with)
Tell me who it is... I must know... :P~
As an online pimp
(and you know it's impressive)
';How you doin', babe?';
Personally I think that it can't be true if he's making EACH of the girls feel unique. I think that person would come off as not only a fake %26amp; a phoney, but a liar. Then again I know exactly what you are talking about so it's really unfair for me to answer. It's kinda nice that you asked this question to see what other people think. It's one thing to flirt online %26amp; make someone feel special, but to tell them all they are the only one they are doing this with is wrong. Only my opinion though....it may be wrong.
Men and women love to flirt and it can be tough sometimes to avoid it even when you are not looking to flirt with anyone. It seems to be a natural instinct in people that when someone begins to show even a subtle interest in you that you instantly turn on the charm and begin flirting with them whether you are spoken for or not. Flirting is often seen as harmless but isn鈥檛 that it all starts normally :-)
We'll first things first.
realize a bunch of these tricks might be flirting with him. not vice-versa. of course if he is flirting back you have reason to be upset.
in my profile info I state ';I have a girlfriend'; yet so many girls leave flirty messages or will IM me. but I dont even give them so much as a responce. maybe a thumbs up...if they're lucky.
another thing.... theres nothing impressive about being an online pimp.
nothing,.Why is it so easy for you men online to flirt with so many women....?
Playing is fun. I have an internet policy of believing anything that anyone tells me.
He's evil, ignore him, or you'll end up for sale on craigslist like the rest... :S
(the rest, I'm reffering to the rest of the women he flirts with)
Tell me who it is... I must know... :P~
As an online pimp
(and you know it's impressive)
';How you doin', babe?';
Personally I think that it can't be true if he's making EACH of the girls feel unique. I think that person would come off as not only a fake %26amp; a phoney, but a liar. Then again I know exactly what you are talking about so it's really unfair for me to answer. It's kinda nice that you asked this question to see what other people think. It's one thing to flirt online %26amp; make someone feel special, but to tell them all they are the only one they are doing this with is wrong. Only my opinion though....it may be wrong.
Men and women love to flirt and it can be tough sometimes to avoid it even when you are not looking to flirt with anyone. It seems to be a natural instinct in people that when someone begins to show even a subtle interest in you that you instantly turn on the charm and begin flirting with them whether you are spoken for or not. Flirting is often seen as harmless but isn鈥檛 that it all starts normally :-)
Is this man flirting with me?
I want to know if my doctor is flirting w me. Everytime I go in, he seems especially happy to see me, and on one occasion I emailed him to see if I should come in for an appointment, for a simple infection that he already knew what it was b/c of the symptoms i gave him, and it couldve been treated with an anitbiotic given over the phone. He said, 'yes come see me', and when i got there the next day, he walked past my room while helping the person before me, and doubled back once he saw me and peeked his head in and said 'hey there!' really enthusiastically with a huge smile. then since he didnt have a thermometer on hand, to see if i had a fever, before he went to get a thermometer, he put his arm around me to see if I was warm. then after I leave everytime, he puts his hand on my back and leaves it there. then he always brings up commonalities between us, and never leaves any room for silence. like how he was supposed to go see my school's team play in the playoffs the next wkend (which was located hours and hours away), but couldnt cause he had to work, or how he responds to my emails so quick (just to name a few.) he also said ';email me if you need anything while your away!'; i dont know what to think. he has a daughter 2 years younger than me, and I know from a friend who has a parent that works with him that his wife just gave him divorce papers. (he never talks about the wife) I'm obviously not looking for a relationship out of it, I just want to know what the intentions are, (kind of have a crush on him) and if i'm reading him correctly...and I think it'd be fun to flirt back and see what happens. The age doesnt bother me (me, 21, him 46) and I want to know how to flirt back, because I know that even if they are interested they cant really make the first move because of doctor/patient rules.
dont need any criticisms and not looking for a relationship or to break up a family. just trying to get my facts straight and get some advice on how to actIs this man flirting with me?
unless he does something really obvious, like asking you out, yo can never tell, some people are just always that enthusiastic and friendly, but others are not, you'd have to find out how he acts around others, only then you could compare. But then again maybe yo just seem so nice and friendly that he acts more nice around you, for a simple reason that you give him a positive impression.
dont need any criticisms and not looking for a relationship or to break up a family. just trying to get my facts straight and get some advice on how to actIs this man flirting with me?
unless he does something really obvious, like asking you out, yo can never tell, some people are just always that enthusiastic and friendly, but others are not, you'd have to find out how he acts around others, only then you could compare. But then again maybe yo just seem so nice and friendly that he acts more nice around you, for a simple reason that you give him a positive impression.
Man flirts like crazy, but won't ask me out...?
I've been friends with this man for 6 or 7 months. We've been getting a lot closer since January. I've always been attracted to him, but now really want to pursue some type of relationship with him. I know that he likes me back. How much, I don't know. But I know. We've been hanging out as friends in a group for a long time now, and even kinda went out once, and I ended up sleeping over at his place. But we didn't kiss or anything. I should have kissed him though! And I think wanted to also. Now I'm afraid that I am going to slip into the friend category.... I told him this weekend I was going out and that ';I would really like it'; if he would come! He was out of town and wasn't sure when he was going to get back. He told me he'd let me know. And he never did!!! I refuse to email/call/text him again.
Has he stopped liking me? Is he just intimidated by me because I'm older? Why are men so frustrating???Man flirts like crazy, but won't ask me out...?
you might have to go after him cuz he might just be shy with this kind of thingMan flirts like crazy, but won't ask me out...?
well guys are like that. they like to play with our feelings! i think he does still like you but it sounds like to me he is a player. be careful with them! and i know how you feel about being older than the guy you are attracted to because im older than the guy i like and he is to shy to ask me out. so i think that you should just talk to him and be like what's up... just to see what happens.
Has he stopped liking me? Is he just intimidated by me because I'm older? Why are men so frustrating???Man flirts like crazy, but won't ask me out...?
you might have to go after him cuz he might just be shy with this kind of thingMan flirts like crazy, but won't ask me out...?
well guys are like that. they like to play with our feelings! i think he does still like you but it sounds like to me he is a player. be careful with them! and i know how you feel about being older than the guy you are attracted to because im older than the guy i like and he is to shy to ask me out. so i think that you should just talk to him and be like what's up... just to see what happens.
Man flirts like crazy, but doesn't follow up on it..?
I've been friends with this man for 6 or 7 months. We've been getting a lot closer since January. I've always been attracted to him, but now really want to pursue some type of relationship with him. I know that he likes me back. How much, I don't know. But I know. We've been hanging out as friends in a group for a long time now, and even kinda went out once, and I ended up sleeping over at his place. But we didn't kiss or anything. I should have kissed him though! And I think wanted to also. Now I'm afraid that I am going to slip into the friend category.... I told him this weekend I was going out and that ';I would really like it'; if he would come! He was out of town and wasn't sure when he was going to get back. He told me he'd let me know. And he never did!!! I refuse to email/call/text him again.
Has he stopped liking me? Is he just intimidated by me because I'm older? Why are men so frustrating???Man flirts like crazy, but doesn't follow up on it..?
sounds like he is the shy type. you will probably have to make the first move.
kiss him and see if he pulls away. you said that you should have kissed him so do it and see how he reactsCan humans catch giardia from dogs house call
Has he stopped liking me? Is he just intimidated by me because I'm older? Why are men so frustrating???Man flirts like crazy, but doesn't follow up on it..?
sounds like he is the shy type. you will probably have to make the first move.
kiss him and see if he pulls away. you said that you should have kissed him so do it and see how he reacts
Need Information about a breech of contract?
Situation: A married couple rented one of thier rental properties to a young lady. The young lady and the husband worked for the same employer. Over time the young lady and the man started getting attracted to each other. There was flirting at work but nothing never came out of it. The young lady decided that the flirting was enough so she wrote the man a letter, stating that the flirting was wrong and that she was starting to get sexually attracted to him so they needed to stop the flirting. The man took the letter home and the wife found the letter, also a letter that he was writing back to her. Now the wife is trying to evict the young lady. The wife says she will file a breach of contract and show the letters in court and that the young lady would have to pay her money. However the property is not registered with the city to qualify as a rental property. Does anyone have any advice on what could be done for the young lady and how the breach of contract would affect her?Need Information about a breech of contract?
You need to be clear here. The contract here is with regards tenancy of the property. The feelings engendered between the husband and the young lady are separate issues altogether. Sorry, but the wife cannot evict the young lady based on the feelingsNeed Information about a breech of contract?
Well, first off.....let's use some common sense here......
Breach of contract doesn't apply. The lady in question hasn't broken any part of the rental contract. Having an affair, or even flirting, has never been any part of any rental contract that I've ever seen before.
Secondly, she can't even evict based on that letter(s). A person's personal feelings are inadmissable in a court of law, unless the proceedings are directly related to an action or inaction that it specifically pertains to. Rental would NOT fall under this catagory in any way.
Third, I would suggest that the lady in question contact an actual attorney for herself, rather than asking the idiots that usually answer on here (no offense intended, but let's face it......it's true).
Depends entirely upon the rental agreement. If it states ';don't get horny with my husband'; I guess a breach could be filed, but not won. If the contract includes wording regarding character, again, cannot win. Tell her to stop worrying and abide by the WRITTEN agreement.I wonder what the going rate in damages is for lewd thoughts? Ridiculous and frivilous.
How did the lady who is getting booted Breach the Lease? If anything the young lady should let them go into eviction and claim harassment and sue the couple who are the landlords for moving costs.
I never understand why people put this sort of nonsense in writing. If she was uncomfortable why didn't she tell the guy?
Love letters do not breach a contract. Sure she's jealous and doesn't want this young lady around, but she needs a real reason to evict this girl. If this young lady has complied with the contract (paid her rent on time, not been loud, not destroyed the premises) then no court is going to allow this young lady to be evicted for breach of contract. If they file against this young lady, she should file a 12b6 motion for failure to state a claim upon which there can be recovery. The court will dismiss it immediately unless this girl truly has done something to breach the contract.
I don't know about the property issue... I don't think it would matter if this couple has a house and decided to rent it to someone... I think that's allowed. It would be an issue if they cut up the house and made separate apartments out of it... that would violate zoning. Perhaps even if the couple has not complied with property requirements, the court would allow the girl to finish her rent because of her reliance... it would depend on whether she had knowledge of what's required for renting and whether this property conformed or not... if she didn't know, she can probably stay.
I don't think the case would get that far. Unless a contract said ';you cannot become interested in or write things to my husband,'; then those letters are no breach of the contract. She should, however, look through the contract to see if she has breached anything.
She should probably try to find a new apartment too because she wouldn't want to stay with these people after they tried to sue her.
You need to be clear here. The contract here is with regards tenancy of the property. The feelings engendered between the husband and the young lady are separate issues altogether. Sorry, but the wife cannot evict the young lady based on the feelingsNeed Information about a breech of contract?
Well, first off.....let's use some common sense here......
Breach of contract doesn't apply. The lady in question hasn't broken any part of the rental contract. Having an affair, or even flirting, has never been any part of any rental contract that I've ever seen before.
Secondly, she can't even evict based on that letter(s). A person's personal feelings are inadmissable in a court of law, unless the proceedings are directly related to an action or inaction that it specifically pertains to. Rental would NOT fall under this catagory in any way.
Third, I would suggest that the lady in question contact an actual attorney for herself, rather than asking the idiots that usually answer on here (no offense intended, but let's face it......it's true).
Depends entirely upon the rental agreement. If it states ';don't get horny with my husband'; I guess a breach could be filed, but not won. If the contract includes wording regarding character, again, cannot win. Tell her to stop worrying and abide by the WRITTEN agreement.I wonder what the going rate in damages is for lewd thoughts? Ridiculous and frivilous.
How did the lady who is getting booted Breach the Lease? If anything the young lady should let them go into eviction and claim harassment and sue the couple who are the landlords for moving costs.
I never understand why people put this sort of nonsense in writing. If she was uncomfortable why didn't she tell the guy?
Love letters do not breach a contract. Sure she's jealous and doesn't want this young lady around, but she needs a real reason to evict this girl. If this young lady has complied with the contract (paid her rent on time, not been loud, not destroyed the premises) then no court is going to allow this young lady to be evicted for breach of contract. If they file against this young lady, she should file a 12b6 motion for failure to state a claim upon which there can be recovery. The court will dismiss it immediately unless this girl truly has done something to breach the contract.
I don't know about the property issue... I don't think it would matter if this couple has a house and decided to rent it to someone... I think that's allowed. It would be an issue if they cut up the house and made separate apartments out of it... that would violate zoning. Perhaps even if the couple has not complied with property requirements, the court would allow the girl to finish her rent because of her reliance... it would depend on whether she had knowledge of what's required for renting and whether this property conformed or not... if she didn't know, she can probably stay.
I don't think the case would get that far. Unless a contract said ';you cannot become interested in or write things to my husband,'; then those letters are no breach of the contract. She should, however, look through the contract to see if she has breached anything.
She should probably try to find a new apartment too because she wouldn't want to stay with these people after they tried to sue her.
Married man flirts with me?
There's this guy that constantly stares and flirts with me but has never talked to me before - I wondered why he would never come over and talk until I found out that he was married, I didn't know that he was married because he is never with his wife. The problem is that he won't stop staring and flirting and I really like him so can't help but notice the staring and flirting so will sometimes do it back but you must understand that I try not because I'm not a selfish person. Problem is I can't control my feelings - I really like this guy.
I want you to answer these questions:
1. Why does he flirt with me if he's already married?
2. I think he really wants me but I have no solution - he is married but I can't walk away from this because one day he might decide to get a divorce and i don't want to lose that opportunity, problem is, I think the reason why he hasn't done anything about it is because he might not know if I like him back because of how I look at him - I don't smile though for obvious reasons but what am I meant to do? - I really like him and if you were in my situation I don't think you'd ignore him and walk away, if ever i did walk away, i'd regret it. Please help!Married man flirts with me?
What is your f*cking problem? Do you want to be a home-wrecker? And just cos he is flirting you now think he will divorce his wife? Are you out of your mind? Come on. I mean, if he married you eventually, are you so sure he will not have an affair? I mean .. what if you were married, would that be okay with you if your man left you for another lady?
Stop this immature act, and find someone available, don't be so damn selfish, it is so cruel.Married man flirts with me?
all married men flirt..
he flirts w you because he's obviously attracted to you %26amp; being married doesn't mean he's dead.I'd steer clear of this situation if I were you. If he does take it further than flirting then that might be considered cheating. One thing that's true is once a cheat always a cheat. Millions of married men keep women dangling by telling them that they'll leave their wives.This however rarely happens %26amp; then you're left alone %26amp; hurt. I'd stay out of this man's view unless he's suddenly single. It's never good to mess w married men.
Sweetheart, if he's willing to cheat on his wife with you then he's willing to do the same to you. Your best bet is to walk away because they never leave their wives, and even if they do if children are involved you're going to become the homewrecking slut. Banking on ';someday he might divorce'; is really stupid and makes you seem desperate.
