My husband thinks i flirt with other men even strangers. He says i am always trying to attract attention of me

I am not sure of this; atleast i know that i am not doing it purposely but lately i have been spending a lot of time alone for weeks at a stretch i dont step out of my house and have only my husband to talk to so when he said this i have my doubts that maybe i am doing it, or maybe i am losing my social manners and forgetting how to behave among people. I get excited when we go out for shopping. I am so happy to be among people that I will be confused and rush around without any reason. I am very happy with my marriage. I love my husband a lot and dont need anyone or anything more than him but if i am getting into this habit i want to stop it. What do i do? i have told this to my hubby hes suggesting meeting a psychatrist. I am not sureMy husband thinks i flirt with other men even strangers. He says i am always trying to attract attention of me
Don't know why hubby would want you to be cold and distant. Perhaps you are simply being open and friendly when you're out and about,and he's misinterpreted your great attitude as something other in his own little mind? Most people are naturally attracted to a great bubbly personality. Some flirting is natural as well. Doesn't always lead to sex or mean anything like it.I wouldn't change a friendly attitude because someone wants you to be like cold everyone else. mine gets her fair share of attention and it doesn't bother me in the least. It's HIS problem, not yours.My husband thinks i flirt with other men even strangers. He says i am always trying to attract attention of me
If you are not going out of your house, how could you possibly be flirting with other men? It sounds like your husband is feeling guilty about his own actions and portraying that guilt on to you. I think it may be a good idea to talk to a counselor about this. He sounds controlling also. Get some professional help including marriage counseling for both of you.
He thinks your crazy because you get happy amongst people? I get that flirting isn't good. My bf has told me that I flirt with guys too. i just assure him that's it's not even like that. I'm just the type of person who always smiles. But he has never told me I need to see a psychiatrist.. Maybe he's the crazy one? Just talk to him about it and tell him that it's not like that. What are you suppose to do. Walk around with your eyes closed?
You are a catch and your husband knows it. He fears losing you.





When your out flirt as much as you want in front of him as long as your on his arm. Play the fantasy with him make it fun. I like when my wife flirts knowing that ';other guys want her and I got her'; leaving them frustrated is fun to both of us. I even tease her about wanting to do them during foreplay.





Reassure him your not leaving him for an other
dont go to a psychatrist!!! its not ure mairge that makes one like dis it happens wen ure not use to stuff!!!like u said u din go out for a long time!!!!so wen u experience something after a long time or if its unsual or rare u get excited!!the solution is dont let it be rare go out for shopping often!! n da best fing is communication with ne1 u like!!!


besta luk!!!!!!!
Have your husband take you out more?!


Plan a weekly date night.


Go on a weekend getaway.


Go dancing. Take a weekend cruise.Take you shopping for lingerie.


It'll add spice to your relationship and get you out of the house?!
How about asking your husband to make a video tape when he thinks you are flirting.Watch the video with him and see for yourself whether you are actually flirting.Once we see ourselves committing a mistake we can correct ourselves.
Maybe it's because of your sexy dressing, your gestures and body language with other guys? Or because you like to hang ONLY your sexy bra and panty outside to attract attention from neighbours?
don't stay home , have a hubby and learn how to be around people not just your husband . socialize with people more. Just learn the boundaries between flirting and just talking .
Your breed is a funny one.





I guess telling you you should be more independent, do things on your own and enjoy more things other than just your husband is fruitless.





I hate your life.
people who donno how to love go to psyciatrist....u dont have to


just try to behave decently...at normal energy levels...dont control u r happy feelings but just focus those on u r hubby not anyone else...goodluck
you should see a therapist, and get your husband to take you out more often, besides he has to trust you.
iiam sory just apoligise to him en change
I think your husband is a very jealous man who is playing head games with you. He is man with very low self esteem, and is making these things up in his mind so you will stay at home all the time, right where he wants you. This way he has total control over you, and you will believe everything that he tells you, even if you know it is not true. I have been in this kind of relationship before, you must put a stop to it now, before it is too late. These kinds of accusations turn to abuse, mentally if not physically. Please be aware of the consequences and end his ridiculous talking right now before it goes too far.
My wife hasn't worked in 8 years since my our son was born. She wanted to stay home with him, but now she seems to regret it . She wants to find a job, but finds it hard to get the courage to ask for an application.





Just last night she was crying and said ';I have lost all of my social skills, I don't even know how to behave in public anymore';. She gets a little flirty sometimes and I DO believe its because of the lack of social interaction over the past few years.





Now I'm VERY jealous, but by the same token, I actually know that she doesn't sense what she's doing at the time. I choose to not make a big deal out of it because I KNOW the relationship that we share.





So, yes I think it's entirely possible that just being around people can be euphoric to someone who doesn't get out much, thus making you overly friendly.






Wow, this sounds familiar. I have a very flirty neighbor who is guilty of just what you are describing. She is beautiful, but very ';enthusiastic'; and obviously enjoys social intercourse (lol). She is alone with two young children for long periods of time, as her husband works long hours at his job. But I'm guilty as well. I do nothing to deflect or ignore the ';attention'; because I must say I enjoy the attention as well, which has not been happening in my relationship as of late (probably mostly my fault), so I flirt right back - usually. However, I can see that it has had a further negative effect on my relationship with my wife, and in your case I'd be betting that it is having an effect on yours even though you may not think so.





You may, or may not be doing it purposely, but that is not really the key issue. You say you are happy with your current situation (relationship), but there are probably other aspects of the relationship that needs work. Have you met others (men) without your husband consent (whether anything has happened or not)? I must admit that when my neighbor met me at an event alone without either of our spouses present that I thought her intentions were pretty clear (but somehow I resisted pursuing the issue). Also, is your conversations with others appropriate? Do they ever include suggestive comments or sexual connotation? I so, please, if you've even answered ';yes'; to any of theses questions, keep in mind that you are affecting others, not just your own situation. Having fantasies, sexual or otherwise, about friends is perfectly normal. I don't necessarily think you need a psychiatrist or other outside help, unless you've actually cheated on your spouse or met candidly with other men, because you're probably on your way to infidelity.





Try to remember when you're ready to bolt off to strike up a conversation with the tall dark neighbor dude working shirtless in the yard, or just make small talk with the hunky grocery store manager, how it may hurt your husband's feelings and how thoughtless it makes you appear. Or how it may affect others' relationships. My wife made it clear recently just how hurt she has become because of how chummy I had become with ';neighbor-wife';.





Thanks Sim, this has been therapeutic for me as well...





Good luck (and see you around the 'hood).