He is married. Be firm and tell him to leave you alone! If he dares to cheat on wife, and you two wind up getting together, there is a 90% chance he will fool around on you. Further more you will never ever have TRUST in a relationship.
Regrets? Pls girl you won't regret a thing ! He's a player, and has no respect for his marraige. There is no ';Opportunity';! Just hot feelings right now because it's tempting ';fruit';. Slap slap, wake up, surely you have better confidence in yourself ! ! ! !! !!
how can he flirt with you if you've never spoken?
Clearly you shouldn't go after him or wait for him, this will only hurt both of you. Having said that I would like to make a point though. This idea that he should just up and get divorced is ALOT simpler than it sounds, and it seems to be a pretty easy answer to the women who are answering this question. What they don't realize is this guy will loose EVERYTHING when he gets divorced. It just really drives me nuts that women press as hard as they can to get the guy to commit and then after a divorce happens they sit there and are like, what just happened? What a crock.
How can you really like someone you haven't even talked to?
dear, easy answer isn't always the best answer. if he was a good man, he wouldn't be flirting and leading you on. if he was committed to his vows he would be honest with you and have told you himself he is married. if there was an opportunity, which there isn't here, he would divorce his wife for you, he would have left her the moment he decided he couldn't keep his eyes from not only wandering (which can be harmless) but possibly bringing another woman into his relationship and hurting both.
i wouldn't regret walking away from it. then again, i am now happily married with a man who does look, he is a flirt at times, but so am i and w always respect that we look in fact he tells me and i tell him. but we keep ourselves accountable. he is not being accountable to you, he didnt tell you himself he was married, he never hinted a divorce, you need to just find someone who has the balls to be upfront and appreciate you.
i guess go **** him
He is having fun, communicating without problems.
He doesn;t want you he has his wife. He probably got her the same way,
\Your not selfish? You want to have someone who belongs to another.
1. He's married
2. He's married
doesn't matter how you feel let him screw his life up with someone else.
He is married - he is just messing around and hoping to get some easy sex - he is highly unlikely ever to leave his wife for you. Do you really want sloppy seconds. He may also just be being nice to you - not interested in anything else but a bit of harmless flirting. Don't read anything into this.
I want you to answer these questions:
1. Why does he flirt with me if he's already married?
2. I think he really wants me but I have no solution - he is married but I can't walk away from this because one day he might decide to get a divorce and i don't want to lose that opportunity, problem is, I think the reason why he hasn't done anything about it is because he might not know if I like him back because of how I look at him - I don't smile though for obvious reasons but what am I meant to do? - I really like him and if you were in my situation I don't think you'd ignore him and walk away, if ever i did walk away, i'd regret it. Please help!Married man flirts with me?
What is your f*cking problem? Do you want to be a home-wrecker? And just cos he is flirting you now think he will divorce his wife? Are you out of your mind? Come on. I mean, if he married you eventually, are you so sure he will not have an affair? I mean .. what if you were married, would that be okay with you if your man left you for another lady?
Stop this immature act, and find someone available, don't be so damn selfish, it is so cruel.Married man flirts with me?
all married men flirt..
he flirts w you because he's obviously attracted to you %26amp; being married doesn't mean he's dead.I'd steer clear of this situation if I were you. If he does take it further than flirting then that might be considered cheating. One thing that's true is once a cheat always a cheat. Millions of married men keep women dangling by telling them that they'll leave their wives.This however rarely happens %26amp; then you're left alone %26amp; hurt. I'd stay out of this man's view unless he's suddenly single. It's never good to mess w married men.
Sweetheart, if he's willing to cheat on his wife with you then he's willing to do the same to you. Your best bet is to walk away because they never leave their wives, and even if they do if children are involved you're going to become the homewrecking slut. Banking on ';someday he might divorce'; is really stupid and makes you seem desperate.
He is married. Be firm and tell him to leave you alone! If he dares to cheat on wife, and you two wind up getting together, there is a 90% chance he will fool around on you. Further more you will never ever have TRUST in a relationship.
Regrets? Pls girl you won't regret a thing ! He's a player, and has no respect for his marraige. There is no ';Opportunity';! Just hot feelings right now because it's tempting ';fruit';. Slap slap, wake up, surely you have better confidence in yourself ! ! ! !! !!
how can he flirt with you if you've never spoken?
Clearly you shouldn't go after him or wait for him, this will only hurt both of you. Having said that I would like to make a point though. This idea that he should just up and get divorced is ALOT simpler than it sounds, and it seems to be a pretty easy answer to the women who are answering this question. What they don't realize is this guy will loose EVERYTHING when he gets divorced. It just really drives me nuts that women press as hard as they can to get the guy to commit and then after a divorce happens they sit there and are like, what just happened? What a crock.
How can you really like someone you haven't even talked to?
dear, easy answer isn't always the best answer. if he was a good man, he wouldn't be flirting and leading you on. if he was committed to his vows he would be honest with you and have told you himself he is married. if there was an opportunity, which there isn't here, he would divorce his wife for you, he would have left her the moment he decided he couldn't keep his eyes from not only wandering (which can be harmless) but possibly bringing another woman into his relationship and hurting both.
i wouldn't regret walking away from it. then again, i am now happily married with a man who does look, he is a flirt at times, but so am i and w always respect that we look in fact he tells me and i tell him. but we keep ourselves accountable. he is not being accountable to you, he didnt tell you himself he was married, he never hinted a divorce, you need to just find someone who has the balls to be upfront and appreciate you.
i guess go **** him
He is having fun, communicating without problems.
He doesn;t want you he has his wife. He probably got her the same way,
\Your not selfish? You want to have someone who belongs to another.
1. He's married
2. He's married
doesn't matter how you feel let him screw his life up with someone else.
He is married - he is just messing around and hoping to get some easy sex - he is highly unlikely ever to leave his wife for you. Do you really want sloppy seconds. He may also just be being nice to you - not interested in anything else but a bit of harmless flirting. Don't read anything into this.
Why are man so shameless?
I have had married man flirt with me in front of their wives before 0o as well as their children in tow at my workplace,
Had them stare at me, while I WAS working, and one muslim man was even bold enough to say in his accent, he was ******** %26gt; dont care to spell out his culture
and said. hey baby, 0o, and then start preaching to me about how nice it is we are muslims, o0
what the...
why are they so shameless?Why are man so shameless?
LOLZ ...
Your Questions today give me the feeling that You have had a fight or something with few men .... :)
Why are men so shameless???????????
Not all ... some
***I have had married man flirt with me in front of their wives before 0o as well as their children in tow at my workplace, ***
o.O ... X(
***Had them stare at me, while I WAS working, and one muslim man was even bold enough to say in his accent, he was ******** %26gt; dont care to spell out his culture***
OOH NOW I GET IT ... THAT IS WHY YOU ARE ANGRY AT MEN TODAY ...
I DO NOT OBJECT TO YOU NOW ... GO AHEAD...
***and said. hey baby, 0o, and then start preaching to me about how nice it is we are muslims, o0
what the...
why are they so shameless?***
Are you joking me ???
:( ... That man ... he took down all ';MANkind'; to shame ...
:(
LOLZ ... you really have funny people around you ...
I could never have lived up as a girl ...
Thank Allah i am a Boy
On no Soul does Allah place a burden greater than it has strength to bear...Why are man so shameless?
Throw something at them!
HAHA my goodness!
Hot coffee or tea in thier lap is good start.
If I was woman and men did that to me I would go up to them and whisper in their ear ';YOU DON'T HAVE THE BALLS!';
It is about hormones, women can be shameless too.
Stop being so ignorant, idiots.
Most men are perv's...
i get guys flirting all the time but ignore them coz they are cheap shyte..
but there are diamonds out there but are hard to find..ive found mine (alhamduallah)
he's a very respectful guy..
well why don't you ask why women are so spineless first that they let their husbands flirt with other women and don't say anything. Why didn't u give them a peice of ur mind?
asian guys won't disrespect you like that, hit it up with one and you will be surprise
Women are more shameless than man.
Its a fact.
So you're a feminist. Isn't that cute....
DO NOT GENERALIZE!
what if i started doing the same thing to women by saying stuff like:
why are women so flamboyant of their beauty and showy ......... blah blah blah.........
Men are NOT shameless.
the society is.
How did it come to be so? this is a better question that needs answering and deeper understanding.
AnS: Indoctrinism.
The more you tread away from the path laid out in the Holy scriptures, the more will you fall into the deciet of this world aka dunya.
Be your own example. That is what my advice is to you.
Adorn yourself in the similar attire that was once the way of the Holy Prohets wives (may Allah have mercy on their souls).
The world is full of fitnah i.e. falsehood.
To fight is , means you 'struggle in the way of Allah',
in other words, you are compelled to do Jihad.
I, have personally trained my eyes to lower their gaze onto the floor whenever i notice females from the opposte sex near me.
queer, right? =)
Not to me.
cause , if i were to have myself 'brainwashed' the other way round, i would feel humilated to read your question.
and rather would have left an angry retort. why?
because in this truly indoctrinistic world,
no sin is a sin anymore.
i would have stood up to my sin, (in this case flirting), to by my natural right, lol.
do you see my point.
Men wont change. You have to be the change for them.
I will leave you with a good answer from Shiekh Ahmed Deedat:
Answer By Ahmed Deedat-Nature of Men and wisdom - Veil/Hijab
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pHW6gCzpd鈥?/a>
some similat stuff i wanted to share :
why hijab?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CWsXlBUiz鈥?/a>
Tribute to Marwa Sherbini martyr of Hijab
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3T6b5xfj8鈥?/a>
Khalid yasin tells the reason for muslim women to wear hijab:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=awkRZxd_v鈥?/a>
Hope you did not get offended in any way.
may Allah guide us all to the rightful path. i.e. Islam.
Ameen.
Had them stare at me, while I WAS working, and one muslim man was even bold enough to say in his accent, he was ******** %26gt; dont care to spell out his culture
and said. hey baby, 0o, and then start preaching to me about how nice it is we are muslims, o0
what the...
why are they so shameless?Why are man so shameless?
LOLZ ...
Your Questions today give me the feeling that You have had a fight or something with few men .... :)
Why are men so shameless???????????
Not all ... some
***I have had married man flirt with me in front of their wives before 0o as well as their children in tow at my workplace, ***
o.O ... X(
***Had them stare at me, while I WAS working, and one muslim man was even bold enough to say in his accent, he was ******** %26gt; dont care to spell out his culture***
OOH NOW I GET IT ... THAT IS WHY YOU ARE ANGRY AT MEN TODAY ...
I DO NOT OBJECT TO YOU NOW ... GO AHEAD...
***and said. hey baby, 0o, and then start preaching to me about how nice it is we are muslims, o0
what the...
why are they so shameless?***
Are you joking me ???
:( ... That man ... he took down all ';MANkind'; to shame ...
:(
LOLZ ... you really have funny people around you ...
I could never have lived up as a girl ...
Thank Allah i am a Boy
On no Soul does Allah place a burden greater than it has strength to bear...Why are man so shameless?
Throw something at them!
HAHA my goodness!
Hot coffee or tea in thier lap is good start.
If I was woman and men did that to me I would go up to them and whisper in their ear ';YOU DON'T HAVE THE BALLS!';
It is about hormones, women can be shameless too.
Stop being so ignorant, idiots.
Most men are perv's...
i get guys flirting all the time but ignore them coz they are cheap shyte..
but there are diamonds out there but are hard to find..ive found mine (alhamduallah)
he's a very respectful guy..
well why don't you ask why women are so spineless first that they let their husbands flirt with other women and don't say anything. Why didn't u give them a peice of ur mind?
asian guys won't disrespect you like that, hit it up with one and you will be surprise
Women are more shameless than man.
Its a fact.
So you're a feminist. Isn't that cute....
DO NOT GENERALIZE!
what if i started doing the same thing to women by saying stuff like:
why are women so flamboyant of their beauty and showy ......... blah blah blah.........
Men are NOT shameless.
the society is.
How did it come to be so? this is a better question that needs answering and deeper understanding.
AnS: Indoctrinism.
The more you tread away from the path laid out in the Holy scriptures, the more will you fall into the deciet of this world aka dunya.
Be your own example. That is what my advice is to you.
Adorn yourself in the similar attire that was once the way of the Holy Prohets wives (may Allah have mercy on their souls).
The world is full of fitnah i.e. falsehood.
To fight is , means you 'struggle in the way of Allah',
in other words, you are compelled to do Jihad.
I, have personally trained my eyes to lower their gaze onto the floor whenever i notice females from the opposte sex near me.
queer, right? =)
Not to me.
cause , if i were to have myself 'brainwashed' the other way round, i would feel humilated to read your question.
and rather would have left an angry retort. why?
because in this truly indoctrinistic world,
no sin is a sin anymore.
i would have stood up to my sin, (in this case flirting), to by my natural right, lol.
do you see my point.
Men wont change. You have to be the change for them.
I will leave you with a good answer from Shiekh Ahmed Deedat:
Answer By Ahmed Deedat-Nature of Men and wisdom - Veil/Hijab
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pHW6gCzpd鈥?/a>
some similat stuff i wanted to share :
why hijab?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CWsXlBUiz鈥?/a>
Tribute to Marwa Sherbini martyr of Hijab
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3T6b5xfj8鈥?/a>
Khalid yasin tells the reason for muslim women to wear hijab:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=awkRZxd_v鈥?/a>
Hope you did not get offended in any way.
may Allah guide us all to the rightful path. i.e. Islam.
Ameen.
Ladies ages 50-58. What would you do if a 18yr old man wanted to flirt with you?
Ladies Ages 50-58. What would you do if a 18 year old man wanted to go out with you and flirt with you? Would you tell him off? Would you be a friend with a 18yr old man? How far will you go? ls it okay for a young person to talk to an older woman that is old enough to be there Mom?
Or is it okay for an 18yr old man to be friends with a 50-58year old woman?Ladies ages 50-58. What would you do if a 18yr old man wanted to flirt with you?
yes we dig young meat :DLadies ages 50-58. What would you do if a 18yr old man wanted to flirt with you?
And what makes you think no mature woman would ever consider a fling with a boy toy? Older men of substance keep sexy young things as playmates, and so do older women - the women are just more discreet about it.
I had a damn good-looking squadmate who mis-spent his youth charming the pants off several mature women - who would spend lavishly on presents for him. This donkey's only problem was, instead of banking the presents, he blew it all - and when his older lady friends tired of him, he had to look for honest work - and wound up joining the Army. I'll tell ya - I REALLY enjoyed being his sergeant. He paid for being such a lizard - 'cuz one of the women he mucked around with was a favorite aunt of mine!
But hey - if you can find an older woman interested in you for that kind of thing - well, they are adults, after all. You'll go further if y'learn to dance - older gals love that!
wow im not that old, but i have dated a 40 year old man and a 45 year old woman when i was 20.
but woman typically in that age category wouldnt look at a 18 they think your a kid still, my grandma is 55 and still considers me a kid although im 21,
but who knows you might get lucky and find one for you, especially ladies that are that old and do botox and stuff trying to make themselves younger.
why would you want to date 30 years older then you anywase? there gonna die sooner then you.
Well, I'm not in my 50's, but my mom would probably laugh and walk away...she wouldn't take it seriously and I don't think any other 50 yr old woman would...its just too weird.
But in someone elses opinion, they would probably say that it depends on the woman..if she seems young for her age and doesn't mind so much, then it would be ok....but I don't think so.
OMG how could a woman of that age deal with an 18 year old, that should be the the question????
Friends like a MOM period. Unless the 18 year old has to something to prove?
By the way that goes for 58 year old men and 18 year old women too.
For me, I dont date any man younger than my oldest child who is 34. I dont want to be the ';momma'; in a relationship.
I am 53 and have a 40 yr old b/f and it is working ok for us. we been together for 9 months now. He is very mature for his age too.
Good Luck!
Hit on your friend's mom later
There are real things to deal with http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>
i think a woman should be flattered, but that is as far as it should go! We're talking more than 30 years age difference. i know I would have nothing in common with an 18 y/o boy!
this is what i would do .... even though im not that old
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>
im 20 my wife is 30 lol :) and yes im sure a 50 year old would be with someone younger , makes them feel young and besides all that where will u find an 18 year old that would want to be with u lol
Cougar Hunting, are we?
i noe i agree w/ that guyy. and plus wy would you want to go for old ladies!!?? thats just wierd and plus your 18!!!.
I'd be flatterred and then I'll ask him him what he'd say if someone flirts with his mother ...
Is this a survey for ur job or what?
Or is it okay for an 18yr old man to be friends with a 50-58year old woman?Ladies ages 50-58. What would you do if a 18yr old man wanted to flirt with you?
yes we dig young meat :DLadies ages 50-58. What would you do if a 18yr old man wanted to flirt with you?
And what makes you think no mature woman would ever consider a fling with a boy toy? Older men of substance keep sexy young things as playmates, and so do older women - the women are just more discreet about it.
I had a damn good-looking squadmate who mis-spent his youth charming the pants off several mature women - who would spend lavishly on presents for him. This donkey's only problem was, instead of banking the presents, he blew it all - and when his older lady friends tired of him, he had to look for honest work - and wound up joining the Army. I'll tell ya - I REALLY enjoyed being his sergeant. He paid for being such a lizard - 'cuz one of the women he mucked around with was a favorite aunt of mine!
But hey - if you can find an older woman interested in you for that kind of thing - well, they are adults, after all. You'll go further if y'learn to dance - older gals love that!
wow im not that old, but i have dated a 40 year old man and a 45 year old woman when i was 20.
but woman typically in that age category wouldnt look at a 18 they think your a kid still, my grandma is 55 and still considers me a kid although im 21,
but who knows you might get lucky and find one for you, especially ladies that are that old and do botox and stuff trying to make themselves younger.
why would you want to date 30 years older then you anywase? there gonna die sooner then you.
Well, I'm not in my 50's, but my mom would probably laugh and walk away...she wouldn't take it seriously and I don't think any other 50 yr old woman would...its just too weird.
But in someone elses opinion, they would probably say that it depends on the woman..if she seems young for her age and doesn't mind so much, then it would be ok....but I don't think so.
OMG how could a woman of that age deal with an 18 year old, that should be the the question????
Friends like a MOM period. Unless the 18 year old has to something to prove?
By the way that goes for 58 year old men and 18 year old women too.
For me, I dont date any man younger than my oldest child who is 34. I dont want to be the ';momma'; in a relationship.
I am 53 and have a 40 yr old b/f and it is working ok for us. we been together for 9 months now. He is very mature for his age too.
Good Luck!
Hit on your friend's mom later
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i think a woman should be flattered, but that is as far as it should go! We're talking more than 30 years age difference. i know I would have nothing in common with an 18 y/o boy!
this is what i would do .... even though im not that old
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im 20 my wife is 30 lol :) and yes im sure a 50 year old would be with someone younger , makes them feel young and besides all that where will u find an 18 year old that would want to be with u lol
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i noe i agree w/ that guyy. and plus wy would you want to go for old ladies!!?? thats just wierd and plus your 18!!!.
I'd be flatterred and then I'll ask him him what he'd say if someone flirts with his mother ...
Is this a survey for ur job or what?
Why do men do this?
Why is it that single men will flirt with you one day and be all in your face, then the next day they may just walk by and look at you and not even speak. Next time you see them, they are back to wanting you around them and flirting, smiling, and talking like crazy. What is the logic behind this? It's so confusing. How can you ever figure something out like that?Why do men do this?
I don't know, and I wish I knew. It seems like such mind games but, the couple times I confronted a guy on it, they claimed to be completely unaware of their behavior. Or, they were denying it. I try to be very consistent in how I treat others, for the very reason that I've experienced this and being as sensitive as I am, it has hurt me a great deal.Why do men do this?
i think that guys do that to keep you thinking, at the edge of your seat. calm down and good luck. ^_^
guys wonder the same thing about girls. what would keep them coming back for more but a little mystery? we all do it.
Just keeping you on your toes.
hmmmm well the truth is i don't really know y they do that but i think it's annoying because y can't they tell u that they like u instead of flirting around??? and now i think that guys hve SPLIT PERSONALITY because the first day they're gonna flirt with u then d nxt day they're gonna ignore u... it's really messed up and u can never figure out y they do that.... o and one more thing mayb they do tht because they're playing their ';game';... they do that alot! so if i were u i'm gonna b careful if u don't wanna get hurt in d end
I don't know, and I wish I knew. It seems like such mind games but, the couple times I confronted a guy on it, they claimed to be completely unaware of their behavior. Or, they were denying it. I try to be very consistent in how I treat others, for the very reason that I've experienced this and being as sensitive as I am, it has hurt me a great deal.Why do men do this?
i think that guys do that to keep you thinking, at the edge of your seat. calm down and good luck. ^_^
guys wonder the same thing about girls. what would keep them coming back for more but a little mystery? we all do it.
Just keeping you on your toes.
hmmmm well the truth is i don't really know y they do that but i think it's annoying because y can't they tell u that they like u instead of flirting around??? and now i think that guys hve SPLIT PERSONALITY because the first day they're gonna flirt with u then d nxt day they're gonna ignore u... it's really messed up and u can never figure out y they do that.... o and one more thing mayb they do tht because they're playing their ';game';... they do that alot! so if i were u i'm gonna b careful if u don't wanna get hurt in d end
How does a girl flirt with a man she likes, in a situation i will describe below?
She is a nurse and i am a payient, but obviously there are rules about getting involved. I want to know how a girl would flirt with a man in that kind of situation as opposed to in a club?How does a girl flirt with a man she likes, in a situation i will describe below?
i believe that she might check in on the person more than normal and just give them so extra time and attentionHow does a girl flirt with a man she likes, in a situation i will describe below?
visit the place alot but dont say its becauz ur hurt on the outside say my heart hearts but there is a cure if u give me a little kiss and if she enjoys it she will luv u!!! well i would
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i believe that she might check in on the person more than normal and just give them so extra time and attentionHow does a girl flirt with a man she likes, in a situation i will describe below?
visit the place alot but dont say its becauz ur hurt on the outside say my heart hearts but there is a cure if u give me a little kiss and if she enjoys it she will luv u!!! well i would
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Its ok for a married man to flirt with an attractive woman?
I'm in a theatre production with a guy and the flirtation has been very direct from him.Hes very attractive (and without being vain, so am I.)I enquired as to his status and found out that he is married though never refers to her and also has a girlfriend!
I have cooled off my flirtation since I heard this and honestly I am surprised as he is acting 100% like a single guy!
I said to another male actor'have you seen how flirtatious he is with me' and the other actor said 'its ok to flirt with an attractive woman, theres no harm in that'.
Well there is harm in that in my opinion!
I may be attractive and fun but I'm not a toy! Its confusing to get that attention and married men shouldnt behave like that!
What are your thoughts?Its ok for a married man to flirt with an attractive woman?
Flirting, cheating on his wife...he has TROUBLE written all over him.Its ok for a married man to flirt with an attractive woman?
Flirting is not the problem.
Left as flirting, it remains verbal.
That would go into the category of flattering conversation.
When flirting crosses over into courting more that is a whole different thing.
The guy you refer to sounds like a total jerk. Wife, girlfriend
working on you, not a good situation.
I think a small dose of flirting is healthy for a marriage, it gives a little something for them.. However he is just a dog so it sounds. He would probably just add you to his notch. Or whatever the guys say. Don't even give him any attention. You could probably get any guy you want. Single hopefully.. Just tell his wife do her a favor.
I'm married and my wife is a bartender so sometimes she flirt during the course of shift but nothing over the line. I understand her reasons but it the shoe was on the other foot she would not be happy with me being a bartender.. I don't think it's cool to flirt with other women just because I don't like to but myself in a position where I could bring harm to my marriage.
A little mild flirting is probably ok, if his wife doesn't mind. But it sounds like this character is WAY over the line (by miles). You were wise to cool off the flirtation, and you would be wiser yet to avoid him as much as your working together will allow.
I think that it is more important what you do than what he does......you have it in your power to stop him in his tracks.....he 's a loser....and that's just what should be done
I agree with you, a married man should not be flirting with any other woman but his wife, he can admire other women but that is different. Flirting is a persons way to give out signals to the opposite sex that they desire them. As you said, he is married and has a girlfriend too, so this should tell you he had intentions of getting to you so his flirting is not innocent at all and should not be viewed that way either.
I'm sure it must be ok by at least one of the players in the mix.
Depends on the word flirt. This guy is off for the following reason. You don't feel comfortable.
Flirting can be a good thing as a ego stroker. If a woman changes her hair style, I usually comment. If a woman likes my new shirt, my haircut, etc., it makes me feel better about myself. In these cases if either of us feels it is a come on, I back off. I also don't make a secret of my wife. Minor flirting is good, make someone's day brighter.
flirting is okay, and very natural. He's married not dead, he can still see. And when you marry your husband will flirt too. Now, where you both take the firting is what determines if it is right or wrong
totally wrong to flirt if you are married, absolutely wrong! you are correct! and you were absolutely right to back off! he has a girlfriend and a wife? probably looking for another girlfriend, and probably has a disease by now =(... stick to your guns! don't lower your standards just because someone thinks flirting causes no harm, I bet it would harm his wife if she found out! boy, I hope she finds out about that girlfriend, too... and dumps him! if I found out my husband was flirting w/ some other woman, I'd dump him... I don't take any crap...! =) and I don't flirt w/ men...I am a married woman! good luck to you...
no flirting is never OK he may look but never flirting or touching cheating on his wife. well i think if you are flirting then you will take it to the next level and that is not OK. he needs to stop or just be single all together.
You are right in giving him the cold shoulder. If only other women are like you, there will be no mistresses in this world. I admire you for doing the right thing.
I agree with you
I have cooled off my flirtation since I heard this and honestly I am surprised as he is acting 100% like a single guy!
I said to another male actor'have you seen how flirtatious he is with me' and the other actor said 'its ok to flirt with an attractive woman, theres no harm in that'.
Well there is harm in that in my opinion!
I may be attractive and fun but I'm not a toy! Its confusing to get that attention and married men shouldnt behave like that!
What are your thoughts?Its ok for a married man to flirt with an attractive woman?
Flirting, cheating on his wife...he has TROUBLE written all over him.Its ok for a married man to flirt with an attractive woman?
Flirting is not the problem.
Left as flirting, it remains verbal.
That would go into the category of flattering conversation.
When flirting crosses over into courting more that is a whole different thing.
The guy you refer to sounds like a total jerk. Wife, girlfriend
working on you, not a good situation.
I think a small dose of flirting is healthy for a marriage, it gives a little something for them.. However he is just a dog so it sounds. He would probably just add you to his notch. Or whatever the guys say. Don't even give him any attention. You could probably get any guy you want. Single hopefully.. Just tell his wife do her a favor.
I'm married and my wife is a bartender so sometimes she flirt during the course of shift but nothing over the line. I understand her reasons but it the shoe was on the other foot she would not be happy with me being a bartender.. I don't think it's cool to flirt with other women just because I don't like to but myself in a position where I could bring harm to my marriage.
A little mild flirting is probably ok, if his wife doesn't mind. But it sounds like this character is WAY over the line (by miles). You were wise to cool off the flirtation, and you would be wiser yet to avoid him as much as your working together will allow.
I think that it is more important what you do than what he does......you have it in your power to stop him in his tracks.....he 's a loser....and that's just what should be done
I agree with you, a married man should not be flirting with any other woman but his wife, he can admire other women but that is different. Flirting is a persons way to give out signals to the opposite sex that they desire them. As you said, he is married and has a girlfriend too, so this should tell you he had intentions of getting to you so his flirting is not innocent at all and should not be viewed that way either.
I'm sure it must be ok by at least one of the players in the mix.
Depends on the word flirt. This guy is off for the following reason. You don't feel comfortable.
Flirting can be a good thing as a ego stroker. If a woman changes her hair style, I usually comment. If a woman likes my new shirt, my haircut, etc., it makes me feel better about myself. In these cases if either of us feels it is a come on, I back off. I also don't make a secret of my wife. Minor flirting is good, make someone's day brighter.
flirting is okay, and very natural. He's married not dead, he can still see. And when you marry your husband will flirt too. Now, where you both take the firting is what determines if it is right or wrong
totally wrong to flirt if you are married, absolutely wrong! you are correct! and you were absolutely right to back off! he has a girlfriend and a wife? probably looking for another girlfriend, and probably has a disease by now =(... stick to your guns! don't lower your standards just because someone thinks flirting causes no harm, I bet it would harm his wife if she found out! boy, I hope she finds out about that girlfriend, too... and dumps him! if I found out my husband was flirting w/ some other woman, I'd dump him... I don't take any crap...! =) and I don't flirt w/ men...I am a married woman! good luck to you...
no flirting is never OK he may look but never flirting or touching cheating on his wife. well i think if you are flirting then you will take it to the next level and that is not OK. he needs to stop or just be single all together.
You are right in giving him the cold shoulder. If only other women are like you, there will be no mistresses in this world. I admire you for doing the right thing.
I agree with you
Why do men do this?
Why is it that single men will flirt with you one day and be all in your face, then the next day they may just walk by and look at you and not even speak. Next time you see them, they are back to wanting you around them and flirting, smiling, and talking like crazy. What is the logic behind this? It's so confusing. How can you ever figure something out like that?Why do men do this?
its a game. they want you to come up to them and start conversation. just my opinion. i think they are just trying to see how much you like them, and if you're diggin it as much as they are.
hope this helpsWhy do men do this?
I think that no is logic behind so. The boyfriend and girlfriend or married have that to love very. The love is important in the life of the person.
You're not suppose to.
probably the guy version of playing hard to get or something. .i dont really know though. who knows what goes through a guys head??
men r confusing and stupid
its a game. they want you to come up to them and start conversation. just my opinion. i think they are just trying to see how much you like them, and if you're diggin it as much as they are.
hope this helpsWhy do men do this?
I think that no is logic behind so. The boyfriend and girlfriend or married have that to love very. The love is important in the life of the person.
You're not suppose to.
probably the guy version of playing hard to get or something. .i dont really know though. who knows what goes through a guys head??
men r confusing and stupid
How should I fight the temptation to cheat?
I'm in a relationship and lately I find myself attracted to the gorgeous younger men who flirt with me at school. I haven't done anything wrong, but the temptation is always there. There is one particular guy who I've always thought was really appealing. Yesterday, he approached me, talked to me, and sat near me in class. He is really sexy. There are also three others in that class who have approached me...all really handsome. I love my bf, but how do I keep fighting temptation?How should I fight the temptation to cheat?
always remember cheating = REGRET
straighten up and smarten up! temptations are everywhere it's a matter of how you keep that self-control, dignity, self respect and respect most especially to your boyfriend. just stay away from those guys or just keep it casual.How should I fight the temptation to cheat?
If you're in a strong, trusting relationship, and he's holding up his end of the deal, then that should be well enough, since it is well known that to have a guy who doesn't do the cheating is well worth holding on to. Especially if you can see the relationship going somewhere towards marriage in any near future. So many modern so-called relationships are merely a little more than being a ';steady date'; these days because sex enters into the equation so easy and early that it makes it hard on people to really stay true because they may get to wondering if they did the right thing by getting into that situation so quickly. It can make the head swim a bit and wonder if you did the right thing by committing to a relationship so soon.
If you are that tempted, then maybe you shouldn't be in a relationship. Maybe you are still too immature and selfish to be in one, or maybe you just don't really want to be in one. In any case, set your boyfriend free because it sounds to me like you really want to spread yourself around. How do you know that your boyfriend hasn't also been approached by other women and was strong enough to tell them no that he was in a committed relationship? If you are truly in love, there are no other temptations. A true, real, independent, confident woman would be able to control herself if she really didn't want to cheat. We live in a society where the low class, unacceptable behavior has become the accepted and the norm. I believe it is about time that we started raising our standards again instead of staying a society of low class, no class, sorry a** es.
If you don't want to be faithful, cut him lose. If it was meant to be, you will find your way back to him one day...if he'll have you.
Honestly the only way to fight the temptation is actually to stay away from those handsome man....since we know that is impossible since you are in school....I advise would be to stay focus on your school work, and when your mine start to wondering to other guys...think about your boyfriend....all good times you had, or just how much you love him....if necessary carry picture of him so that you can look at...or at those moments when you are wondering, bring your self back by texting him..
I know exactly how you feel. I'm in love with my bf, but when I started my new job I crushed on a guy. We started to talk and then we kissed. I confided in my roommate but she went behind my back and told my bf. We broke-up and took time, talked about it and are together again. But dont risk hurting him if you really care. It's not worth it and you feel horrible. I made him cry..plus, in the long run, those other guys probably cant make you feel like he makes you feel. Always think about him when you get those feelings. Be strong and the best of luck!
If you're always tempted to cheat on him, maybe he isn't the right one for you. When I was with my ex I still noticed other guys. With my current boyfriend I can honestly say that there is *nothing* another guy could do for me and I don't even think of them that way.
Cheating is stupid and it will only screw things up. If you are in love with your guy, stick with him. If you'd rather be with someone else or play the field, just leave him. It isn't worth the regret and pain.
If the temptation to cheat is that strong and ongoing maybe you should re-evaluate your relationship. But if you find that you really want to pursue any of these other guys, do the decent thing and break off your relationship before you cause more pain than is necessary.
This is really hard to do. Going thru the same thing with a guy at work. Its becoming insane because its hard to keep your mind on your BF when your also attracted to someone else. I dont know how to fix it but i feel ya on this one. Ive been just trying to stay away as much as possible so hopefully it will lessen.
think abt how u would react if ur bf was cheating on u!!!!
he would lose all respect for u and everyone else will too and u will be lonely, so, thinking abt that thought, u should be able to fight the temptation. its not ur fault if u find any guy sexy, but u have to know that u chose ur bf and thus he is the sexiest!!
lol!
anyway,
hope i helped........
don't cheat you and ur boyfriend love each other and u might seriously hurt him by doing that sure at times u may think hes an *** but that does'nt give u the right to cheat and if u did that i promise to u that in the end u are going to miss him like hell and its going to eat you up inside because he never cheated on u
Well here's the thing if you say you love your boyfriend then why would you have any temptations to cheat? Think on how he would feel and what you would do if he did that to you. You don't want to be labeled as a whore.
If you truly love your boyfriend...the temptation wouldn't be there. He would be the most amazing person in your eyes...and nobody in the world could tempt you to cheat. If you're thinking about cheating...do him a favor and break up with him.
Remember that you would be a spineless whore if you did cheat on him and everyone (well...me) would lose any respect for you they have. you'll be throwing away a relationship for a fling which is very stupid.
Um... Obviously you should not cheat. If you want to break things off then do that.
Why would you want to hurt both guys by cheating?
Cheating will hurt both of them and even you
Just keep thinking about you bf and ignore those guys. But it seems like you might not be sure of your bf if other guys are appealing and sexy to you.
Don't fight it just go with it!!!! You only live once. That girl (Niki) who was crazy talking has no clue what she's talking about!!
it's your life girl go f u c k whoever u want and let your bf f u c k whoever he wants
if u really love wit u wouldnt
whenever u see them, just think how sad he would b if u cheated on him. but if there REALLY hot... then i say leave em
Willpower, and common decency.
always remember cheating = REGRET
straighten up and smarten up! temptations are everywhere it's a matter of how you keep that self-control, dignity, self respect and respect most especially to your boyfriend. just stay away from those guys or just keep it casual.How should I fight the temptation to cheat?
If you're in a strong, trusting relationship, and he's holding up his end of the deal, then that should be well enough, since it is well known that to have a guy who doesn't do the cheating is well worth holding on to. Especially if you can see the relationship going somewhere towards marriage in any near future. So many modern so-called relationships are merely a little more than being a ';steady date'; these days because sex enters into the equation so easy and early that it makes it hard on people to really stay true because they may get to wondering if they did the right thing by getting into that situation so quickly. It can make the head swim a bit and wonder if you did the right thing by committing to a relationship so soon.
If you are that tempted, then maybe you shouldn't be in a relationship. Maybe you are still too immature and selfish to be in one, or maybe you just don't really want to be in one. In any case, set your boyfriend free because it sounds to me like you really want to spread yourself around. How do you know that your boyfriend hasn't also been approached by other women and was strong enough to tell them no that he was in a committed relationship? If you are truly in love, there are no other temptations. A true, real, independent, confident woman would be able to control herself if she really didn't want to cheat. We live in a society where the low class, unacceptable behavior has become the accepted and the norm. I believe it is about time that we started raising our standards again instead of staying a society of low class, no class, sorry a** es.
If you don't want to be faithful, cut him lose. If it was meant to be, you will find your way back to him one day...if he'll have you.
Honestly the only way to fight the temptation is actually to stay away from those handsome man....since we know that is impossible since you are in school....I advise would be to stay focus on your school work, and when your mine start to wondering to other guys...think about your boyfriend....all good times you had, or just how much you love him....if necessary carry picture of him so that you can look at...or at those moments when you are wondering, bring your self back by texting him..
I know exactly how you feel. I'm in love with my bf, but when I started my new job I crushed on a guy. We started to talk and then we kissed. I confided in my roommate but she went behind my back and told my bf. We broke-up and took time, talked about it and are together again. But dont risk hurting him if you really care. It's not worth it and you feel horrible. I made him cry..plus, in the long run, those other guys probably cant make you feel like he makes you feel. Always think about him when you get those feelings. Be strong and the best of luck!
If you're always tempted to cheat on him, maybe he isn't the right one for you. When I was with my ex I still noticed other guys. With my current boyfriend I can honestly say that there is *nothing* another guy could do for me and I don't even think of them that way.
Cheating is stupid and it will only screw things up. If you are in love with your guy, stick with him. If you'd rather be with someone else or play the field, just leave him. It isn't worth the regret and pain.
If the temptation to cheat is that strong and ongoing maybe you should re-evaluate your relationship. But if you find that you really want to pursue any of these other guys, do the decent thing and break off your relationship before you cause more pain than is necessary.
This is really hard to do. Going thru the same thing with a guy at work. Its becoming insane because its hard to keep your mind on your BF when your also attracted to someone else. I dont know how to fix it but i feel ya on this one. Ive been just trying to stay away as much as possible so hopefully it will lessen.
think abt how u would react if ur bf was cheating on u!!!!
he would lose all respect for u and everyone else will too and u will be lonely, so, thinking abt that thought, u should be able to fight the temptation. its not ur fault if u find any guy sexy, but u have to know that u chose ur bf and thus he is the sexiest!!
lol!
anyway,
hope i helped........
don't cheat you and ur boyfriend love each other and u might seriously hurt him by doing that sure at times u may think hes an *** but that does'nt give u the right to cheat and if u did that i promise to u that in the end u are going to miss him like hell and its going to eat you up inside because he never cheated on u
Well here's the thing if you say you love your boyfriend then why would you have any temptations to cheat? Think on how he would feel and what you would do if he did that to you. You don't want to be labeled as a whore.
If you truly love your boyfriend...the temptation wouldn't be there. He would be the most amazing person in your eyes...and nobody in the world could tempt you to cheat. If you're thinking about cheating...do him a favor and break up with him.
Remember that you would be a spineless whore if you did cheat on him and everyone (well...me) would lose any respect for you they have. you'll be throwing away a relationship for a fling which is very stupid.
Um... Obviously you should not cheat. If you want to break things off then do that.
Why would you want to hurt both guys by cheating?
Cheating will hurt both of them and even you
Just keep thinking about you bf and ignore those guys. But it seems like you might not be sure of your bf if other guys are appealing and sexy to you.
Don't fight it just go with it!!!! You only live once. That girl (Niki) who was crazy talking has no clue what she's talking about!!
it's your life girl go f u c k whoever u want and let your bf f u c k whoever he wants
if u really love wit u wouldnt
whenever u see them, just think how sad he would b if u cheated on him. but if there REALLY hot... then i say leave em
Willpower, and common decency.
Why do men do this?
Why is it that single men will flirt with you one day and be all in your face, then the next day they may just walk by and look at you and not even speak. Next time you see them, they are back to wanting you around them and flirting, smiling, and talking like crazy. What is the logic behind this? It's so confusing. How can you ever figure something out like that?Why do men do this?
Before you think it's all the men's fault, what kind of ';aura'; are you giving off? Maybe you're not making him feel welcome to flirt, or sending out bad vibes. I'm not saying you are, just think about it for awhile. Men like to flirt, and if the woman is receptive, and open to it, they usually do it until you make them stop.....Why do men do this?
I hope my advice helped. Thank you for ';best answer';.
not all men.Some men are immature all their life.
OK here it is.... The one day he all flirt and sh!t and them the next day hething. Maybe he had something important on his mind and he wanted you to start it to see if you were intrested. You like him then start it if you don't your going to lose him and be another female who in like 5 years is going see him and say me and him use to flirt at work, now i'm fat and live with my mom at 32 years old..
Your asking how you can understand that behavior? Well its simple, how do you react to that behavior of flirting? I guy never understands a woman. And you want to understand us? We are all in trouble then. If you ignore a man's flirtatious manners towards you he wont keep doing it until he works up enough nerve to try again. Until you tell them I am not interested, they will keep doing the same thing they know how. I guess we, us men, need to catch a woman on the righ day to get an answer. Did I give you one? (Answer)
Because they are playing the field. You are not the only one they are flirting with. Don't take anything seriously with guys like this. Leave them alone and go for the nice guys. There are plenty of nice guys out there who do not play games like this.
logic would say ';stay away from him';
cuz thats how i roll!
When you say flirt what are you talking about there are all forms of flirting .If you are talking sex after the flirting then he has already had you why bother go to the next girl.
Oh.....you didn't get the memo? Men are retarded!!
they are playing hard to get and trying to keep their options open too
Before you think it's all the men's fault, what kind of ';aura'; are you giving off? Maybe you're not making him feel welcome to flirt, or sending out bad vibes. I'm not saying you are, just think about it for awhile. Men like to flirt, and if the woman is receptive, and open to it, they usually do it until you make them stop.....Why do men do this?
I hope my advice helped. Thank you for ';best answer';.
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not all men.Some men are immature all their life.
OK here it is.... The one day he all flirt and sh!t and them the next day hething. Maybe he had something important on his mind and he wanted you to start it to see if you were intrested. You like him then start it if you don't your going to lose him and be another female who in like 5 years is going see him and say me and him use to flirt at work, now i'm fat and live with my mom at 32 years old..
Your asking how you can understand that behavior? Well its simple, how do you react to that behavior of flirting? I guy never understands a woman. And you want to understand us? We are all in trouble then. If you ignore a man's flirtatious manners towards you he wont keep doing it until he works up enough nerve to try again. Until you tell them I am not interested, they will keep doing the same thing they know how. I guess we, us men, need to catch a woman on the righ day to get an answer. Did I give you one? (Answer)
Because they are playing the field. You are not the only one they are flirting with. Don't take anything seriously with guys like this. Leave them alone and go for the nice guys. There are plenty of nice guys out there who do not play games like this.
logic would say ';stay away from him';
cuz thats how i roll!
When you say flirt what are you talking about there are all forms of flirting .If you are talking sex after the flirting then he has already had you why bother go to the next girl.
Oh.....you didn't get the memo? Men are retarded!!
they are playing hard to get and trying to keep their options open too
Why do older men think its ok to flirt with teens?
I'm 16 and I get all these creepy 30 year old men hitting on me. I know its just flirting, but i'm pretty sure they wanna do me. I don't dress like a slut. :/ it happens to my friends too. I'm all for older guys, but not 30 year olds. Creepers. How can i get them to stop? its not flattering.Why do older men think its ok to flirt with teens?
Speaking only for myself, we tend not to think of how old we are, but how old we feel. I am 41, and even though I would never hit on any young girls, especially a 16 year old, I do still look at the pretty ones, just can't help that.Why do older men think its ok to flirt with teens?
iN MANY CASES ITS NOT ABOUT CREEPY ITS AS THEY ARE THE SAME MENTAL AGE AND YOU ARE FUN... WHEN YOU ARE 16-19 you usually have lots of mates to hang out with and have fun all the time, go to parties, kissing is a great thing and people want to amke out and feel close and are openly affectionate and dont care who sees.
Most 30 year olds will be coupled up and boring only staying at home or having boring dinner parties or goign to the boring pub.
Not clubbing and gigging and partying hard.
Some guys are jerks. Many just aint had many girlfriends so kinds teen trapped in adult body as never had a serious realtionship so never grew up.
Also biologically 16-19 is when girls are most fertile and helthiest so have the most baby making potential so come accross sexiest.
they probably don't realize how old you are. when i'm downtown people are always asking me to register to vote-- they're so surprised when they learn i'm 15.
when it happens, just say ';excuse me, but i'm underage';. 99% of the time they'll walk away. the 1% who don't are the real creepers.
';Speaking only for myself, we tend not to think of how old we are, but how old we feel. I am 41, and even though I would never hit on any young girls, especially a 16 year old, I do still look at the pretty ones, just can't help that.'; thats sick. i'm 30 and a guy. I don't even look at anyone under 20. thats nasty. they're perverts.
It really is creepy and uncomfortable. I remember being that age. First I would just say no in a firm way. If they say anything else, tell them you report perverts to the police, can you have their name please? But also, don't be in places where it's isolated or dangerous alone.
Its called pedophilia and it is a very popular sport for men ages 30 and up. They try to see who can get the youngest girl in bed and not go to jail. The winner usually gets a $10 gift certificate for McDonalds or something.
i know its gross!!!
i was at the store today and some guy was taking pics of me because i heard the camera sound go off and i turned around and he had the camera pointed to my side and when i looked at his face he smiled
ugh i swear if i find it online im gonna track him down and kill him
he looked about 25
I get that a lot sometimes too. Ignore them. They're clearly immature and pathetic if they can't get girls there own age. Not all guys are like that. I know guys in there 20s-40s who don't flirt with or look at girls under 20. (:
Look them dead in the eye and say ';You are old enough to be my father and you are creeping me out.'; or ';Why dont you go find a woman your own age to hit on?'; I bet that will stop it!
Men like younger women. I don't know why. I also think it's unappropiate. I mean, if some 70 year old lady came up to me and started hitting on me, I'd be scared!
just tell them you'll call the cops if they don't leave you alone. Also tell them they're creepy for hitting on you. That should do it.
cause they're freaks and think young chicks will fulfill some freaky fantasies they have. just be a ***** tell them to fu*k off and that old saggy balls dont appeal to you....its gross but trust me it works
honey the older u get.. the creepier and the older they will get. trust me.. it will never stop.. that's just men for ya.. lol
ugh tell me about ittt.. i hate walking on the street with a friend and getting honked at. i dont even dress slutty. or getting checked out in the grocery store or swim pool. its real akward..
avoid all contact (eye contact) dont go anywhere by yourself and dont stay out late at night let your parents know stay away from them and let the police know
you cant get them to stop unless you avoid all contact!!! its impossible. just ignore them and tell them youre jailbait... maybe they will back off
Speaking only for myself, we tend not to think of how old we are, but how old we feel. I am 41, and even though I would never hit on any young girls, especially a 16 year old, I do still look at the pretty ones, just can't help that.Why do older men think its ok to flirt with teens?
iN MANY CASES ITS NOT ABOUT CREEPY ITS AS THEY ARE THE SAME MENTAL AGE AND YOU ARE FUN... WHEN YOU ARE 16-19 you usually have lots of mates to hang out with and have fun all the time, go to parties, kissing is a great thing and people want to amke out and feel close and are openly affectionate and dont care who sees.
Most 30 year olds will be coupled up and boring only staying at home or having boring dinner parties or goign to the boring pub.
Not clubbing and gigging and partying hard.
Some guys are jerks. Many just aint had many girlfriends so kinds teen trapped in adult body as never had a serious realtionship so never grew up.
Also biologically 16-19 is when girls are most fertile and helthiest so have the most baby making potential so come accross sexiest.
they probably don't realize how old you are. when i'm downtown people are always asking me to register to vote-- they're so surprised when they learn i'm 15.
when it happens, just say ';excuse me, but i'm underage';. 99% of the time they'll walk away. the 1% who don't are the real creepers.
';Speaking only for myself, we tend not to think of how old we are, but how old we feel. I am 41, and even though I would never hit on any young girls, especially a 16 year old, I do still look at the pretty ones, just can't help that.'; thats sick. i'm 30 and a guy. I don't even look at anyone under 20. thats nasty. they're perverts.
It really is creepy and uncomfortable. I remember being that age. First I would just say no in a firm way. If they say anything else, tell them you report perverts to the police, can you have their name please? But also, don't be in places where it's isolated or dangerous alone.
Its called pedophilia and it is a very popular sport for men ages 30 and up. They try to see who can get the youngest girl in bed and not go to jail. The winner usually gets a $10 gift certificate for McDonalds or something.
i know its gross!!!
i was at the store today and some guy was taking pics of me because i heard the camera sound go off and i turned around and he had the camera pointed to my side and when i looked at his face he smiled
ugh i swear if i find it online im gonna track him down and kill him
he looked about 25
I get that a lot sometimes too. Ignore them. They're clearly immature and pathetic if they can't get girls there own age. Not all guys are like that. I know guys in there 20s-40s who don't flirt with or look at girls under 20. (:
Look them dead in the eye and say ';You are old enough to be my father and you are creeping me out.'; or ';Why dont you go find a woman your own age to hit on?'; I bet that will stop it!
Men like younger women. I don't know why. I also think it's unappropiate. I mean, if some 70 year old lady came up to me and started hitting on me, I'd be scared!
just tell them you'll call the cops if they don't leave you alone. Also tell them they're creepy for hitting on you. That should do it.
cause they're freaks and think young chicks will fulfill some freaky fantasies they have. just be a ***** tell them to fu*k off and that old saggy balls dont appeal to you....its gross but trust me it works
honey the older u get.. the creepier and the older they will get. trust me.. it will never stop.. that's just men for ya.. lol
ugh tell me about ittt.. i hate walking on the street with a friend and getting honked at. i dont even dress slutty. or getting checked out in the grocery store or swim pool. its real akward..
avoid all contact (eye contact) dont go anywhere by yourself and dont stay out late at night let your parents know stay away from them and let the police know
you cant get them to stop unless you avoid all contact!!! its impossible. just ignore them and tell them youre jailbait... maybe they will back off
Why do older men think its ok to flirt with teens?
I'm 16 and I get all these creepy 30 year old men hitting on me. I know its just flirting, but i'm pretty sure they wanna do me. I don't dress like a slut. :/ it happens to my friends too. I'm all for older guys, but not 30 year olds. Creepers. How can i get them to stop? its not flattering.Why do older men think its ok to flirt with teens?
the same reason 16 year old boys think it's oK to flirt with you. they just wanna do you, tooWhy do older men think its ok to flirt with teens?
Act like a little kid? Stop growing up. Don't turn into a woman. Guys are attracted to young, attractive females.
Scientifically, straight males are naturally attracted to females of breeding age when they become women.
Also, teens should stop flirting with older men so much. It makes them do stupid things.
I found out at an early age that If you tell them something along the lines Of ( Aww, that's so funny,You remind me Of My dad,) Or better yet (grandpa) they will leave you alone...
because younger girls are dumber and easier.
Because they are pervs lolCan humans catch giardia from dogs house call
the same reason 16 year old boys think it's oK to flirt with you. they just wanna do you, tooWhy do older men think its ok to flirt with teens?
Act like a little kid? Stop growing up. Don't turn into a woman. Guys are attracted to young, attractive females.
Scientifically, straight males are naturally attracted to females of breeding age when they become women.
Also, teens should stop flirting with older men so much. It makes them do stupid things.
I found out at an early age that If you tell them something along the lines Of ( Aww, that's so funny,You remind me Of My dad,) Or better yet (grandpa) they will leave you alone...
because younger girls are dumber and easier.
Because they are pervs lol
There is a girl I cannot stand - how can I punish her?
There is a girl who is loud and sassy. She always talks about sex and intimate things, and is always flirting with men and being free with her body. How can I punish her to show her that I do not agree with what she is doing and that I find her annoying?There is a girl I cannot stand - how can I punish her?
tell her straight up
i hate people like that and i wish i had the courage to just go up and slap them when they act like thatThere is a girl I cannot stand - how can I punish her?
You should never punish someone for their actions, you need to be the bigger person. If shes very easy with her body, her day will come that will affect her more than anything you could do. Just because you don't agree with the way she is doesn't mean you have the right to punish her. Each person is their own and we might not agree with everything they do, but you need to worry about yourself and just let it go. Is it effecting you? if no, just worry about something else. men arn't going to see her for anything but a piece of ***, she will never be taken seriously as long as she continues to act this way, but that's her problem.
First off....wrong attitude. Unless she's your daughter, thinking you're going to be able to ';punish'; her is prooooobably not going to work.
But I agree with others, ignoring her will probably not make her stop, but it will definately send her the message that you do not approve.
And, if you're a guy and she tries to flirt with you, you might be able to explain your feelings in a little bit more detail.
The thing is...you can't. She's not hurting you. Your option is to simple go somewhere she's not. If it's a work or school setting report her. You have no right to punish anyone who isn't hurting you, or anyone else. Let her be a loud annoying woman, isn't her disrespecting herself punishment enough?
Why would you have to punish her.
That's not your job or any human for that matter
Just ignore her, dont go by her and make sure to stay clear
And remember you don't need to punish anyone, we are all just
HUMAN and we all make MISTAKES
IF she's in your highschool, tell her she'd be making more money selling her body off to people if she weren't in school but on the corner of the street or in the parking lot of a bar. Or just tell her to stick it up her.... well.... you get the idea.
just don't give her the attention she obviously wants.
or try talking to her. she may have problems at home that she deals with differently or something.
but do not punish her. there are two sides to every story.
WOW!
Um yeah. Are you sure you should punish her? You might stoop down to her level in order to do so.
Just avoid her. If she's really that much of a whor...I mean horrible person, leave her alone.
hahaha... You can't...But, you can get a penis pump because you are obviously trying to over compensate for that little pinky finger in your pull-ups
i punished this girl in my camp one year by putting red ink on her seat so when she sat on it she would then walk around with every one seseing her ';period';
shoot yourself in the head bastard
you shouldn't punish people just because you don't like their opinion
Ignore her. She's looking for attention, and by ignoring her you'll hurt her the most.
You don't punish her - you are not her parent. Try to be more tolerant. If you have a real issue with it walk away.
Cook her alive in an oven.
try to date her---but she'll probably just reject youu for the millionth time.
tell her straight up
i hate people like that and i wish i had the courage to just go up and slap them when they act like thatThere is a girl I cannot stand - how can I punish her?
You should never punish someone for their actions, you need to be the bigger person. If shes very easy with her body, her day will come that will affect her more than anything you could do. Just because you don't agree with the way she is doesn't mean you have the right to punish her. Each person is their own and we might not agree with everything they do, but you need to worry about yourself and just let it go. Is it effecting you? if no, just worry about something else. men arn't going to see her for anything but a piece of ***, she will never be taken seriously as long as she continues to act this way, but that's her problem.
First off....wrong attitude. Unless she's your daughter, thinking you're going to be able to ';punish'; her is prooooobably not going to work.
But I agree with others, ignoring her will probably not make her stop, but it will definately send her the message that you do not approve.
And, if you're a guy and she tries to flirt with you, you might be able to explain your feelings in a little bit more detail.
The thing is...you can't. She's not hurting you. Your option is to simple go somewhere she's not. If it's a work or school setting report her. You have no right to punish anyone who isn't hurting you, or anyone else. Let her be a loud annoying woman, isn't her disrespecting herself punishment enough?
Why would you have to punish her.
That's not your job or any human for that matter
Just ignore her, dont go by her and make sure to stay clear
And remember you don't need to punish anyone, we are all just
HUMAN and we all make MISTAKES
IF she's in your highschool, tell her she'd be making more money selling her body off to people if she weren't in school but on the corner of the street or in the parking lot of a bar. Or just tell her to stick it up her.... well.... you get the idea.
just don't give her the attention she obviously wants.
or try talking to her. she may have problems at home that she deals with differently or something.
but do not punish her. there are two sides to every story.
WOW!
Um yeah. Are you sure you should punish her? You might stoop down to her level in order to do so.
Just avoid her. If she's really that much of a whor...I mean horrible person, leave her alone.
hahaha... You can't...But, you can get a penis pump because you are obviously trying to over compensate for that little pinky finger in your pull-ups
i punished this girl in my camp one year by putting red ink on her seat so when she sat on it she would then walk around with every one seseing her ';period';
shoot yourself in the head bastard
you shouldn't punish people just because you don't like their opinion
Ignore her. She's looking for attention, and by ignoring her you'll hurt her the most.
You don't punish her - you are not her parent. Try to be more tolerant. If you have a real issue with it walk away.
Cook her alive in an oven.
try to date her---but she'll probably just reject youu for the millionth time.
Men, is flirting a natural way of life for you?
my bf proclaimed in tears his feelings for me that he has fallen in love with me and that he is hoping we will get married. and yes we are both adults. my ? is that he is a little bit of a flirt online. he says its all a game and to relax. but, gets upset when i ask so how is ##### (the girls' names). he tells me i don't ask you about the men in your life and then he names my exs and male friends. and told me he barely talks to them at all. and that i am turning us into an old married couple when i ask to say hi from both of us. i befriended one online and he kind of flipped out said it didn't feel right for his gf to be talking to his friends online. he is very shy in real life as well and has a tendency to stick his foot in his mouth. i know he is not cheating on me because of his religious beliefs to not sleep around and he has practically proposed to me. he is planning our future together. also he refuses to let me be honest and tell him about men hitting on me.Men, is flirting a natural way of life for you?
it's normal.
it's normal.
Why are gay men such flirts ?
ive noticed that all the gay men i know and ones i don't know that i meet at work are so flirty like they always tell me how pretty i am or how they love my hair or my makeup or my skin and winking at me and i see them doing this to other girls as well not just me and like the gay guys i do know they smack my *** and play with my hair i don't have a problem with it lol but its like dude your homo what the hell are you doing ?
do they know that their doing it ?
its not like a straight guy flirting tho its not ';i wanna have sex with you'; flirting but its definitely flirting i feel like allot of gay men are like this with women maybe not all of them but the ones ive seen and met are .
so why do gay guys flirt with women ?Why are gay men such flirts ?
I don't know if it's flirting if it's not sexual. I would call it just complimenting.Why are gay men such flirts ?
I m bisexual
i m really flirty
well basically if i like smething
i say it
i m open minded and say whatevers on my mind IF it is appropriate and
NOT awkward for the flirtee
its just how we r
I'm like this with practically every girl I meet. For me it's fun because it's harmless. I know nothing can come from it. The only problem with it is that most people think I'm straight unless I tell them I'm gay and I'll forget that when flirting with girls who don't know I'm gay, so then they think I'm actually interested in them so they develop a crush and the awkward ';Sorry, I'm gay, I don't actually like you...'; conversation comes into play.
But like I said, I flirt because it's harmless. If I flirt with a guy and he rejects me, my feelings get hurt. If I flirt with a girl and she rejects me I don't feel hurt because I didn't really want her anyway.
do they know that their doing it ?
its not like a straight guy flirting tho its not ';i wanna have sex with you'; flirting but its definitely flirting i feel like allot of gay men are like this with women maybe not all of them but the ones ive seen and met are .
so why do gay guys flirt with women ?Why are gay men such flirts ?
I don't know if it's flirting if it's not sexual. I would call it just complimenting.Why are gay men such flirts ?
I m bisexual
i m really flirty
well basically if i like smething
i say it
i m open minded and say whatevers on my mind IF it is appropriate and
NOT awkward for the flirtee
its just how we r
I'm like this with practically every girl I meet. For me it's fun because it's harmless. I know nothing can come from it. The only problem with it is that most people think I'm straight unless I tell them I'm gay and I'll forget that when flirting with girls who don't know I'm gay, so then they think I'm actually interested in them so they develop a crush and the awkward ';Sorry, I'm gay, I don't actually like you...'; conversation comes into play.
But like I said, I flirt because it's harmless. If I flirt with a guy and he rejects me, my feelings get hurt. If I flirt with a girl and she rejects me I don't feel hurt because I didn't really want her anyway.
Adult Men: How do you flirt?
I don't want to read another article in a magazine about this, I want to hear it straight from your lips.
What do you catch yourself doing when you're really interested in a woman? Do you have any signature ';moves?';
It's so hard to figure out whether the fact that he smacks me with the remote control is a flirty move or whether he lifts his shirt and rubs his stomach is a flirty move?
What kind of things do you do?Adult Men: How do you flirt?
There is no signature moves.
Because there is no single method that works with all of them.
Each woman is different, so much of it is invented on the fly.
The basic line is to feel whether the female feels comfortable with my company, does she have a sense of humor to laugh, does she feel relaxed to talk for more than 2 minutes, does she move away as you draw near....essentially do a set of stimuli to see how she responds in different situations.
After meeting, is it I that kissed her, or did we kiss?
Did I hug her, or did we hug?
Your guy lifting his shirt up to rub his belly is more like trying to get his dinner digested. Not sexy, more like inappropriate unless that is his signature move...strange one if you ask me.Adult Men: How do you flirt?
My way of flirting with women, (and I do that a lot ;-) -- TEASE!
Teasing, using a lot of cocky-funny humor works.
And I know you said you didn't want to read another article, but I had to put in a link. Enjoy!!
What do you catch yourself doing when you're really interested in a woman? Do you have any signature ';moves?';
It's so hard to figure out whether the fact that he smacks me with the remote control is a flirty move or whether he lifts his shirt and rubs his stomach is a flirty move?
What kind of things do you do?Adult Men: How do you flirt?
There is no signature moves.
Because there is no single method that works with all of them.
Each woman is different, so much of it is invented on the fly.
The basic line is to feel whether the female feels comfortable with my company, does she have a sense of humor to laugh, does she feel relaxed to talk for more than 2 minutes, does she move away as you draw near....essentially do a set of stimuli to see how she responds in different situations.
After meeting, is it I that kissed her, or did we kiss?
Did I hug her, or did we hug?
Your guy lifting his shirt up to rub his belly is more like trying to get his dinner digested. Not sexy, more like inappropriate unless that is his signature move...strange one if you ask me.Adult Men: How do you flirt?
My way of flirting with women, (and I do that a lot ;-) -- TEASE!
Teasing, using a lot of cocky-funny humor works.
And I know you said you didn't want to read another article, but I had to put in a link. Enjoy!!
How to talk to my mom about getting a divorce?
Long story short, my parents' marriage is completely shot. My dad is tearing the family apart, and is nothing but a burden to us. He verbally abuses my mother, and she just takes it. Their marriage, as I said before, is irreparable.
She's too afraid to divorce him because:
1. She's afraid to stand up to him
2. She believes in the ';go down with the ship'; philosophy on marriage
3. She doesn't think she'd be able to find someone else
4. She's afraid of what would happen to him after a divorce
My POV on these issues:
1. Standing up to him isn't easy, but he's a coward at heart.
2. I don't take a marriage lightly, but when your spouse is the cause of 99.9% of the stress in your life and is unbearable to be around, and shows no sign of changing, you OWE IT TO YOURSELF to get away from them.
3. My mom looks good for her age, and men flirt with her all the time. She doesn't have to be married to be happy.
4. The fact that he's leeched off of us for so long may make a transition to complete independence hard, but it's his own damn fault, not hers!
Do you see what I mean?
Any other points I should bring up, or sides of the argument I may be missing?
Would he really be entitled to half of everything?How to talk to my mom about getting a divorce?
Organize your thoughts, points, and your arguments in the form of a Letter to her.l Be articulate and clear. Ambiguity in your argument is problematic. Whether you use that letter as an outline for a discussion or you just send it to her via the mail is a judgement call which only you can make.
Tell her how the situation is distressing and/or harmful to you, herself, and/or others.
Tell her that you want to plan a day and time when you can discuss this with her.
Be aware that your mom may have issues which she has not communicated to you.
Some people find care-taking an empowering role. It can give them a sense of purpose.
What he is entitled to will vary depending upon what State/Province, or Country they live in.
She's too afraid to divorce him because:
1. She's afraid to stand up to him
2. She believes in the ';go down with the ship'; philosophy on marriage
3. She doesn't think she'd be able to find someone else
4. She's afraid of what would happen to him after a divorce
My POV on these issues:
1. Standing up to him isn't easy, but he's a coward at heart.
2. I don't take a marriage lightly, but when your spouse is the cause of 99.9% of the stress in your life and is unbearable to be around, and shows no sign of changing, you OWE IT TO YOURSELF to get away from them.
3. My mom looks good for her age, and men flirt with her all the time. She doesn't have to be married to be happy.
4. The fact that he's leeched off of us for so long may make a transition to complete independence hard, but it's his own damn fault, not hers!
Do you see what I mean?
Any other points I should bring up, or sides of the argument I may be missing?
Would he really be entitled to half of everything?How to talk to my mom about getting a divorce?
Organize your thoughts, points, and your arguments in the form of a Letter to her.l Be articulate and clear. Ambiguity in your argument is problematic. Whether you use that letter as an outline for a discussion or you just send it to her via the mail is a judgement call which only you can make.
Tell her how the situation is distressing and/or harmful to you, herself, and/or others.
Tell her that you want to plan a day and time when you can discuss this with her.
Be aware that your mom may have issues which she has not communicated to you.
Some people find care-taking an empowering role. It can give them a sense of purpose.
What he is entitled to will vary depending upon what State/Province, or Country they live in.
What do i do in this situation?
When it comes to guys it seems like im always the one guys secretly want but never openly (would never show me off as a gf) In school i knew nothing but blatant rejection and teasing from guys calling me ugly and fat. I have never had a bf. Now i am in my early 30s and im finding a lot of married men flirt with me (again guys that could never openly be with me) not that they say ';i like you'; or anything but its more like the eye contact, staring, picking (in a good way this time).
The thing is i enjoy this attention i get, the bad side is i come to depend on it and almost feel its the ONLY attention i can get from a guy meaning i cant phantom a guy OPENLY/BLATANTLY saying he is interested in me. How do i change my thinkingWhat do i do in this situation?
You have to learn to move away from men like that and move into environments that have men that are available to be with you like that. You are putting yourself in that situation whether you realize it or not. Maybe it's just where you work, or hang out, but you need to find new avenues and environments where more ';single, available'; people are. And never look to the past to try to reason out your present. You should always look forward and try to be open to new experiences in order to make the future what you want it to be.What do i do in this situation?
You have to realize they are doing it out of insecurities. You also should try going to single mingles. There are a lot of places you can meet single pplCan humans catch giardia from dogs house call
The thing is i enjoy this attention i get, the bad side is i come to depend on it and almost feel its the ONLY attention i can get from a guy meaning i cant phantom a guy OPENLY/BLATANTLY saying he is interested in me. How do i change my thinkingWhat do i do in this situation?
You have to learn to move away from men like that and move into environments that have men that are available to be with you like that. You are putting yourself in that situation whether you realize it or not. Maybe it's just where you work, or hang out, but you need to find new avenues and environments where more ';single, available'; people are. And never look to the past to try to reason out your present. You should always look forward and try to be open to new experiences in order to make the future what you want it to be.What do i do in this situation?
You have to realize they are doing it out of insecurities. You also should try going to single mingles. There are a lot of places you can meet single ppl
How can I attract attractive men with my myspace page?
I am attractive, and not a very good flirt. I want some men in my life. What can I do with my MySpace layout to attract some good quality men?How can I attract attractive men with my myspace page?
Do you mean... perverted creeps? Because that's what you're getting with MySpace.How can I attract attractive men with my myspace page?
I don't think you can choose the kind of men you attract. When a woman is attractive. Then she is attractive to virtually all men.
The most attractive part of a woman for any man is her body. Show the guys some of your cleavage. And you will attract some guys.
And then it will be up to you to be selective and choose the right guy.
Ooh ooh, take your shirt off, take a picture of yourself with the camera looking down at your rack!
Uh if you are attractive, you don't need to go the myspace route. Nobody myspaces anymore except bots, pervs and music artists whose managers haven't told them that myspace is a piece of crap.
I'm assuming you mean you want men who will use you? I have yet to know a good guy who uses myspace as a outlet to find woman..If that's the case, just put up ';fck me'; looking pics. Not very hard to attract players..
put hott pics up and stuff. thats what i do. heres my link for an example
myspace.com/benjiNjenna14
hope that helps.
Never do it over the internet
aaaahahaha
......that's just screaming for a rapist
take my advice and jus forget abt that idea.....its seriously calling out for trouble....=D
Do you mean... perverted creeps? Because that's what you're getting with MySpace.How can I attract attractive men with my myspace page?
I don't think you can choose the kind of men you attract. When a woman is attractive. Then she is attractive to virtually all men.
The most attractive part of a woman for any man is her body. Show the guys some of your cleavage. And you will attract some guys.
And then it will be up to you to be selective and choose the right guy.
Ooh ooh, take your shirt off, take a picture of yourself with the camera looking down at your rack!
Uh if you are attractive, you don't need to go the myspace route. Nobody myspaces anymore except bots, pervs and music artists whose managers haven't told them that myspace is a piece of crap.
I'm assuming you mean you want men who will use you? I have yet to know a good guy who uses myspace as a outlet to find woman..If that's the case, just put up ';fck me'; looking pics. Not very hard to attract players..
put hott pics up and stuff. thats what i do. heres my link for an example
myspace.com/benjiNjenna14
hope that helps.
Never do it over the internet
aaaahahaha
......that's just screaming for a rapist
take my advice and jus forget abt that idea.....its seriously calling out for trouble....=D
Wondering if i should stay with my boyfriend or leave, he is so dis repectful to me?
every time my %26amp;i are out he has to check out every chick in the bar%26amp; leaves me sitting by myself for such a long time, then i find out he's talking to these women. don't you think that is disrepectful? can't he just talk to me and be with me his girlfriend. also found phone numbers so what should i do, even though he says he loves me. i'm so confused he's been doing this for a long time. should i start looking at other men %26amp;flirt with them? leave my b/f sitting by himself for a change or should i finnd a man who knows how to treat a women? i need advice now thank youWondering if i should stay with my boyfriend or leave, he is so dis repectful to me?
I say you leave him. You don't want to go and do the same thing to him. Move on. Theres plenty more fish in the sea.Wondering if i should stay with my boyfriend or leave, he is so dis repectful to me?
This is totally disrespectful. When you go out with your boyfriend he is supposed to pay attention to you not other women. Definitely move on from this relationship. He is not worth it. Good Luck!
if he loved u he wouldnt do this 2 u. i say either break up wit him or pull the same and c how he likes it. either break up or get even.
I didn't even have to read the whole, thing...the first sentence was enough. Yes, that's disrespectful!! Why would you let someone do that to you and make you feel this way? It's not right and I would say it's time work on your confidence level and move on.
Looking and flirting with other men isn't going to help anything...it isn't like this would change your boyfriend's behavior, or the fact that he has been disrespectful to you. Sure, he may get jealous but think about it...do you really think this will CHANGE anything? Probably not. And I think you already know that. I'll bet there are other things he does that you haven't mentioned here that are also signs of disrespect towards you.
So it is up to you on whether or not to stay with a guy who has no problem with disrespect toward you.
If you don't dump that prick..I will kick your *** LOL
do the same to him... Get a guy, kiss him in front of him and say: ';Err... sorry i met someone... can't be with you anymore. C' ya'; after that just dump the random guy you found...
Tell him how you feel about what he's doing, if he's not too thick to realize it by himself. Then if he still refuses to change, then leave him.
first play the same games with him. let him see how it feels. if he says anything tell him he better stop or he will be replaced. and if he doesn't stop, leave him.
I say you leave him. You don't want to go and do the same thing to him. Move on. Theres plenty more fish in the sea.Wondering if i should stay with my boyfriend or leave, he is so dis repectful to me?
This is totally disrespectful. When you go out with your boyfriend he is supposed to pay attention to you not other women. Definitely move on from this relationship. He is not worth it. Good Luck!
if he loved u he wouldnt do this 2 u. i say either break up wit him or pull the same and c how he likes it. either break up or get even.
I didn't even have to read the whole, thing...the first sentence was enough. Yes, that's disrespectful!! Why would you let someone do that to you and make you feel this way? It's not right and I would say it's time work on your confidence level and move on.
Looking and flirting with other men isn't going to help anything...it isn't like this would change your boyfriend's behavior, or the fact that he has been disrespectful to you. Sure, he may get jealous but think about it...do you really think this will CHANGE anything? Probably not. And I think you already know that. I'll bet there are other things he does that you haven't mentioned here that are also signs of disrespect towards you.
So it is up to you on whether or not to stay with a guy who has no problem with disrespect toward you.
If you don't dump that prick..I will kick your *** LOL
do the same to him... Get a guy, kiss him in front of him and say: ';Err... sorry i met someone... can't be with you anymore. C' ya'; after that just dump the random guy you found...
Tell him how you feel about what he's doing, if he's not too thick to realize it by himself. Then if he still refuses to change, then leave him.
first play the same games with him. let him see how it feels. if he says anything tell him he better stop or he will be replaced. and if he doesn't stop, leave him.
I dont know what to make of this........?
I had a doc's appointment this a.m. and needed x rays. Anyways, when the xray guy came in he commented to me.....'; You have gorgeous eyes.'; Well, I was a bit taken, and replied ';thnk you';.........he was very nice, we joked alot....had alot in commmon. He quickly began to tell me about how he and his wife moved to this area, and not soon after...she left him. He explained to me that they were married for 16yrs. (no kids) and that it was really upsetting to him. I asked why she left(kinda bold, I know) he stated ';she fell outta luv w/ me';.......now, I have been married for 14yrs. to the same man, and have not had much experience in how men flirt....when they are and what not. Please dont laugh!!!! I had alot in common w/ this guy. My husband was in the waiting room and after we came out he said...(my hubby) ';I could hear you guys laughing all the way out here!'; So, any input would be helpful. It was nice to talk to someone who I had alot in common with. Thnx everyone.I dont know what to make of this........?
it's normal and common to bond with someone you share alot of the interests.
but it sounds to me it is a bit more then that. it might not have been that this man was flirting, he might just have needed someone to talk to. but i have no idea why he would just spill everything out to someone, especially when he is working.
he did give you a compliment and they are great to hear.
are you having problems with your marriage? does you husband not give you the attention you feel you deserve? it could also be you don't really have anyone to talk to and it's nice to talk to someone.
you might just need to make a new friend or join a group. there is nothing wrong with what happened i just hope it did not spark thoughts in your mind to start wandering.
good luck and why not talk to your husband? even though you may not share some of the same interests, i bet he would love to hear you talk about them anyways!I dont know what to make of this........?
I think its a normal talk and you guys had fun thats it...
Cheers
it's normal and common to bond with someone you share alot of the interests.
but it sounds to me it is a bit more then that. it might not have been that this man was flirting, he might just have needed someone to talk to. but i have no idea why he would just spill everything out to someone, especially when he is working.
he did give you a compliment and they are great to hear.
are you having problems with your marriage? does you husband not give you the attention you feel you deserve? it could also be you don't really have anyone to talk to and it's nice to talk to someone.
you might just need to make a new friend or join a group. there is nothing wrong with what happened i just hope it did not spark thoughts in your mind to start wandering.
good luck and why not talk to your husband? even though you may not share some of the same interests, i bet he would love to hear you talk about them anyways!I dont know what to make of this........?
I think its a normal talk and you guys had fun thats it...
Cheers
Temptations of a 17 year old.?
My boyfriend is 17. In a couple of days we would have been together for 13 mths. He says he loves me n everything, but he is out of town right now, and last night he came to me with some bullshit. He was like ';this girl was flirting with me, she was all over me.'; In my mind I was thinking, young men flirt with me all the time, what's the big deal and why are you telling me about this. He then explains what happened and my only thought was did you one ever tell her you had a girlfriend. Well, he did tell her, but you know homewrecking hoes don't care. He starts telling me he doesnt know what to do and about TEMPTATION. I'm like WTF that's exactly why he doesnt ever get any, and i dont plan to give him any. i barely let him touch me. He is immature and childish. I love him bu t when it comes to stuff like that i dont know what to think. I wish this had come up sooner, maybe i wouldnt be where i am today. What should I do?? How should I respond??
PS. i'm 16;yes i aready told him off!Temptations of a 17 year old.?
lol you just yelled at a horny guy for being horny. instead of telling him why he needs to control himself because he is with you, you told him why he shouldn't be with you. I would break up with you this instant, and it's not even about the sex, it's about your inability to keep me interested in you because of your lack of compassion to the way I am feeling, feeling as in my hormones in overdrive.
EDIT: I'm an in shock people here are condoning your behavior. It's not always about you. Yes he needs to respect you, but he called you to and told you about these temptations for you to remind him why it is to be with you. You need to cool it, and be happy he called you. I know many other who would out right cheat in this situation. This is something you reward, not punish.Temptations of a 17 year old.?
Sounds to me he was trying to impress on you that other girls can be interested in him in an attempt to get you to be more receptive in the sexual area. Getting you a bit jealous,in his mind, may tempt you into doing something with him. He's being a jerk trying to be coy.
have a nice private chat with him and tell him to calm down his hormones. stop being so outrageously horny and relax. then once hes done with his puberty, since he obviously started very late, then maybe he'll truly love you.
Your 16 and you already spent over a year of your life with one person. Let me explain the concept of dating. You are supposed to date as many people as possible(notice i didn't say have sex) You have to figure out what you like in a person. I guarantee you will like something completely different in 5 years.
P.S. Don't sleep with him.
He is a boy and is immature, but he still wants to wag the dog, with or without you. Don't do anything to keep him. I'm just telling you the why.
Leave the relationship, it is unequal, find your own way to get what you want. Women generally are too dictated to by society to know what they want for themselves. Choose your own path in your own time.
Shay
You should tell him that it doesn't matter if she started flirting first... he flirted back... so it makes him just as guilty!!! what the f*** is wrong with f****** people in this f***** up world?!?!? I f****** swear to f****** everyone..... these f***** people need to get their f***** heads out of the f***** gutters!!!! Can you plz best answer me? Sry bout the f words!!!!:)
WoW! you have been together for a year and you guys have not done anything? Thats so good! I'm proud of you! But here is something that my guy friend told me.They said that if a guy is not getting from you, he will go and get from somebody else. I don't know what else to say.Some guys can be different, but he is telling you that so that if it happens, he can say that he told you. I don't know hun, if you don't want to do it, I would let him go cuz it seems like he really wants it.
i would say that u don't like him doing things like that and if he feels like he is doing nothing wrong he think if he really wants to be with you or not give him time to think about it and ask him for an answer later. if he says he can't stop then dumb him if not try to work it out good luck
tell him to get more mature, and stop being with hoes, or he isn't getting any, or you'll leave him
he should get the hint
key words: stop you little temptations or you wont be getting any of this.
Dump him, he doesn't love you. He does it to make you think you have the ';thing'; every girl wants. You need to move on, he doesn't care about you, he especially implied it with ';temptation';
Good luck, youll find someone who DOES truly care about you!
if he says he doesn't know to handle temptation, then he has already done something, if you are unhappy, leave him, you are still young and have more than enough time in your life to find someone else.
Well, seriously, just be yourself babe! (:
Love is unconditional and i believe that he should love you for who you are, not what you have.
It may be tough, but, the final decision lies with you.
%26amp;i think you did a GOOD job telling him off!
he's dumb. tell him to grow up and realize how lucky he is to have you, even if you don't ';give him any.'; if he can't see that, then leave him.
PS. i'm 16;yes i aready told him off!Temptations of a 17 year old.?
lol you just yelled at a horny guy for being horny. instead of telling him why he needs to control himself because he is with you, you told him why he shouldn't be with you. I would break up with you this instant, and it's not even about the sex, it's about your inability to keep me interested in you because of your lack of compassion to the way I am feeling, feeling as in my hormones in overdrive.
EDIT: I'm an in shock people here are condoning your behavior. It's not always about you. Yes he needs to respect you, but he called you to and told you about these temptations for you to remind him why it is to be with you. You need to cool it, and be happy he called you. I know many other who would out right cheat in this situation. This is something you reward, not punish.Temptations of a 17 year old.?
Sounds to me he was trying to impress on you that other girls can be interested in him in an attempt to get you to be more receptive in the sexual area. Getting you a bit jealous,in his mind, may tempt you into doing something with him. He's being a jerk trying to be coy.
have a nice private chat with him and tell him to calm down his hormones. stop being so outrageously horny and relax. then once hes done with his puberty, since he obviously started very late, then maybe he'll truly love you.
Your 16 and you already spent over a year of your life with one person. Let me explain the concept of dating. You are supposed to date as many people as possible(notice i didn't say have sex) You have to figure out what you like in a person. I guarantee you will like something completely different in 5 years.
P.S. Don't sleep with him.
He is a boy and is immature, but he still wants to wag the dog, with or without you. Don't do anything to keep him. I'm just telling you the why.
Leave the relationship, it is unequal, find your own way to get what you want. Women generally are too dictated to by society to know what they want for themselves. Choose your own path in your own time.
Shay
You should tell him that it doesn't matter if she started flirting first... he flirted back... so it makes him just as guilty!!! what the f*** is wrong with f****** people in this f***** up world?!?!? I f****** swear to f****** everyone..... these f***** people need to get their f***** heads out of the f***** gutters!!!! Can you plz best answer me? Sry bout the f words!!!!:)
WoW! you have been together for a year and you guys have not done anything? Thats so good! I'm proud of you! But here is something that my guy friend told me.They said that if a guy is not getting from you, he will go and get from somebody else. I don't know what else to say.Some guys can be different, but he is telling you that so that if it happens, he can say that he told you. I don't know hun, if you don't want to do it, I would let him go cuz it seems like he really wants it.
i would say that u don't like him doing things like that and if he feels like he is doing nothing wrong he think if he really wants to be with you or not give him time to think about it and ask him for an answer later. if he says he can't stop then dumb him if not try to work it out good luck
tell him to get more mature, and stop being with hoes, or he isn't getting any, or you'll leave him
he should get the hint
key words: stop you little temptations or you wont be getting any of this.
Dump him, he doesn't love you. He does it to make you think you have the ';thing'; every girl wants. You need to move on, he doesn't care about you, he especially implied it with ';temptation';
Good luck, youll find someone who DOES truly care about you!
if he says he doesn't know to handle temptation, then he has already done something, if you are unhappy, leave him, you are still young and have more than enough time in your life to find someone else.
Well, seriously, just be yourself babe! (:
Love is unconditional and i believe that he should love you for who you are, not what you have.
It may be tough, but, the final decision lies with you.
%26amp;i think you did a GOOD job telling him off!
he's dumb. tell him to grow up and realize how lucky he is to have you, even if you don't ';give him any.'; if he can't see that, then leave him.
Question about male ';cockteasers';?
They knows he can play with gay men (flirt etc) because they wouldn't be able to do this with his other male pals. They like the idea that you find them attractive but know they will never sleep with you and will remind you how hot the ladies are. Whats your opinion on them? Are they 100% straight?Question about male ';cockteasers';?
I've noticed some straight guys will do that too! If they see me checking them out, they will play along and smile at me or grab their crotch etc. I think they just like attention and think it's a compliment. I asked a question about that too. http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>Question about male ';cockteasers';?
Do they blink incessantly while eating oatmeal? Without this info. I cannot guess.
I actually like the ';cock-teasers'; they make me feel pretty good about myself, and if your smoother than they are, you beat them at their own game and leave their apartment walking funny.Can humans catch giardia from dogs house call
I've noticed some straight guys will do that too! If they see me checking them out, they will play along and smile at me or grab their crotch etc. I think they just like attention and think it's a compliment. I asked a question about that too. http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>Question about male ';cockteasers';?
Do they blink incessantly while eating oatmeal? Without this info. I cannot guess.
I actually like the ';cock-teasers'; they make me feel pretty good about myself, and if your smoother than they are, you beat them at their own game and leave their apartment walking funny.
What should I do about my friend?
Jus to give a background about our appearances and personalities. I am of Slavic descent, high cheekbones, very pale eyes and pitch black hair cut in what one would call the Cleopatra style. People constantly call me exotic and beautiful. My friend is the typical girl-next-door and she has big boobs - a DD cup. While people refer to me as 'exotic', they treat her like a pair of t*ts on legs. She is bright, quick, witty, great to have a conversation with, outgoing, the life of the party and an extrovert but nobody seems to look past her boobs - men and women alike. We are the same weight but people refer to her as 'hefty' and 'big' and 'fat' because of her boobs.
Going out with her is a terrible experience because all the men flirt with me whilst they leer down her shirt. I can see that it hurts her a lot because it's been happening to her all her life. It really grates me to her see her treated like that, and she has told me on a number of occasions that she would rather look like me.
What can I do to take the attention off me and transfer it to her? I'm not someone who is flirty and have often been called an ice queen which makes men even more determined to break past the ice, whereas she is desperately looking for someone who will look past her boobs to the wonderful person who is inside? How can I help her?
I wish I had this magic wand to make it all better.What should I do about my friend?
The fundamental paradox is that the larger the boobs, the smaller the brains of the men they attract.
';Anatomy is destiny.'; Sigmund Freud said that.
When I was in the hunt, if I tried for the more attractive girl in a duo, I ordinarily ended up with her friend. Usually the friend was more interesting and fun anyway, so that was fine with me.
I don't see how you can solve her problem, or why it is your responsibility.What should I do about my friend?
i know how your friend is feeling as i am usualy classed as the chubby brunett that hangs out with the skinny big boobed blonde. maybe if you dressed a little less than equal to your friend it might give her the confidence to make men look above the chest?
im not really sure cuz i dont personally no ur friend
Most gals would die for her kind of boobs! Ask her to ignore the leering ones. Be proud of herself and dress up classy
well mmm i think that u should try and be a good friend as much as possible and show them wat you are mad of .
can you im me, maybe we can talk about it
Possibly dress down? You that is,
The same thing happens to me. I am 14 and a DD cup. Guys only talk to me about my boobs and many of them try to feel them. They don't actually like me for who I am, just for my boobs. I have been trying to find out for AGES how to distract them, but I can think of nothing!
The only thing I could suggest is get your friend to wear clothes that don't show her boobs off!
Hope this helps xx :)
Going out with her is a terrible experience because all the men flirt with me whilst they leer down her shirt. I can see that it hurts her a lot because it's been happening to her all her life. It really grates me to her see her treated like that, and she has told me on a number of occasions that she would rather look like me.
What can I do to take the attention off me and transfer it to her? I'm not someone who is flirty and have often been called an ice queen which makes men even more determined to break past the ice, whereas she is desperately looking for someone who will look past her boobs to the wonderful person who is inside? How can I help her?
I wish I had this magic wand to make it all better.What should I do about my friend?
The fundamental paradox is that the larger the boobs, the smaller the brains of the men they attract.
';Anatomy is destiny.'; Sigmund Freud said that.
When I was in the hunt, if I tried for the more attractive girl in a duo, I ordinarily ended up with her friend. Usually the friend was more interesting and fun anyway, so that was fine with me.
I don't see how you can solve her problem, or why it is your responsibility.What should I do about my friend?
i know how your friend is feeling as i am usualy classed as the chubby brunett that hangs out with the skinny big boobed blonde. maybe if you dressed a little less than equal to your friend it might give her the confidence to make men look above the chest?
im not really sure cuz i dont personally no ur friend
Most gals would die for her kind of boobs! Ask her to ignore the leering ones. Be proud of herself and dress up classy
well mmm i think that u should try and be a good friend as much as possible and show them wat you are mad of .
can you im me, maybe we can talk about it
Possibly dress down? You that is,
The same thing happens to me. I am 14 and a DD cup. Guys only talk to me about my boobs and many of them try to feel them. They don't actually like me for who I am, just for my boobs. I have been trying to find out for AGES how to distract them, but I can think of nothing!
The only thing I could suggest is get your friend to wear clothes that don't show her boobs off!
Hope this helps xx :)
How can I trust him a second time? What do you think of all of this?
So this past year has been very rocky for my husband and I. I was at my husbands military christmas party and one of his lady co-workers seemed to be acting very strange. I felt funny about it. When we drove home I asked my husband about it. I also asked him how he felt about her. He casually said, ';he was close to her, No really close to her';. I about dropped my jaw at him saying that so openly. I talked to him about it and asked him what he meant and he said, ';we're just friends close friends from being in the same platoon together for so many years.'; I still didn't feel very good about it, So I got snoopy. (No Im not proud of it) But glad I did. I found in his e-mail that he left open on accident that he was e-mailing her and asking to have lunch with her at drill weekends. He was e-mailing her regularly. The e-mail did just seem friendly - not sexual or anything, but he would say maybe we can have lunch this weekend. Then I found he was also signed up for a Adult web site. Which REALLY HURT. I have always loved my husband and been faithful to him so this was a blow to me. Because I had already forgave him for cheating on me when we lived over seas in Italy. He went to school (in the military) and on his off time he would go to a bar and drink with another Navy guy and was sitting with two ladies which over the five weeks turned into dancing and kissing. I was so hurt the first time because I was pregnant at the time and far from all my family. Took a long time to get over but he promised it would NEVER EVER happen again. So to get back to the recent.....I am having a hard time dealing with all of this again. He swere's he did nothing with the lady from the military other than a dinner and talking at lunch and swere's most of the time other people from the platoon was there.
But then I found out he was flirting with ladies on Myspace, man things just kept getting worse. I was going crazy. I even found a saved phone number from an old girlfriend. He said they messaged each other on classmates and then later looked her number up and saved it in his work phone, but that he never used it. How do I trust him. He has given all his codes to me and swere's I am his only one. But I know Cheaters will lie till they go to their GRAVE. So I am always on my toes. We have been to counseling a few times, it did help, But I am still having a hard time.....He promised me the first time he cheated he would never be with a lady alone again, but then he went to dinner with her and lied to me about it, He says, He lied to me because he knew i'd be mad and there was nothing to the dinner, but friendship.
He gets very mad at me when I bring up his past, or when i tell him I don't trust him. He just doesn't get what he has destoried. We are very very close as a couple, (I know that sounds weird) But we are always holding hands, kissing and everyone tells us how cute we are as a couple and wish they could find a relationship like that. Yes our sex life is GREAT also. At least everyday and usually more than that. Yes we have four kids. Yes we have to be creative. We have been married 19 1/2 years now. But I just don't know what to think. Does he really love me, Why do men flirt with women ';IF THEY LOVE THERE WIFES SO MUCH'; I JUST DONT KNOW IF I CAN EVER TRUST HIM AGAIN. I LOVE HIM WITH ALL MY HEART. But I feel like things will never be the same again. We have a week or two that goes great and then all my frustrations come back from a flash back. How does one EVER REALLY know if someone is truely sorry????????? I wish I could really know if he love's me. I cry often, but he doesn't know it. I cry because I miss (the KNOWING my husband LOVED ME) It's a feeling I wish I could get back.
I haven't told anyone about all this (except the counselor) and I have to always acted like my marriage is great to our family etc. I don't want everyone to know what he has done. One its embarrasing for me and I don't want anyone to think badly of him. I know thats sounds stupid. But You gotta understand I LOVE HIM and I don't want him hurt in anyway. We have enough pain between us dealing with it than to involve others. Also another reason is our son went though Cancer for a year and We've had enough pain, so envolving others just would add to it. This is way I am sharing it here. I need to get it out. I know he doesn't want to loose ';US'; when I mentioned leaving him he feel apart crying begging me not to leave. But I am so confused. HELP!!!!!!! Does he LOVE ME??????How can I trust him a second time? What do you think of all of this?
It sounds like you don't have any problem with sharing your feelings. Have you talked with your husband about this with him in front of the counselor? What does the counselor think about your feelings about your husband cheating? Or your presumptions of him cheating?
19 years is a lot of time to let things like this go. I would suggest that you get some help and talk your feelings out first with a Godly counselor (because a worldly person might say that it is alright for your husband to feel this way), the world is getting stranger and stranger about marriage and relationships. We as a Nation should stand up to the things that are wrong and announce that we are not going to allow this into our homes and lives.
I will pray for your marriage and salvation in Jesus Christ. : )
Are you both Christians? I would seek God's answers for your lives. God has saved my marriage and now I answer to God directly and my wife gets the benefit of having a Godly man who leads his family with the Grace and Mercy God shows me to live.
I would read Romans and Corinthians. Start with Corinthians chapter seven and then move on to thirteen, then read Romans. God will direct your paths, so trust in Him. : )How can I trust him a second time? What do you think of all of this?
Divorce him. Tell him he had chances to prove he's trustworthy and he blew everyone of those chances.
To me, if it was just the woman on the email wanting to meet him for lunch, I wouldn't worry. It sounds like they are just good friends.
When you say he signed up for an adult site, do you mean a dating site or a porn site? If it's porn, just let it go. Nearly all men look at porn, and it's not a reflection on you. It doesn't mean he doesn't love you or doesn't find you attractive. Men (and some women) just like the visual stimulation sometimes.
If you're talking about an adult dating site, then that is a problem. To me, it would be counseling, or I am out of there. There's no reason to be on an adult dating site unless you are looking to cheat.
As for the myspace, it depends. Is he really flirting, or is he just friendly? Does he know these people, or is he seeking out random people on the internet?
If he's just friendly or talking to friends, I wouldn't worry. But if he's actively seeking out women on the internet, that's a cause for concern. And again, it would be counseling, or I'm out.
I can honestly tell you that this kind of behavior does not stop. You are reduced to the lowly status of a woman who is just hanging on to a cheating man, until further notice. And only HE can give you the further notice. And he won't. With 99% certainty. Faithful life is just too undramatic to ever go back to. There is no motivation for that. In fact, he'd even prefer the drama of a divorce than a faithful working marriage. Counseling is just yet another drama making him feel powerful. He'll feel some loss from the divorce, but he'll like the drama of it, and he'll welcome the following freedom.
First of all you should be proud you snooped. If you want to know something you got to do what you got to do to find out. Secondly, you NEED to tell your husband exactly how you feel about everything. Unless he gets your pain he cannot fix his actions because he stupidly is not realizing the consequences to his behavior. Talk to him. If your marriage has this great foundation he will get it. Good for you for being brave enough to snoop and confront him. Good luck!
I can't tell you whether or not he loves you because I'm not him. I would encourage you to return to couples therapy and let him hear some of the pain in your heart that you have shared here. I would also encourage you to continue in individual therapy because you need to love yourself MORE than you love your husband! You are in such obvious pain that I'm sure you are not hiding it as well as you think you are from your friends and family, so go back to couples therapy and remain in individual therapy, maybe step up your program or something. Right now you need a major source of support and some better coping mechanisms in place to help you sort through all of this. Good luck to you!
I would tell him he needs to stop the relationship or I am out. Because the past infidelity started kind of like this and grew into cheating so under the circumstances he shouldn't be emailing or having any types of sit downs with females. If he can't handle that and deal with it then his friendship must mean more than his marriage and that is unacceptable. Besides since when does a person who is '; just a friend '; with no other interest act funny around a spouse. Even if they are not sleeping together they have to forming some sort of bond.
No Need to worry the law and its system will completely help you it is the men who need to ask the question
If you suspect your spouse of cheating on you, you'll want to read this
I think you guys need to get rid of your computer, or get really slow internet which will loose interest quickly ( like dial up internet) to keep him away from any situations for him to cheat
I think I understand the feeling completely, you really sound like me so it is not peculiar to you. It's hard to say but men are naturally flirtatious in character, there is however, an exception to the rule. If you can, check on him less so you won't be more hurt. Tell him how much you hurt knowing that he does these things. Let me shock you, most men don't cheat their wives because they love them less, it's just in their nature, they probably don't think about their wives until the did is done and he is exposed, then they will now realise the consequences of their actions. Just pray. that's what I did, it may not work out immediately but it will at the long run. Good luck
Sorry but the vast majority of men cheat! That's the way of the world. I'm a single lady who aims to stay single as such i choose married men! Just because they're doing the same as me, having fun and they won't get all heavy on me and believe me there are loads of married men out there willing to play away and treat me like a princess! As for adult sites, if you mean porn so what? arn't all men interested in porn? What's the harm in that? Does he love you? i suspect you're comfortable to him. It's a roof over his head, meals cooked, clothes washed, family life. Will he cheat again? probably. But he's still coming home to you. You say you love him with all your heart so presumably, you've looked after yourself for him, still slim, still wear makeup, fancy undies and you're still willing to tease him and do nice things for him? If the answer to all that is yes then relax, he may have a fling but he'll probably stick around. If the answer is no, then maybe while you're addressing the issues about him you could take out some time to address those issues about yourself. If more WIVES remembered to stay LOVERS less men would have affairs. Good luck.
But then I found out he was flirting with ladies on Myspace, man things just kept getting worse. I was going crazy. I even found a saved phone number from an old girlfriend. He said they messaged each other on classmates and then later looked her number up and saved it in his work phone, but that he never used it. How do I trust him. He has given all his codes to me and swere's I am his only one. But I know Cheaters will lie till they go to their GRAVE. So I am always on my toes. We have been to counseling a few times, it did help, But I am still having a hard time.....He promised me the first time he cheated he would never be with a lady alone again, but then he went to dinner with her and lied to me about it, He says, He lied to me because he knew i'd be mad and there was nothing to the dinner, but friendship.
He gets very mad at me when I bring up his past, or when i tell him I don't trust him. He just doesn't get what he has destoried. We are very very close as a couple, (I know that sounds weird) But we are always holding hands, kissing and everyone tells us how cute we are as a couple and wish they could find a relationship like that. Yes our sex life is GREAT also. At least everyday and usually more than that. Yes we have four kids. Yes we have to be creative. We have been married 19 1/2 years now. But I just don't know what to think. Does he really love me, Why do men flirt with women ';IF THEY LOVE THERE WIFES SO MUCH'; I JUST DONT KNOW IF I CAN EVER TRUST HIM AGAIN. I LOVE HIM WITH ALL MY HEART. But I feel like things will never be the same again. We have a week or two that goes great and then all my frustrations come back from a flash back. How does one EVER REALLY know if someone is truely sorry????????? I wish I could really know if he love's me. I cry often, but he doesn't know it. I cry because I miss (the KNOWING my husband LOVED ME) It's a feeling I wish I could get back.
I haven't told anyone about all this (except the counselor) and I have to always acted like my marriage is great to our family etc. I don't want everyone to know what he has done. One its embarrasing for me and I don't want anyone to think badly of him. I know thats sounds stupid. But You gotta understand I LOVE HIM and I don't want him hurt in anyway. We have enough pain between us dealing with it than to involve others. Also another reason is our son went though Cancer for a year and We've had enough pain, so envolving others just would add to it. This is way I am sharing it here. I need to get it out. I know he doesn't want to loose ';US'; when I mentioned leaving him he feel apart crying begging me not to leave. But I am so confused. HELP!!!!!!! Does he LOVE ME??????How can I trust him a second time? What do you think of all of this?
It sounds like you don't have any problem with sharing your feelings. Have you talked with your husband about this with him in front of the counselor? What does the counselor think about your feelings about your husband cheating? Or your presumptions of him cheating?
19 years is a lot of time to let things like this go. I would suggest that you get some help and talk your feelings out first with a Godly counselor (because a worldly person might say that it is alright for your husband to feel this way), the world is getting stranger and stranger about marriage and relationships. We as a Nation should stand up to the things that are wrong and announce that we are not going to allow this into our homes and lives.
I will pray for your marriage and salvation in Jesus Christ. : )
Are you both Christians? I would seek God's answers for your lives. God has saved my marriage and now I answer to God directly and my wife gets the benefit of having a Godly man who leads his family with the Grace and Mercy God shows me to live.
I would read Romans and Corinthians. Start with Corinthians chapter seven and then move on to thirteen, then read Romans. God will direct your paths, so trust in Him. : )How can I trust him a second time? What do you think of all of this?
Divorce him. Tell him he had chances to prove he's trustworthy and he blew everyone of those chances.
To me, if it was just the woman on the email wanting to meet him for lunch, I wouldn't worry. It sounds like they are just good friends.
When you say he signed up for an adult site, do you mean a dating site or a porn site? If it's porn, just let it go. Nearly all men look at porn, and it's not a reflection on you. It doesn't mean he doesn't love you or doesn't find you attractive. Men (and some women) just like the visual stimulation sometimes.
If you're talking about an adult dating site, then that is a problem. To me, it would be counseling, or I am out of there. There's no reason to be on an adult dating site unless you are looking to cheat.
As for the myspace, it depends. Is he really flirting, or is he just friendly? Does he know these people, or is he seeking out random people on the internet?
If he's just friendly or talking to friends, I wouldn't worry. But if he's actively seeking out women on the internet, that's a cause for concern. And again, it would be counseling, or I'm out.
I can honestly tell you that this kind of behavior does not stop. You are reduced to the lowly status of a woman who is just hanging on to a cheating man, until further notice. And only HE can give you the further notice. And he won't. With 99% certainty. Faithful life is just too undramatic to ever go back to. There is no motivation for that. In fact, he'd even prefer the drama of a divorce than a faithful working marriage. Counseling is just yet another drama making him feel powerful. He'll feel some loss from the divorce, but he'll like the drama of it, and he'll welcome the following freedom.
First of all you should be proud you snooped. If you want to know something you got to do what you got to do to find out. Secondly, you NEED to tell your husband exactly how you feel about everything. Unless he gets your pain he cannot fix his actions because he stupidly is not realizing the consequences to his behavior. Talk to him. If your marriage has this great foundation he will get it. Good for you for being brave enough to snoop and confront him. Good luck!
I can't tell you whether or not he loves you because I'm not him. I would encourage you to return to couples therapy and let him hear some of the pain in your heart that you have shared here. I would also encourage you to continue in individual therapy because you need to love yourself MORE than you love your husband! You are in such obvious pain that I'm sure you are not hiding it as well as you think you are from your friends and family, so go back to couples therapy and remain in individual therapy, maybe step up your program or something. Right now you need a major source of support and some better coping mechanisms in place to help you sort through all of this. Good luck to you!
I would tell him he needs to stop the relationship or I am out. Because the past infidelity started kind of like this and grew into cheating so under the circumstances he shouldn't be emailing or having any types of sit downs with females. If he can't handle that and deal with it then his friendship must mean more than his marriage and that is unacceptable. Besides since when does a person who is '; just a friend '; with no other interest act funny around a spouse. Even if they are not sleeping together they have to forming some sort of bond.
No Need to worry the law and its system will completely help you it is the men who need to ask the question
If you suspect your spouse of cheating on you, you'll want to read this
I think you guys need to get rid of your computer, or get really slow internet which will loose interest quickly ( like dial up internet) to keep him away from any situations for him to cheat
I think I understand the feeling completely, you really sound like me so it is not peculiar to you. It's hard to say but men are naturally flirtatious in character, there is however, an exception to the rule. If you can, check on him less so you won't be more hurt. Tell him how much you hurt knowing that he does these things. Let me shock you, most men don't cheat their wives because they love them less, it's just in their nature, they probably don't think about their wives until the did is done and he is exposed, then they will now realise the consequences of their actions. Just pray. that's what I did, it may not work out immediately but it will at the long run. Good luck
Sorry but the vast majority of men cheat! That's the way of the world. I'm a single lady who aims to stay single as such i choose married men! Just because they're doing the same as me, having fun and they won't get all heavy on me and believe me there are loads of married men out there willing to play away and treat me like a princess! As for adult sites, if you mean porn so what? arn't all men interested in porn? What's the harm in that? Does he love you? i suspect you're comfortable to him. It's a roof over his head, meals cooked, clothes washed, family life. Will he cheat again? probably. But he's still coming home to you. You say you love him with all your heart so presumably, you've looked after yourself for him, still slim, still wear makeup, fancy undies and you're still willing to tease him and do nice things for him? If the answer to all that is yes then relax, he may have a fling but he'll probably stick around. If the answer is no, then maybe while you're addressing the issues about him you could take out some time to address those issues about yourself. If more WIVES remembered to stay LOVERS less men would have affairs. Good luck.
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